Couple AThey "love" each other. They live together for two years. For whatever reason, the living arrangement does not work. They move back into their own separate apartments, but they continue dating each other without any plans to ever move back in with each other...seven years pass and she has resigned to the fact that she will never marry or have kids.
Couple BThey "love" each other, but they never tell each other that. He has told her he loved her once during their first year of dating to stifle a breakup but has never repeated the word ever again. She has never said the word - not once. It does not bother him one bit. Five years pass and the L word is not exchanged once.
Couple CThey "love" each other. But he fronts like he doesn't love her at all to his friends, both male and, especially female, and that he was somehow trapped into the marriage. She is completely oblivious to this.
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its a fight between couple C and A
They all seem like pretty tough situations, and I wouldn't want to me in any of them! I'm not sure there's a spectrum of "worst" and "best" situation here... they all suck equally!
Hypothetical questions are never really hypothetical, are they? And all of the situations are tough. It depends on how the couples feel about their situations, and how they handle them. I feel the worst for the woman in C. And what's with the quotation marks around "love"?
Couple B i guess...although I find it hard to believe that a women would let that go on for long...unless she's idk settling...
I would say Couple C. The guy is a jerk.
I feel bad for them all.
I'd say couple A since everything is still going okay, however, the future doesn't look too great and so much time has passed that maybe it'll be harder to get over? I don't know haha
They're all depressing and represent unhealthy relationship scenarios. Although the first on the surface seemed the worst to me i guess some people can and do live together forever without getting married (Johnny Depp and girlfriend, Oprah, etc. being big-name examples), and some people get married but don't live together (yes, i've heard of it). Sometimes people really know what won't work for them and there's no reason you can't be in love and not live together. However since "resigned" indicates the woman WANTS kids and a marriage, it's not a healthy/happy relationship.
The other two are like, 7th grade shit.
If any of these situations was to happen to me, I'd rather it wasn't the situation in which couple C is.
so I guess I'll say Couple C.
All of those situations are bad I think. If I HAD to choose one to be in myself, I would choose A. Simply because even though we couldn't live together, I would still have someone I guess...
I don't know. That's hard!
Wait... TOUGHEST!!!
C!!!! definately C for me...
Couple C. Obliviousness ≠ healthy or happy relationship.
Ignorance isn't bliss and at least in the other two they are both aware of the circumstances.
Couple C >.<
C, but only because they ended up getting married.
With C, the woman is oblivious to the SO's unhappiness..with A, the man is in that position...ignorance is bliss? I think not!
With B, instead of dealing with issues they shirk around it and never communicate or express themselves. Over such long periods of time, too!
In all of these situations, I would probably just say to cut out--they all need to adjust or end, and obviously if so much time has passed, adjusting is not probable.
C
I vote Couple C because there isn't a whole lot of honesty if she's oblivious to what he's doing. With Couple A and B, it sounds like there is at least some mutual understanding about their current status.
If the woman in scenario C finds out, I think she'd suffer a little more than the couple in scenario A. But if she's oblivious to it, and the man lives his happy, "lying" life, then maybe things are okay for the time being. However, the woman in scenario A sounds like she's suffering the most, having nowhere to progress but stuck in the relationship. But there isn't enough information on all of the relationships to really judge, so...none of the above.
I would say C would be the worst. My brother goes around telling people that he never meant to propose to his wife, but he wanted to give her a ring for Valentine's Day, and she took it the wrong way. That is ridiculous. If I gave someone a gift and they took it as a proposal of marriage, and I didn't want to marry them, I'd sure as hell tell them they were confused. Marrying someone I don't want to marry? Eff that. But he honestly does love her, and did want to marry her. He just wanted to make it seem like it wasn't his fault when our entire family started yelling at him for proposing to a girl he had only known for 3 months.
Perhaps couple A... or probably couple C.... this is tough.
Sounds like they're all in need of a wake-up call.
C.
From my own perspective, I think B would be worst, followed by C and then A. But from an outsider's perspective, I think C is the worst- because it shows what's really going on, and humiliating the girl. Though I think that happens a whole lot more than we'd like to think.
A isn't really all that bad. In fact, I wouldn't mind it so long as my significant other felt the same way. At least you know you've found an agreeable and comfortable situation, you get some perks (like having your own place and not having to deal with conflicting lifestyles), and I don't want kids anyway, so marriage isn't personally a huge priority for me.
they don't even sound like they are in a relationship
C is hands down the worst.
A is pretty bad.
B isn't that bad.