Thursday, 12 March 2009
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Insecure Men: Is It a Regional Thing?
Miss Seal
My friend recently visited from Texas and my friends and I took her out to a bar. We were all having a good time, but she looked a little confused."Why don't the guys come up to you here? In Texas, guys will come up to you and start a conversation."
We all just laughed, but thinking about it, why do guys just stand in the corner and simply look at you, never making a move?
We thought it was just a guy thing, but perhaps it's a New York guy thing?
Are guys sociable in your region? What would it take for them to make the first move?
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Guys socialize depending on the girl. Think about it: would you flirt with someone you didn't like? Usually not. If you had a girlfriend, would you stand in the corner staring in the general direction of another girl until your girlfriend got back? Yes, because most guys look but don't touch in relationships.
It has nothing to do with regions (unless you visit dwarfville, where all the men are shorter), it's about the man and the woman. Maybe you're just not very approachable, maybe he's married and having a fight with his wife and he wants to drink it off. Who knows.
Next time that happens, it wouldn't hurt you to initiate somehow (wink, smile, flirt in little ways) to get him interested.
The only sociable guys in Alaska are the half-drunk ones. They're kind of weird unless you're in the right (small) seting.
I have traveled all over the US and visited several other countries. If my girlfriends and I find a bar we can go to for drinks & dancing without guys bugging us it would be a relief. I am pretty sure I won't find mister right in a bar so when me and my girls go out we are doing it for us not to find guys.
I think it can even depend on the bar or club you decide to go to. Cause I know that in the same city you can go two totally different clubs and get different results at each bar. But I suppose on a larger scale it may be true, that guys are more social depending on the region. I know in the Philippines they are all really friendly at the clubs.
It's not the guys who are insecure or aren't sociable, it's the women who give off that aloof and unapproachable vibe that tells the men to back off.
Come to San Diego, where there are way more guys than girls. You will get plenty of jerks trying to pick you up here.
@bunniebutt@xanga - true statement. most guys will stay away from any woman who seems the least bit unapproachable for fear of getting publicly humiliated.
I agree with dare2Bdiferentt and bunniebutt. o____O
The south is very different. People are alot more freindly and less reserved there. I know a few people from the south and they always say that the biggest difference between the north and south is people don't really talk to one another.
The guys at the clubs in texas are definitely friendly, which isn't necessarily always good. I've gotten really good at just not even looking at guys who start talking to me, if i'm not interested. i just walk away, which seems awkward, but really isn't in a loud, crowded club.Â
I think it's a girl thing, perhaps a girl who think it's a guy thing.
Why are girls waiting to be approach by the guys? Why can't we girls go approach some of the guys we would like to meet and/or are interested in for a change?
I don't think it's a region thing. I think it's just a girl and guy thing.
@FireYourBoss@xanga - Ditto!
HAHAHAH. no , it's no ttheir insecure! it's probably because they don't want to talk to her?? hha him?? lollllllll
but damn, i got to admit..california guys are NOT at ALL insecure =)
texas, tooo.come on now..DALLAS!!
because guys in nyc can tell that she's not local by the way she dresses. They prob don't wanna mess with girls who aren't local.
in arizona, they'll grind straight up on you.
here in boston, drunk guys can do some silly stuff too.
Where in NY? In NYC, men approach. In DC, men approach A LOT. :)
Is she cute? It may be that she doesn't look approachable. might be dress and bod language.
OH, was there a man in your group? One guy will throw the whole thing off and make your group less approachable.
Why don't you approach men instead? Why are you insecure?
@bunniebutt@xanga - @coolmonkey@xanga - totally agree with both of you!
@dreamerboi23@xanga - The same thing goes on in Orange County!
@coolmonkey@xanga - seriously! Women should approach too!
across the globe, many more guys are insecure than they will ever admit! even with the help of alcohol ;)
Men are screwed no matter what they do.
You are forward come up and just talk to a woman, you are then a creep.
You don't come up and talk to a woman, you are insecure.
Or you just want to talk to a woman. She then ends up being some sort of nutcase. Falls in love with you and then stalks you for 3 weeks, and you are terrified to leave your house.
I've never thought of that. Maybe they drink more in Texas.
i live in ny and i dont think it an insecurity thing i think its more that people hear mind there own business and are generally less out going. Like my friends whoa are girls think its weird to be approached by guys they dont know. I think people from the south are more friendly and out going