1. Getting mad about not remembering important dates...fine, we admit we aren't the best at remembering dates sometimes, but it's not because we don't want to, it's because for some odd reason, our brains are just built like that, so cut us some slack. You don't see us getting on your case for not remembering how many interceptions Brett Favre had during his career, how many miles are on the tires of your car or how many games there are in a single season of football...do you?
Those unimportant things to you are fairly important to us. Just like you girls have trouble memorizing certain things, so do we...so stop acting like it's the end of the world if we don't remember a date! It won't kill you to give us a friendly reminder.
2. How men can't have "macho" complexes but men have to understand girls do things certain ways and like certain thingsAll guys like to be "macho" in the same way that all girls like to look "pretty" sometimes. I agree, sometimes guys can take it too far, but in general, most guys are very concerned about their "machoness". Kinda the same way how you ladies don't like going outside without makeup on or going outside right when you wake up with your puffy face, there are many things men completely don't understand you ladies do - things we find uncessary, things that we are often expected to just accept and understand that it's "a girl thing". Why can't you accept that the "macho" way is what guys prefer if we're not taking it too far? It won't kill you to just smile or play along with us to make us happy or boost our confidence.
We wait while you try on 15 outfits and take two hours to do your makeup...or we understand that sometimes a girl needs a pampering...so you can at least just listen to us tell you how many pieces of sushi we can put in our mouth without complaining...it's not like it costs you money or anything.
3. OMG SHOES SHOES SHOES Let me say this...IT'S JUST SHOES. And yes, you CAN have enough shoes...half the shoes you have, you don't wear again anyway, so stop buying them. Just because they're on sale doesn't mean you have to buy them...just because it's the new spring collection doesn't mean you have to buy them. You should save your money and buy more practical and useful things like hats and cars...you can never have enough fitted hats. But shoes? Totally not worth the time and effort.
4. NaggingStop nagging us...you can blame it on the lack of communication or miscommunication for a reason to nag us, but if you hadn't asked us to go to the museum or watch the lastest chick flick, we wouldn't have this lack of communication or miscommunication in the first place.
Of course we will commit to it when you're asking us (we know what can happen to us if we say no). We'll say yes at the time and then we'll grab onto any opportunity that shows up later to provide us with an excuse to not attend the event.
It's like how when you're a kid, your parents ask you to do something in a scary voice and you just say you will 'cause you're scared of them. Later, though, you don't do it or tell them so until you get caught 'cause you didn't wanna get yelled at? It's kinda like that for us...and do you really have to question whether we would be watching the game drinking beer over a chick flick or a visit to the museum? Do you really?
We don't ask you to come to the football game, get drunk and yell at the refs until you lose your voice or to come over to my friend's garage so we get greasy and dirty while putting on that new after market suspension kit we got for the car...because we already know you'll say no.
If we can think like that, so can you, ladies...
5. Getting your nails done, five million different makeup things in the bathroom, three hour long phone calls (seriously, what is there to talk about that long?)I just don't understand...
Enlighten me, please.
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There are no answers to these questions.
Why? Because women are mysteries o_o;
hmm..lets see.
1. Dates are important to us for bonding particularly birthdays and it helps us to feel loved and needed and thought of just like guys need your space.
2. Well, I don't mind if you stuff your face silly, sometimes its just not etiquettely pleasing at times?
3. its our way of destress, be it eating, or be it shopping, its something the same as men who need their time alone and this really destresses us sometimes.
4. I guess we just want to be heard and some things aren't right, it also shows that we care enough to tell you off rather than suck it all in and explode at the very last minute
5. WE love to look pretty for ourselves and men..what say you?:) he he my question is, is it your money we are spending?:P
I agree with the first comment.
Girls' obsessions with shoes is just as unexplainable as guys' obsessions with cars. (A lot of guys go crazy over shoes too, anyway.)
Some girls just like to present themselves nicely. Not such a big mystery. :) And the girls who do those annoying things and their only explanation is "it's a girl thing" is so not worth the time.
