Maybe you could try an e-mail or a letter?  Normally, face-to-face would be best.  But if he's not giving you a chance, what other choice do you have?

I think you need to step back a little and let him have his space.  It's not your fault that he's acting like a jerk and you're not responsible for the way he acts - he is, so let him take the fall for it.  It may be that he's just feeling really frustrated and irritable as a result of you two going on a break, but he needs to tell you that if he wants it to end.

If he decides that he would rather work through his issues with you instead of walking away, then I'm very happy for the two of you.  If he decides he's done then nothing you can do will change how he feels.  With time, he may come to miss you more than he thinks he will.

Good luck.

If he won't talk or listen to you, do what @yourkbear@xanga said.  Write him a letter or an e-mail.  You can express yourself clearer and a better way in an e-mail or letter.  If he don't want to deal with that either, just give him some time and space to deal with the situation.  He may be acting up as a result of his decision on ya'lls relationship status but you are not responsible for his actions; he is.  He chose to act that way and he chose the decision for ya'lls relationship.  

Wow I'm sorry dear. This is a tough situation. Possibly try as the other's suggested and write him a letter. Talk to his sister maybe she can get the scoop or have a heart to heart with him.

I hope everything works out.

I agree with the letter/e-mail idea. That gives you enough time to think about what your going to say so he doesn't take it the wrong way.

The only thing you can do at this point is explain yourself &your feelings. If he doesn't accept that, then its best to move on. (I hate saying that to people. I know how hard it is, but its the only option.) If he's not going to give you the time, dont give him the time. One letter. Thats it.

ouch... i bet it's hard seeing him change so drastically. maybe he just needs time to cool off and get his act together.

I think he's being aggressive because he's frustrated with your deadlocked relationship. Talking to him gently and explaining how you feel in a very polite way might make him see that you still want to be with him and maybe he will not be so pent-up with rage.

@Neclon@xanga - i agree with you. dont let it go until you've done all you can and fought thru...ppl are stubborn but sometimes all they want to know is that u care about them unconditionally.

sounds like something i'd do... haha

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Honestly, you simply don't have the power to have "changed" him into anything. People do what they want to do, and they don't do what they don't want to do. HIS current attitude is not, has not been, and will never be dictated/controlled by you, or anyone else. People choose how to respond to things, and change THEMSELVES accordingly.

And believe me, I know you've probably pondered about how the break up could possibly be ALL your fault because you "made" him mad or something of the sort, but again, nobody can MAKE anybody feel anything. HIS temperment and the way HE decided to handle his emotions in a situation were all him. Not you.

If he needs some space, then the only possible thing you can do is give it to him. You can't convince or talk him into wanting to work on the relationship if the willingness just isn't there. And even if you may have felt that the relationship was completely stable before 6 weeks ago, then why would a mere 6 weeks out of the 3 years you were together completely destroy the entire relationship? Just the fact that one or both of you have felt that taking a break was the best option shows that the cracks were already there. And if he's going to run away and treat the relationship as if it's disposable after 6 weeks of hardship, then that shows his true colors... Which isn't a very good foreshadowing of what will happen if more serious arguments ensue (and they always do).

Don't get me wrong, there ARE couples out there who have tried again and succeeded, but they REALLY had to put their all into it. And if your boyfriend isn't willing, there's absolutely nothing that you can do to change that. HE has to want to change for HIMSELF. Just like he can't force YOU to meet him halfway if you weren't willing.

as sad as it is and as hurtful as it might sound, sometimes sorry isnt enough. you broke that poor man and now you've pushed him away further than one can come back from. fortunately, this doesn't prevent you from moving on and finding someone else, but sadly, he isn't going to come back to you nor let you go back to him. at this point in time, i would seriously discourage you from trying to "confront" him about this problems. people who suggest a confrontation is necessary during heightened emotional periods are asking for trouble or dont have experience interacting with other humans. if hes that angry at you and at the world, he isnt going to be open to understanding your side of the story. any confrontation is only going to push him away more and leave your relationship in a place that will forever be a scar to him and you. i say you sit back. if hes willing to work things out, he'll tell you. until then, just give him space.

It may seem amateur but maybe you should email him some or most.. or all... of what you need/want to say to him. I mean think about it, who can resist opening an email when it is coming from someone you care about when there's a rough spot at the moment, and I'm more than sure that he still cares for you as you do for him. So just try an email... it doesn't even have to say too much. Whatever and however much you feel should be said, to get his attention to talk to you in person, say it in the email.