Ashleymadison.com is a website where attached/married men and women go to find lovers on the side with other people in similar unhappy situations. After signing up, you can search through over three million users to find that perfect body for a night of unattached passion or a longer affair.
The website backs up its motto, "Life is short. Have an affair," with
articles about the fallacy of monogamy, polygamy and essays about affairs. They don't downplay the truth of what the site is promoting, however: adultery. According to their
statistics page, 17% of divorces are caused by infidelity, and 90% of Americans believe adultery is wrong. Despite those numbers, the website has over three million users and a long testimonial page of very satisfied customers.
Unlike on dating websites, your personal profile doesn't include sections for listing hobbies or your favorite foods and television shows. Here, you pick from a drop-down menu of answers for the question, What is your limit? (Answers: short term, long term, cyber chat, anything goes), then plug in your height, weight, age, body type, and ethnicity. They don't beat around the bush (pun totally intended).
Members have the option of putting a picture on their profile, but most choose not to; who wants their wife/husband stumbling across their smiling face on a cheating website next to the caption, "just looking 4 some fun ;)" with "Anything goes" as their limit (then again, why would the wife/husband be on the website in the first place...hmm)?
If you were or are in an unhappy marriage or relationship, would you consider signing up on this website to find a lover on the side?
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Comments (106)
no, i would just dump/divorce my significant other LOL
i don't really get cheating : X
ugh.
Sites like these are awful.Just make the marriage work or get out if you're not willing to try.hell no.
work it out first.
seek others later.
That's...disgusting. If I were unhappy, I'd fix my marriage/relationship or get a divorce/break up.
Horrible website with a horrible message.
I would either work on my marriage or divorce. My husband, even if I hate him at the time, deserves better than me screwing around on him with the basis that "I'm unhappy".Â
If you're not happy in a relationship, then get out. It's as simple as that.
Instead of fixing the relationship in the first place, have an affair and mess things up even more!
The path of least resistance is often times the wrong path.
Thats a TERRIBLE website just needs to be flushed down the toilet and forgoten about . . . and NO NEVER
I think I saw a show about this on Tyra Bank's talk show.
..but if I was unhappy in my marriage, I would seek help if I still want it to work. If not, get a divorce and start out fresh and clean.
Why have an affair on the side and keep your significant other? That's only because you're either 1) scared of being alone or 2) wanting to drag your spouse with you incase it don't work out with whomever. Basically, you just want to have your cake and eat it too. *roll eyes
No never! If you're married...you made that commitment/covenant to love your wife/husband. I personally don't believe in divorce. Divorce isn't always the answer to the solution. Work things out...there's no need to cheat.
See marriage is just a label and people r in them to feel secure. See im never going to get married, people do what they want anyways
no! absolutely not.
@Hallelujah_Haptism@xanga - the other side of that is that "people like you just want to always be able to screw whomever they want without any consequences."
I'm totally 100% against cheating. being 'unhappy' isn't an excuse for ruining your spouse's and/or children's life. Plus you ruin any chance you may have had for repairing the relationship. Cheating is just hurtfull to all involved.
@jeezshoua@xanga - I totally agree.
Oh, and miss ostrich.... how did you stumble upon this site? lol ;)
A cheater's society. If it's anywhere, it's on the internet. I think if someone has the mindset that cheating is okay, the relationship is doomed anyway regardless of whether or not the cheating actually takes place. Sites like this only magnify the problems and speed up the decay of the relationship.
I got sucked into the nastier parts of the Internet at one time in my life and messed around on that site a bit, chatting. I was single. When I finally came to my senses I was appalled with myself. Even though I never moved beyond the keyboard and have no idea what these peoples' lives are like, I helped undermine and destroy sacred bonds of marriage. I dishonored other women.
I felt like dirt. I still do, when I think about it.
That website is an abomination and should be terminated.
I think it's despicable that this business exists to help people have an affair.
But, on the flipside, the fact that it is a successful business just goes to show that without demand, there would be no supply. Imagine if EVERYONE in the world didn't have affairs - AshleyMadison wouldn't exist! But alas, it does - because with or without the site, people would have affairs.
So I think at the end of the day: some people are weak. Some people are foolish. And some people like to capitalize and take advantage of these weak and foolish people a la AshleyMadison - by making money from weakness. Horrible.
deff not!!! :(
People who have affairs honestly need to grow a pair. They're too weak to understand the concept of NOT having your cake and eating it too. They're too weak to accept that what they're doing is wrong. They're too weak to tell their partner about it. Plain and simple, they need to grow a pair. If they're unhappy they need to talk it out. If they want out, they need to say so. It's not fair to the other person for them to pull that.
ok....
that site should be taken down. its promoting affairs. if your having problems especially in a marriage theres such a thing as communication and talking things out instead of going on some website. if things cant be solved than get a divorce. mind boggling advice huh...
Sites like these are the reason newer generations don't think twice about being monogamous. It sickens me.
No matter how unhappy I have been or will be, I'd never cheat.
@music_is_life_13_16@xanga - Well i cant speak for most but thats not how i am, i just feel that marriage is a waste of time, i mean no one truly believes in it anymore they just do it to say "hey im settled in". Only to be betrayed in the coming years. Times are different people are different. Once sex becoming boring with that person they look someone else for it BUT still want to hold on the that stability at home.
Why not just get out of the relationship if they don't like it? Oh right, because having an affair will totally solve all your problems. Insane.
No, I would either approach my S.O. about my feelings or if I felt no desire to salvage the relationship, then I would just end it and move on. There's absolutely no need or reason to cheat to my opinion...moment of weakness my ass lol
to answer your question, i wouldnt use the website, i'd just go to a bar or get one of my male friends to help out
@Hallelujah_Haptism@xanga - that attitude is exactly why marriages don't work anymore. It's sad that people have so little faith/trust in each other. What's the point of being in a relationship if you're always just waiting for it to fail? So pessimistic...