Miss Double ShotMy sixteen-year-old sister started dating a guy shortly after school started, and by the time I was headed home for Christmas, they'd broken up (I found out via Facebook - so much for family togetherness). I'd never met the guy or heard much about him, so it was a little strange when I got home and sat down with her in the kitchen.
"Um, I have a weird question."
"What?"
"Did you break up with your boyfriend?"
"Oh, yeah," she answered nonchalantly.
"...sorry."
"It's fine," she said. "He ended up taking it way more seriously than I was and it got kind of dumb." That was easy.
It got me thinking - I know about my sisters' boyfriends when they've been around for a while, but I never really talk to my sibs about the guys/girls they're interested in when relationships first start out. It feels a little weird to think that they're capable of sustaining relationships (not trying to be disparaging, but you know what I mean - these are people you have thrown socks at and flung mac and cheese at the wall with for almost all your lives).
Do you talk to your family (especially siblings) about relationships? And if you're dating casually, when's the first point when you mention someone? There's definitely a time when things are too volatile for you to talk, right?
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i will casually mention when i like them actually he he usually way too soon, i learnt i should shut up till i surely have something working out.
My sibilngs and I talk about our relationships all the time, but the funny thing about this is, my younger sister got a bf on valentine's day, and was broken up with him by the end of the month! and yes, i found that out on fb as well haha
depending on how much i like them, i may mention a guy immediately into meeting him/dating him. if he's just ok, then i'll let the trickle down effect take over
I want candy. Then we'll talk.
Yeah, we talk a lot about that stuff, actually. It's pretty open between us sibs.
I tell my sister everything. When we were younger (middle school/high school) we didn't talk as much, but in college, and now that we're both out of college, and she's married, I tell her everything. I can't imagine not having her to talk to about that kind of stuff.
i don't talk about it with my family. it just feels weird. in fact i dont like talking about it with any of my male friends either. only my female girls get to hear my love life. lol
I tell my sister everything. And I have no problem understanding how she can be in a relationship, she is great. I bet she has trouble imagining me on one, because I pretty much never have been in a normal one.
My brother and I go so much as to talk about sex, as well.
Some people think it's weird, but my boyfriend and his siblings are the same way, too.
I figure, my brother is one of my best friends. Sure, I don't share the same details with my brother as I do with my friends, but I still feel like I can talk to him about it, and he can do the same for me.
I'm 16 and my brother will be 19,
even though he lives 5 hours away now,
when he's home, we chat it up!
He knows about every guy that's been in my life,
and even how far I've gone.
no shame. he's like my best friend.
my 12 year-old brother just told me about a girl he likes =D that was the most exciting thing to hear. i'm 9 years older than him so he asked me what to do. cute.
i can't really discuss my relationships too much with him because of the age difference..maybe when he's older. i've never explicitly told him that my current boyfriend of almost 2 years is my "boyfriend", but i'm sure he knows. i surely tell him about the PG things we do and whenever i'm grumpy with him.My sister is younger than me by about three years and we never talk about our relationships because the guys we are intrested in are so different. She likes her skater boys and party guys, I love my nerdy boyfriend. And we are so opposite that it never really comes up.
If it were to come up though, I think we would be ok talking about it. So long as our mom never finds out ^_^
I brought up my lovey after the first time we hung out
Just couldn't resist telling my sibs about how great he was (and still is)!
I talk to my twin sister about everything. Not really sure I'd know what to do if I didn't have her to talk to. My brother is six years younger than me but has watched me go through heartache a couple of times. He called me the night he lost his virginity to ask questions about whether he'd done it right or not. It made me feel good that he knew he could come to me for stuff like that.
I love being close to my sibs and am so happy that we all feel comfortable with talking to one another.
I talk to my whole family about relationships, casual or not. Especially my cousins, who are more like siblings than anything else. We're very close and when one of us doesn't know something that is going on it's actually a little upsetting.
my sister talks to me and my mom about her relationshipS, but i dont tell my sister anything unless she asks.
I talk to my sister, I love it when she comes to me. But, no I don't tell people unless they ask. Therefore I blog. HAHAH
My brother is almost 10 yrs. older than me. The first time I heard about him ever having a love interest was when he told us he was engaged. My sister is 2 yrs. younger and we definitely talk about the boys we like and kissing and stuff. Never sex or anything though! That would be pretty awkward...
My sister and I usually tell each other if we go out on a date with someone, or if we're unsure about things. It's really easy to talk to her because she's had more relationships than I have (even though she's younger) so sometimes she gets things I don't. I know more about sex (both alone and with a significant other
) so I tell her stuff too. We know who the other person has slept with, but there aren't usually details involved.
We get along really well now that we don't live together. :)
I never had the distinct privilage to talk to my one and only sibling about relationships. he was more clueless as I was. we never had that type of relationship that warranted that type of thing so no...
I talk to my sisters about their and my relationships. My brothers.. not so much. I get this weird feeling talking to them about their relationships with their girlfriends. But when I see them hanging out with their girlfriends, they seem happy.
My brother and I don't talk about relationships too much. He is currently back with his on/off gf of a few years. I HATE her for my own personal reasons...we were good friends and she stabbed me in the back. My brother didn't have the nerve to tell me to my face they got back together. I had to find out through Facebook that he was in a relationship with her. When I confronted him about it he had nothing but excuses. I was more pissed I had to rely on the internet to find out his relationship status rather than hearing it from him.
Anyway...we don't talk about his relationship b/c I don't agree with it. I am not in one so there's nothing to talk about on my end.
My brother and I just recently started talking to each other regarding relationship issues; he's 22, I'm almost 28. Neither of us has dated a lot of people - we're both the relationship type. I think this is the first time he's been really invested in the relationship, which is why we've just begun to talk about it.
But yeah, it's weird to think I'm discussing major relationship issues with the same kid that declared "girls are money pits" less than 10 years ago.
Me and my sis who is a year younger just do updates on who we're dating and if we break up. We don't really go into details unless we're having some relationship difficulties. We have never talked about our sex lives and I don't even know if she has one, its not something I really want to find out about right now. My sis who is 2 years older than me, we talk about everything, from relationships, to sex, and even health issues. We're very open with each other, she even gave me tips on visiting the gynecologist.
I don't just talk about relationships with my sis, we get into sex too. But I'm glad to have her around for problems, and se likes me for that as well. Always have a shoulder to lean on that tries the hardest to understand. The weird part? When my dad gets in on our conversations :P
I talk to my younger brother (he's 22) about my relationships pretty extensively (not like details of my love life but parameter of it) because I don't exactly talk to my mom like that. As he stepped into his 20s, he has turned himself around to be a decent human being instead of a snotnosed child so it's really great to see that he's matured.
He doesn't talk to me about his relationships too often but when he's feeling confused about a signal he received or a "hypothetical" situation he's not sure about, he usually asks me and I give him the best advice I can give. So I guess it's somewhat reciprocative and I love it. I know we have a few yrs in between us and I would never want him to stop talking to me because of that... esp. since I'm a GIRL I had to work harder to maintain a good line of communication between us and it's awesome to know that I can talk to him about almost anything! :D