My machoness lost out to my objection to Number 1. I'm sorry, but even I agree with women that perhaps an anniversary is a more important thing to remember than sports statistics. As much as I love Brett Favre, I don't love him as much as a woman who puts up with me.
LOL. all of this is very legit. funny and true. the last thing is prob the most practical and important. we, ladies, like to look good for our men. and girls have MUCH to talk about. hence this whole topic YOU wrote about, can be talked and analyzed about.
@TheDumberScott@xanga - Wow. Good answer.
#3 - it's shopping therapy (at least for me it is).
i don't really understand 1 or 5 either... my only reasoning behind 5 is that we like pretty things that make us feel pretty (nails, makeup) and we like to talk... soo...
whats wrong with 3 hour long phone calls?
i love talking till i fall asleep its fun!!I totally understand and agree your points through 1-4. And surprisingly I don't fit under your descriptions. Haha
5. Well getting your nails done, hmm I wouldn't know. Hahah. Um I don't have much makeup either. But for talking to him 3 hour, I can relate to. For me, it lets me know that the guy I'm talking to for 3 hours is special. He's not just any guy I could talk to for 3 hours straight. I don't know how I talk to him that long. But he always manages to come up with something to keep me from saying goodbye. I guess you haven't experienced or had that "feeling" for someone where it's hard to say goodbye to.
i can only answer for myself, but all girls are different...i'm not too crazy about the dates thing, but maybe only my birthday, i guess because i'm not married yet, but it's important because that's the day i was born. and since i'm a woman, i'm pretty particular about things but i think it's because of the OCD in me that does most of the work about how anal i am about things. and the nagging, trust me, it comes from our mothers. and shoes, i love shoes because even if i gain a little bit of weight or feel bloated, my feet still look sexy as hell with shoes. and lastly, i don't like getting my nails done at the salon and have fake nails on because i have my own, but i like to just glam up, sometimes it's only on date nights, glamming up is just something that i like to do for myself, that's the reason for all the make-up products; and the phone calls, it's because we're just crazy about you and hearing your voice over the phone fills in the absence of you being there in person.
Sushi thing made me laugh! I would probably compete with you to see how many I can stuff in my mouth too.
A lot of these things don't apply to me. Actually none of them. Maybe you like non-girly girls.
stop dating the high maintenance self-absorbed whiny women. problem solved.
I like me a macho man, yeaaaa.
How do you know how many miles are on your tires? I can tell you miles till next oil change or how many miles each tire'sestimated longevity is...but to calculate how many its driven? Kinda hard..but do-able. HHmm..Im curious now. Ok, so first you note when you bought the car/tire with how many mileage was on it. Then, add how many oil changed you had. Or.....note the mileage it was when you bought the car/tire and subtract from whats on the odometer. Ughhh, nm. I give up.
But 16. 16 games in a football season. 17th including the superbowl?
lmao i love this blog.
The only dates i want my boyfriend to remember (and he does) is my birthday & our anniversary. That's itttt & that's all i care about. Mind you, last year i forgot when his birthday was and it was a disaster. Long story short, his birthday in 07' was on Easter and it was easy to remember, last year not so much. And all he could say was "I can't believe you don't remember my birthday. wowww!"
My obsession with shoes is like a guys obsession with cars or video games & sometimes even working out or eating. So ha! And it relieves my stress. Since he doesn't want to hear me nag or talk, i'll just go out and spend some money on shoes & clothes. The only time i don't spend money has to be football season because i take my stress and anger out while watching the games with him.
Women are mysteries leave it at that!!!
I don't know, i am really good at remembering dates, names, small details
1. Forgetting a birthday or anniversary is something personal. It's something the two of you share. It's something that should be, or seems like it should be, important to both of you.
Of course, there are limits to how angry a person can get without being irrational.
2. What? Since when was there a ban on being macho?
3. If we're speaking about things that aren't strictly needed, then hats aren't needed, either. It goes both ways; if you can't have too many hats, girls can't have too many shoes. No double standard-ing there.
4. Nagging is annoying. Yeah.
5. Pretty nails give us something to look at. Pretty nails make us feel prettier. It's like dressing nicely. Sweats with food stains all over v.s. nice [could be casual] outfit that makes the girl look awesome. Choice? Usually the latter.
