Miss OstrichI live on the "gender blind" floor at my college. It's the one floor in all the dorms on campus that allows boys and girls to live together in the same room. Some people are dating, one couple is married, and some are just good friends who decided they want to room together. My roommate Adam and I fall into the latter category. I've never been lucky with the girls I've been randomly assigned to live with; I figured trying it out with a boy couldn't be much worse, and it's turned into the best rooming situation I could hope for. There's no sexual tension (we're both in serious, committed relationships), I have a walk-in closet that I do all my changing in, he cleans, he shuts off his video games when I want to go to bed, and we both understand and abide by the
unspoken rule. It's a great set-up.
Unfortunately, when I tell people I'm rooming with a guy, there's the automatic assumption that we're dating/sleeping together, which isn't true.
Our parents were against it because they were sure he was going to trying to start trouble in the middle of the night, and my friends just couldn't get the concept of Adam and I being JUST FRIENDS through their heads. After my parents met Adam and my friends saw us interacting together, any concerns were thrown away.
Still, others who don't know us well always ask if we're together. Is it really that hard to believe people who are different genders living together can just be friends?!
What do you think? Can boys and girls live together without having to be sleeping together?
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It's possible, but anything can happen between opposite sex. You're lucky to have a good male roommate.
No.
Ever see When Harry Met Sally?
"Men and women can't be friends."
However, I understand your plight. It's just one of those things. You are so comfortable with that person, there must be something going on...just how people work.
I have to admit, sometimes when it happens and they are two single people, I assume that at some point something might, if hasnt already occured. But if you two already had SOs, then shame on your friends for not trusting and knowing you better!
It is possible. Not always, but it can work, especially with guys like your current roomie.
Definitely. I have many guy friends; many more than girl friends, actually. I could totally room with one of my guy friends an it would be great. :)
They definitely can. There's only really one girl friend of mine I know I could stand to live with... the rest of the friends would have to be guys because I KNOW we're just friends. They get me better than girls sometimes, and they're more polite about cleaning and money and stuff. Why not?
Well, in movies half of the time (more than half, really) if two people are rooming together, they end up getting together. It seems to just be an unspoken rule that if you live with someone, there's got to be something going on.
I think people of the opposite (or same, depending on what turns you on) sex can be roommates, but for many people it'd be difficult.
i think it's possible. i currently live with two guys. and we've never had any problems. i actually like living with male roommates. there are no cattiness in the house. hahaha
This kind of reminds me of Three's Company and Jack Tripper's roommate situation, haha :)
It's possible I guess. If my roommate was a guy, I would prefer to have separate rooms.
possible but not probable
Of course boys and girls can live together without sleeping together. You're living proof of that. But it's rare, so most people don't believe that it can be a completely platonic relationship.
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Males and females can absolutely live together without sleeping together. Not all males and females (in fact, probably the minority) but it's certainly possible. Depends on temperament and personality and personal values. Beyond the fact that you two are both committed to other people, you've "friend zoned" each other. I'm sure half the people commenting here saying it's not possible to room together without having sex also believe that it is nearly impossible to become someone's lover once you've been "friend zoned". Seems a little inconsistent, no?
something will happen...
of course!Â
i mean...lol...
it's natural sometimes..
@BranmacFeabhail@xanga - Haha I was just thinking about that movie as well.
I think they can, but it didn't work for me. That's an interesting situation you have. Thanks for sharing.
well i think its possible but not my thing. with that i mean if i wasn't in a relationship with him i dont think i want to live with him. :p
but its good to see that there are guys who doesnt only have sexual intentions with living with girls nowadays! :)
So which one of you is gay again?
Yes they can. It's no more especially true if you're just friends or complete strangers, either.
People are people. I get tired of folks' getting hung up over gender.
They assume you are sleeping together because our culture has lost it's sense on what great friendships men and women can have together and it NOT be based on sex, but on real respect, admiration, and emotional intimacy that is not physical. All the sadder for them. Good for you that you can have this kind of friendship.
Both of you are in serious relationships? Neither your or his SO cares? Hmm, i think its weird. I wouldnt feel comfortable being in a relationship with a guy who shares a room with an opposite sex, even if they are friends...ACTUALLY...especially if they are friends. Who knows? Its very likely you may fall for eachother since both of you get along so well...
Negative.