Thursday, 12 March 2009
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Nice Guys Finish Last and "You're Like My Best Friend"
Ladies, the last three girls I've liked have all told me, "You're like my best friend!" *cry*They all have boyfriends; two of them have broken up and gotten new ones, and all the guys they choose are mean and put the girls down - one was even abusive.
I consider myself to be a nice guy. I helped them through it and went on a few dates with them. I'm fairly attractive, 6'1" eyes that change color and with a swimmer's body...
Girls, why do nice guys always finish last?
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You're so silly. Don't worry about it. You'll find a great girl in the end!
I love nice guys. But maybe try not being as nice (but not mean!) and maybe they will notice you and pursue you. (;
The eternal dilemma. If someone figured that one out, they'd be a very, very rich man.
Carry on being yourself and you'll get your diamond :)
Good luck!
Aww, you're silly.
You'll get someone that actually deserves you, my friend. I'd say don't think it through too much.
Lolololololol because they're losers lolololol!
Well, from my experience, guys who are too nice (being a shoulder to cry on and being available whenever she calls you) always finish last.
Personally, I wouldn't date guys I was best friends with. If I've confided in him about my past relationships, he's been friend-zoned. It's important to know when this happens. If she's always calling you for advice and you always come to her rescue..you are most likely never going to see her sexy parts. To prevent this, never get too close and once she begins to complain about her asshole of a boyfriend, tell her you have better things to do. There are plenty of girls out there..and the ones who like you will usually never mention their exboyfriends/current boyfriends. But I would try to aim for the unattached ones.
Be PROUD you finish last. When you start having copious amounts of sex(which you will Mr. Swimmer), finishing last is IMPORTANT.
And when the girl who's your best friend says you're HER best friend, take it to the next level.
Send me a picture of you and maybe I can tell you why. Haha. I'm jk!
On a serious note, maybe you've been "friend zoned" even before you know it. And being there for them when they need a shoulder to cry on, well, "that's what friends are for," when you are friend zoned.
Don't worry too much about it.
You either been friend zoned or you're not their type to begin with.
You'll definitely find someone who will like you more than a best friend and not just a best friend.
Well, to me, it's more like because nice guys sometimes are a bit too shy, and instead of showing affection, they show great friendships. To me, it's all about the first couple times we hang out, as soon as you start being friendly, and just like one of my girl friends, and not showing any feelings (say I do have feelings for him) that's it. It's going to the "good friends" category.
@godofthelost@xanga - ROFL. True! XP
They probably want to get their kicks, before they get ready to settle down for serious. It's like Whoopi Goldberg said in Boys on the Side: "Let's all be honest: You love the sex."
Don't worry, nice girls finish last too....you'll find someone - just be patient
ACT LIKE YOU'RE TOO GOOD FOR THEM!!
you are prob listening to them mope about their boyfriends to get an idea of what they like from a guy and get to know them, but who wants to hear about someone's other lover when you like them.
tell them to fuck the others guys off, they are losers.
i have a friend in agony over doing exactly the same thing. shoulder to cry on to a girl who likes the bad boys. she is vacuous and doesn't know what she wants.
but then again, if everyone plays hard to get, who's going to get anywhere?
i usually don't talk about an ex or guy i like to a new boy i am interested in. maybe it's a clue to not bother with them.
good luck.
Cuz we are nice. Us nice guys are always just the freind or a shoulder to cry on after they brake up with someone. We don't win; we lose "You lose, you get nothing" =/
This reminds me of this:
"Steady, reliable, and cradling her tenderly. Take a deep breath, and let it out real easy...you are The Slow Dancer
Your focus is love, not sex, and for your age, you have average experience. But you're a great, thoughtful guy, and your love life improves every year. There's also a powerful elimination process working in your favor: most Playboy types get stuck raising unwanted kids before you even begin settling down. The women left over will be hot and yours. Your ideal woman is someone intimate, intelligent, and very supportive.
While you're not exactly the life of the party, you do thrive in small groups of smart people. Your circle of friends is extra tight and it's HIGHLY likely they're just like you. You appreciate symmetry in relationships."
Emphasis on the "The women left over will be hot and yours." part. This dating persona on the Internet is my last ray of hope. Haha.
Girls who chase after abusive asshats and resist stable, supportive relationships are functionally retarded. I think that even considering a relationship with one of them puts you in a category you probably don't want to be in.
Nice guys tend to be too nice and friendly. Nice guys don't finish last. Nice guys that don't know how to flirt finish last.
Sorry, but it's true. Try to be more flirty.
according to my boyfriend, the nice guy is the last guy. the one. that's why they finish last. =D
fully agree, our time comes. Too bad it's not till we are in our last year of college, or mid-late 20s
I don't think nice guys finish last.
Here's why. Nice guys are usually not confident enough. They don't make the move they need to make. Even guys who have been "friend zoned" can sometimes get the girl. It happens all the time. Ask her out, go for the kiss, whatever. If she rejects you, then guess what. She's just not that into you (they should make that movie by the way). For whatever reason.
Assholes make the move. And they know how to make the girl feel good at first. And how to make the girl dependent on them. Girls, take note. If a guy seems too good at his game, too good to be true, he probably is. He's probably practiced over and over. Go for the guy who fumbles over his words to ask you out. Says something stupid or simple. He hasn't practiced. So you know he really wants you.
To all the ladies before and after me posting this saying they'd take a nice guy, I say, BS! You never take the nice guy. You take the asshole who is interesting and dangerous because he gets you excited. Why? Chemistry. Your adrenaline and dopamine levels soar for him, but not the nice guy.
And to the girls who think they can change their man to be good. Good luck. It's not easy changing a man to be the complete opposite, but it's possible. Also, if you succeed, I would buy some lotto tickets cause that luck is amazing.
some nice guys are just.. too nice. when i look for a guy, i'm looking for someone who can take care of me... but at the same time let me look out for myself. a nice guy is all geat and good.. to take care of me when i can't do it for myself.
somee nice guys lack initiative. they wait too long, they're not as assertive. being a nice guy doesn't mean you'll automatically finish last and you shouldn't say it like it's a curse.. but just because you make the first move DOESN'T makes you a slimeball!
don't introduce yourself AS the nice guy. you start out as a stranger on the first meeting, and it's only through a series of meetings that the other person comes to know you well enough to throw you into the 'BEFFFFF' pile or the 'BFMATERIAL' pile. i think in most cases, the longer you can keep some things a mystery = the harder it is for a girl to slap the 'best friend' label on you.. which, btw, is a good thing..
Nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but don't be too overtly nice. You're gotta have some jerkness in you as so the girl knows they can't just walk all over you. I consider myself a nice guy, but I can be "mean" at times. They know I'm just playing, so it's all in good fun.
Because you don't stand out. End of story. As soon as you start being nice, you get filed away in the friends drawer.
Not that you have to be a douche, but don't put all your time and energy into her. Chick flicks (which is where romantics and nice guys draw much of their schtick from) are a poor example because while the guy might win the girl over with a bunch of sweet acts in 90 minutes, don't forget the movie is set over periods of weeks or months. What else was that tall good-looking romantic lead actor doing when we wasn't wooing the lead actress?
Sleeping. Shaving his face. Hanging out with the guys. Watching hockey. Working out. Killing terrorists, I don't know. Point is that he was NOT spending every single moment of every single day chasing her; he was doing his own shit too.
Make yourself less available. People want things that are scarce, not commonly available. Simple economics.