3 hour conversations...with you? If you don't like it, just say you're tired, or can't talk too long.
Better? Whee. =]
And it'd be pretty impressive to hear about how many pieces of sushi you can shove in your mouth...except that'd be a waste of good sushi. If that's the case, I hope it's mediocre quality, for the sake of savoring the better ones. Haha
I love this list. I totally agree. I try my best not to shop and/or take forever to get ready/make him wait at all.
I don't watch football but I told mind him watching as long as he lets me sleep, haha!
Except the last one, I actually have tons to talk about for hours, with him. But of course I always make sure if he have things to do, or too tired, etc etc..
I would like to be enlightened on what the definition of "macho" is to this poster since it sounds more like a synonym for "ignorance" than anything else. Seriously, it's as if you thought of every stereotype you could come up with about women and listed them. There's a saying about cliches and that they are so overused that they become meaningless. Stereotypes are just as, if not more meaningless. If women are such a mystery just marry a man if you understand them better. Oh wait, you can't because of all the "macho" people who don't believe in equal rights.
Dates are important, though only the big ones. Not the ones that are "remember that time we ate that sandwich on that beach on that day?", those ones are irritating.
"You should save your money and buy more practical and useful things
like hats and cars...you can never have enough fitted hats. But shoes?
Totally not worth the time and effort."
F'n awesome statement, haha...thumbs up to you sir...one thing that both genders have to realize is that men were created differently than women and vice versa for a reason...if we were so similar then we'd never evolve. That's why gay guys are generally friends with girls, because they're alike...yet you will never find them dating each other. There needs to be a masculine side and a feminine side. I never minded my ex taking 30 minutes to an hour getting ready, because I knew she actually did it for me and made herself feel good about her appearance at the same time. She was beautiful with or without makeup, but sometimes they just need a little extra to make them feel more confident. Same with dudes, we have our way doing something to increase our confidence. I say both males and females stop bitching about the negatives about one another because in the end that's what makes us unique. And I use "us" loosely, cause not all guys are so flamboyant with our masculinity.
So I think girls make a big deal out of remembering dates because they like to think that it's a big deal for the guy as well. I mean a relationship is pretty darn important in a girl's life, and for the guy to remember makes the girl feel even happier.
I don't obsess over shoes ... at all. My boyfriend likes to collect basketball shoes. Haha he has more pairs of shoes than I do.
As for the "macho" thing, my guy acts macho around other guys but he's such a softie when he's with me. Hahah (:
1. I agree that not every date should be a big deal, but some of them SHOULD be important. And example might be a wedding anniversary, your girlfriend's birthday, or Valentine's Day. Given that there are only 365/366 days in a year, and you go through that cycle every year, it's a little more reasonable to remember than a sports statistic (which does not have an impact on ALL guys, by the way).
2. I don't wear makeup, nor do I have a lot of clothes...not sure what to say to that one. I'm not opposed to a guy who wants to flaunt his masculinity a little, as long as it's not straight up obnoxious.
3. I sort of don't understand this either. I actually don't have a lot of shoes. I came to Japan with a pair of sneakers and two pairs of boots, all of which I've been wearing over the past six month, so I'm looking for a new pair. Is it so wrong for me to want to change things up a little? But a closetful of shoes...that's a problem, especially if some of those shoes are never worn. Shoes aren't COMPLETELY useless though...after all, walking outside barefoot is kind of dangerous.
4. I don't like nagging, nor do I like to be nagged. But some people--like lazy bastards--need someone to nag at them. Only when necessary, but nagging shouldn't be an automatic thing.
5. Before I started playing bass, I did my own nails. If it's a special occasion, I miiiiight go to a nail salon, but I can't understand women paying so much money to get their nails done on a regular basis. I've already said I don't really wear makeup, and I don't have a lot either. Three hour talks on the phone...please. My dad talks that much, not me. I've had conversations for that long, as long as there was actually something to talk about. And it wasn't always with girls, either.
You might think girls make absolutely no sense, but on the other side of the fence, the same goes for guys.