Saturday, 14 March 2009
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Communication Is Key
when you’re in a relationship, and you choose not to communicate with your partner, they’re left with no choice but to guess. they guess out of concern. they guess out of love. when they guess wrong, you have only yourself to blame.my condo’s front desk tends to say, in times of emergency, “avoid calling the front desk. the lines of communication must remain open”. in other words, “don’t bother us unless you have something important to say. the fire alarm is just as loud down here as it is upstairs”.
along the same line of reasoning, one should avoid tendencies that make communication difficult, either consciously or sub-consciously. be supportive while remaining honest.
take a few moments and think about the important people in your life. they deserve as much.
do you keep them guessing by withholding information or even lying on a consistent basis? do you justify it by thinking that you know what’s best for the both of you? can you say that, and still testify that your relationships have respect as part of its foundation?
do you make it difficult for others to open up to you? are you receptive and do you really listen? do you offer your experience without sounding like you want the conversation to end as soon as possible?
i’ve posed these questions to myself lately, and i found myself lacking.
in the end, it’s not about one emergency or one fight. it’s about the bigger picture. it’s about attitude.
communication is key. communication is key. we hear it all the time.
question is: have you been listening?
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i am a communication student myself, so is my SO and
' communication is key' is something we hear everyday and we try to put it into actions, but somethings are really hard to say it out and sometimes you just want your partner to guess. * rolls eyes *
I need my ex-boyfriend to read this. Maybe then he'll understand why I wanted to talk to him when he was on the other side of the country.
It really is.
esp in LDRS
@immaairheadxl@xanga - agreed.
I feel LDRS dont work for me BECAUSE of lack of communication. Phone and e-mails dont cut it. i need face-to-face communication. body language and such.
I listen well, but I don't speak well. I can happily listen to what others say and understand, comprehend, etc. But when it comes to me telling them how I feel sometimes? It's not as easy.
It's easier to listen than it is to talk, in many cases.
I agree though; communication definitely is key. How can anybody know what you want and need if you don't tell them? How can they do what you want and need unless they listen?
I can communicate, but all I get is no response. So it feels as if I'm a nuisance.
"communication is key" only applies to peaceful time. I suppose. not everyone see fighting is a way of communicating and understanding each other. when we fight, we are fired up and get all the emotions on, who else remember "communication is key"? it really makes a difference when "communication is key" make into habbit.
@Phwo0osh@xanga - face-to-face communication and body language tells all. i agree.
i totally agree that "communcation is key" LOL i always say that to my friends who have relationship problems..
i believe thats also why my BF and i are still going strong even though he's on the other side of the world..its hard but wen he has the time to text, aim, or call me..i get so happy...^________^
but sometimes..u need to start good communication when u first start a relationship that way farther down the road..things will get easier..and u wont be assuming things right off the bat..which also can cause some fights..
definitely but not sides must have strong fundamentals to begin with if not it will just be a round robin game back and forth and much ado about nothing then compromise can set in.
Within 5 minutes of meeting someone, I usually know exactly what's going on In their lives and how they feel about It. I'm a horrible listener when I have to listen to the same thing over and over again.
I totally agree with this and i know for a fact that my boyfriend would agree with this too if were too read this.
U know wat? Just a few lines of this blog has really opened my eyes...i am seriously lacking....
Leaving her guessing, yeah i guess its my fault, lol
cheers, i got some major sorting out to do.
@immaairheadxl@xanga - I think people in successful LDRs are the best communicators because they realize how important it is.
Also,
I'm really sad that this has to be said at all. Since when should
humans need a reminder to communicate with each other?! If you really
hear this maxim everywhere, then it shouldn't need to be explicitly
stated. Don't be shocked that communication is key and don't pretend
that you can get by without it. When it comes down to it, communicating
makes bad relationships less painful, good relationships stronger, and
stops bad relationships from ever starting!
If you don't make a good effort, you don't have much of a reason to complain.
@irishgrrl690@xanga - seriously! right..
webcam helps in LDR's too :) yeah?!?!
and little videos...
@immaairheadxl@xanga - EVERYTHING helps! I like writing letters, but me and my SO text message constantly. If I'm online, I'm talking to him and we even blog together (he's got a xanga too so we double-team posts all the time). People who aren't willing to communicate will lose touch in those situations and in losing touch, lose the relationship.
People who are more willing to communicate are more likely to succeed/survive LDRs!
@irishgrrl690@xanga - i will fail. lol.
Communication is important, and so is face to face communication. The lack of face to face communication with my first so-called boyfriend made me stop talking to him (we never met in person bc we met online...), and then i did meet someone in person that I had met online, that turned out badly, and now I am dating someone I've actually known since I was really young. Unfortunately, he and I have to deal with a partially LDRS because we go to school in different states but we still get to see each other in person quite a bit, which is amazing!