Or... maybe he didn't have the money at all? Maybe he wasn't being a jerk?

Don't jump to conclusions so quickly. Find out EVERYTHING first. Does he have a job like yours? How's his pay? How often does he get paid? What are his expenses?

Don't be quick to point fingers without enough knowledge.

He's a cheapo haha.  You seem to be happy with him otherwise though.  Still, he really should make it up to you, since making you pay on the first date (at a restaurant of his choice no less) is kinda a social faux pas.  Even when I was strep for cash I still made sure to take care of the bill, especially on a first date.

rude cheap and stupid.....seriously if you are in the same position thats even worse, if you are the one paying YOU make the rules! hahah don't let him suggest these places and then make you pay - thats rediculous

and if he's giving u a look everytime the bill comes forget him - do you really wanna spend all the money you worked hard for during school on a guy that can't even pay for himself everytime let alone the both of you?

and no you aren't stupid - damn emotions get in the way of things!!

Ha, I'm in a situation like this right now.  -_-

Well, I think it's wrong to state that the males should always pay for the females. It shouldn't be expected of them.

HOWEVER, you are completely right in that it's wrong for you to be stuck with the bill more than once. Splitting the bill is right, but to be going out with someone (and not for long, either) who winds up giving you the bill frequently? That's a big no-no.

My suggestion is to always split the bill from now on. And if he has no cash, tell him to charge it on his card. In this day and age, this is a reasonable request. Also, this may even be a good way to test out whether or not he's a keeper.

As my mother always reminded me, "Be generous, but not a doormat. Be thrifty, but not cheap" and the example she always used was from The Joy Luck Club, when one of the daughters (Waverly) got married to a guy who would itemize everything they bought (including a small bucket of ice cream) just so they could pay half for every little thing.

It's kind of obvious Money > Love.  Just look at all the jackals commenting on how if he can't pay, he shouldn't try to play.  I thought "quality" girls didn't care about that kind of thing?  Another example of chicks saying one thing and wanting the opposite.

wow what a loser. he obviously does not know how to take a girl out... that kind of stuff really does piss me off. I would def. be straight-forward about it and let him know that him not paying gets to you... but I guess you don't pay with your own money every time... right? You split sometimes? Either way... this guy needs to at least pay for you and him every once in a while. I'm not saying every time you two go out... but a guy SHOULD KNOW that he has to pay more than the girl he takes out... that's just common manners. I say ditch the loser lol.

...yeah...this really smells fishy (and it's not salmon).  why couldn't he have asked you to do something that didn't cost much (or cost anything), if he has no money?  tsk.  poor taste.  not much class, making the girl pay... *sigh* 

He was rude, cheap, and brilliant (in the sense that it takes some intelligence to manipulate people and he did do that).  He should not have asked you out if he couldn't afford to pay for at least himself, if not the both of you.  I don't agree that the guy should always pay, but it is a common courtesy, especially recently, to have a "S/he who asks, pays" attitude.  If he had no money and expected you to pay, he should have been up front about it.  You, however, are not stupid.  It's impossible to see what the future holds; his inability to pay on date #1 doesn't necessarily make him cheap.  It's the fact that he has yet to treat you to anything or even pay you back that makes him cheap.  And expecting you to constantly dish out money is rude.  (But not any more rude than a woman who expects her man to dish out money.  To be fair.)

@Schristian@xanga - "Maybe he didn't have the money at all? Maybe he wasn't being a jerk?  Don't jump to conclusions so quickly."  She has every right to jump to conclusions.  If he couldn't pay for the restaurant he asked her to, he should not have asked her there.  Period. 

@Eternal_Nocturne@xanga - "Honestly, you're reading too far into something. If he had money at the time and forced it on you, then he was being cheap (a LITTLE rude). Stupid does not factor into this at all."

No.  He was being cheap and rude in this case.  He asked her on the date, he chose the restaurant, and then, at the time of the bill, he just looked at her "with a sheepish expression on his face."  If he had no money, he could have explained it to her.  But no, he just shied away from paying, which was (arguably) his responsibility as the asker.  He should have at least paid for himself.  I don't think he necessarily had to pay for her, but he should have at least had enough money to cover his own costs. His shying away proves he was pretty aware of what he was doing.  And I find that rude.

"There are way too many possibilities to take in. Maybe he doesn't have a job that can pay that well. Maybe he was flat out busted. Maybe something came up last minute and he ran out of money before the date." 

Again, if he didn't have money, he could have been honest about it, or let her decide the restaurant, etc.  Honesty does wonders.  It should not be her responsibility to push and probe as to why she is constantly paying.  His instance on using her money is both cheap and rude.  Period.

I think if a guy ask you out on the first date, he should pay.  If he don't have any money, the least he could do was explain to you and split the bill.  Or pay you back if you paid for the whole tab. 

On the next couple of dates, it depends.  He can pay.  You can pay.  Or go dutch.

But if you "offer" to pay for the whole date, well, that's entirely up to you.

Yeah that was really  rude and  cheap of him.  Whoever asks  should  do  the  paying  although  a  lot  of  women  don't  think  so  and  expects  the  man  to  pay  all  the  time.@coolmonkey@xanga - All  women love guys  with money you would have to be a complete jerk for a woman not to like you if you are rich. If you ask any woman what her dream guy is like there is always some mention of his financial position.

CHEAPPPPPPPPPPPPPP.

I mean, shit. at least make it up ! don't pay for everything.

wowowowoowowwwwo.

it reminds me of the time when this guy wouldn't even pay a FOUR DOLLAR MEAL..for my friend because she left her wallet in the car.

and he took her out on a date.

and he paid his part with a fucking credit card. WOW

@xthread@xanga - I completely agree with  you the guy is really cheap but what puzzles me is that guys who pay all the time  usually have no problem with their dates paying nothing but  women become furious  when the guy doesn't pay at all its as if he killed his mother. A girl actually told me that if a guy asks out a girl he must pay the full cost but if girl asks a guy out the bill should be shared. I  told her if the girl asks the guy out she should pay the full cost and she looked at me with a disgusting look as if I had cursed.