Wednesday, 11 March 2009
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Meeting People At Bars - Sleazy? Worthwhile?
I want to ask the public how they feel about going home with someone they met at a bar (or even taking someone home with them).
In my opinion, I find it sleazy, but of course I'm sure most people have had these experiences. I'm just curious if it is seen as something that just happens in everyday life or if it's an obvious sign of lust and desperation.
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Really not a good place to meet someone to have a relationship with. I've done it twice, both mistakes.
there's a reason why there's the term bar slut.
Eh. Meeting someone at a bar isnt sleazy but taking them home? Im sure a lot of people think sleeping with someone on the first night is gross, but I really cant talk since Im usually the one doing it. lol
But nah, meeting people at bars is fun. I like bar people more then club people, thats for sure.
I mean
I don't rec' it.
Err I've never done it myself but from what I've heard, you don't go to a bar to meet someone you want to stick around. If you don't want a drinker bf/gf, don't go to a bar to find one.
My husband works with a guy who met his wife at the bar. I think "meeting" each other at a bar is okay but "going home" with each other at the bar is just plain.. weird.
sleazy
Its kinda like that one commercial with the asian guy. You go to a place like lets say a low-quality bar, expect to find low-quality people. I kinda believe its true. Don't flame! its only my opinion! *hides*
Although I know of a couple that has been happily together for almost 8 years and have been happily married for one year with a kid that first met at the bar, it still seems like it's a bad place to meet a prospective significant other, especially one that agrees to go home with you that night.
It's great for meeting people, like @jeezshoua@xanga said, but going home with them?
Not for me.
I think it's both, if that even helps. But, if you are desperate then it would be easy to hit the bar. All I have to say is, "Protect yourself."
Unfortunately...one summer in college, I did that. I didn't realize what I was doing until a friend of mine became concerned. It hit me like a ton of bricks. There were many close calls where I went home with them but talked my way out of the sex. So glad I put it behind me.
I say neither, based on my experience. I go to bars now to have a good time with my current friends, not to meet new ones.
I would prefer a library lol.
Meeting people as in trying to hook up with someone? Yeah, that's sleazy. But what about meeting random people that you could hang out with on a regular basis? That's a totally different story.
SLEAZZZY!
Most people I know trying to meet people at bars are only looking for a one time thing.
Not many of those relationships work out..
@thinkin_up_dreams@xanga - I totally agree, bar people are definitely better than club people.
In general, I can see how it would be perceived as sleazy, but I think you would have to take it on a case by case basis. And take into consideration the location and the people involved.
lust, yes. desperation, no (at least most of the time). but definitely not worthwhile or i'd do it myself.
i'm quite surprised by how many people thus far have negative views on doing it, though i'm pretty liberal in general, i guess.
I don't see it that way - I know what its like to be sexually frustrated, but it's not a good idea to hook up too soon.
It's sleazy, but I have a friend who married a girl that he met at a club. They've been married for 6 years now. I guess that's rare to find.
God I haven't done that in so long...I miss it.
It all depends I mean there has been plenty of times I brought guys home from the bar but, not even for any sexual reason. Just for someone to chill wit or some shit.
i'd never do it sober. i also never go out alone.
although i definitely told a very nice scottish boy in a very strong texas accent that i would love to go home with him and [insert inappropriate-for-xanga-proposition here]. of course, i was more than a little tipsy, and my friend took me very firmly by the arm and marched me out of that lovely club.
i'm just sayin' they ought to play more house music in the States.
sleazy.
Sleazy.
Eh, I always thought bars were not the best place to find your true love, but you never know.