i say try the old fashion way :P
mutual friends parties :3

I had a bit of a freak too - blew up at me because I didn't want to meet him after only chatting for 5 days.  Now, those of you who read my blog know that I got out of a year+ long relationship 2 weeks ago, so meeting someone online was a big step.

Anyways, he got very sarcastic and told me over MSN that I was immature to assume things about him, and to contact him when I finally mature enough to get to know him.  *Block-delete.*

I'm talking to a pretty cool guy now though - he's an engineer (yay) and a triathlete (double yay!!!) like me.  And he's kind of cute.  Trying to keep my hopes reasonable...

The site is OkCupid.. a place where people come to find potential romantic interests..not a place for friendship.

Can I say DUH? The responses you got were expected.

Look that's pretty mean of you. @Neurotically_Mine@xanga - is right. You're going to a DATING site to only meet friends? That's pretty much First Class Cock Tease. These guys generally are seeking something really worthwhile relationship-wise. And honestly before you even know who they are you automatically decide that they can't be anymore than friends. Seems a little prejudice, to me.

Ohhh i know this story, every time i talk to a woman or just try to be FRIENDS they seem to want to take it to the next level. I think it scared me, now im all afraid to just make woman friends cause now i think in the back of there head they want more. I think there was only once where i could just talk to a girl and it and we just remind friends. Maybe guys and girls just cant be friends *shrugs*

I disagree with rule #202...  I put women I meet in the friend category until there is some reason that I may be interested in more, or unless we met for the specific reason of going on a date.

Ahahaha.... one of my friends told me to make an okcupid profile so that he wouldn't feel so alone! I never check it, and whenever I do [once every few months], I always get hit on by men that are like 20 years older than me. It's really creepy. 

life rule #105: i agree.

I knooooooow! I have guys all the time telling me stuff. I tell them I just want friends (I don't have too many in the area...) and then they come back with "who knows, maybe more". I'm like "no, not maybe more. definitely not more!" But whatever. All of these are AMAZING points. Too true, sadly enough!

I enjoyed this. Thanks for posting.

I HATED OkCupid. I joined because I had a friend from college who was a member and asked me to join, thinking I'd find a boyfriend and stop whining to him about being single. I didn't talk to many people from the site, but they were all very memorable...for terrible reasons....

#1: he was a year younger than me, lived 2 hours away, and was still a virgin. he only wanted someone to lose his virginity to. i knew his area of town very well, as that's where I'm from, but I wasn't interested in meeting some random person from the hood to have sex with. I'd prefer sex with someone I love.

#2: was very boring to me. he was 27 years older than me and the only thing we had in common was watching squidbillies and aqua teen hunger force. so he was my mother's age, and had her personality. ew.

#3: within 30 minutes of talking, was asking me for my phone number, when we could meet, and for nude pictures.

#4: was from england and threw fits when i didn't respond fast enough, he helped me find the drivers for my webcam to work with windows vista...only because he wanted to see me naked.

#5: I would have met him, I really liked him a lot. He was kind of my internet boyfriend, as lame as it sounds. He had a lot of self-esteem problems though. He thought no one would ever be attracted to him apart from online because he was a little on the overweight side. He wasn't enormous like he thought he was, he could have lost 20-30 pounds and been fucking gorgeous. He had the two things I go nuts over - blonde hair and blue eyes. We had a lot in common, and we talked for almost a month online and a few times over the phone. The whole thing was just a matter of explaining it to my parents. They're paranoid that someone from the internet would just want to rape and kill me, and all this guy wanted was to hang out at the lake, since I live walking distance of one of the biggest lakes in Georgia. Anyway, I kept getting this weird gut feeling to not meet him, he couldn't understand why. You can lie online and say anything to get someone to meet you, and he wanted to hang out at a lake. I could see meeting at a restaurant or a mall or something but he wanted to come to my house and take me to the lake. Also, he wouldn't lie to my parents for me. Like I said, they're very paranoid of internet people, so I was gonna tell them I knew him from college. He wasn't "a scholarly type" so he didn't wanna lie to them about it. He was wanting to meet me after three days of talking. I had just gotten over something really bad, and he reminded me a lot of that person. A few days after becoming his internet girlfriend, I went to a concert with two of my best friends - I met one of their friends I hadn't met before, and ended up having sex with him by the end of the night. This was last July, and that guy I had sex with after only knowing him for three hours has been my boyfriend since about 4 days after that, and still is. When I told the OkCupid guy about the, at the time, one night stand, he was upset, but willing to forgive me and still wanted to meet. I had to tell him "no, I really like this guy, and I know from trusted sources that he's a really good guy. With you, I have no other friends or family that knows you, so I don't know how well I can trust just from what some guy on the internet tells me. Maybe we can still just chat online and on the phone though." He told me he was giving up his diet, his exercise plan, and possibly committing suicide. Yeah, go kill yourself over some girl you've only talked to online for a month. Makes all kinds of sense, right? I knew it was an empty threat, and he knew I don't take suicide threats lightly, and an empty one is the quickest way to never hear from me again. The next night, we'd both calmed down, and he called me. I was talking about my dad, because he was about to go in for neck surgery and I was very worried. The OkCupid guy got kind of...awkwardly quiet on me and suddenly had to go. My boyfriend, who wasn't yet at the time, called me. We talked for a few minutes and he got off the phone to fix him something to eat. OkCupid guy sends me a text saying he can't be friends with me, it's too hard, and he's giving up on everything. So I deleted his number, blocked his myspace, and deleted my OkCupid page. The next day, I was officially the girlfriend to the guy I had the one night stand with. We've been together now since mid-July, have only had one small argument which I don't even count since we were both drunk and stupid, and I think he is the most amazing man ever. I'd marry him today if he asked me to.

Funny how things are going so great with him when the OkCupid guy said "You just wait and see, he's gonna do something so terrible to you that you won't be able to handle it, and I won't be here for you when he does." He didn't know shit about my boyfriend, he just wanted to pass judgement because he was angry.

I've met some great people on there, and some not-so-great ones. I met two of the nicest (online) guy friends (one in England, one in this country) on there, and I'm friends with them through their Facebooks and Myspaces. I was in a long distance relationship with one other guy (from England, I might add) from there for a while until fairly recently, when he said he only liked me as a friend, changed his relationship status on Facebook to "in a relationship", and then deleted me as a friend on there.

Why would you go to a dating site to meet friends?

Anyway, I feel the same way about being friendly and flirty. For some reason, guys always think I'm flirting with them when I'm just being friendly.