Saturday, 07 March 2009
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How Much Baggage Do You Have?
Compared to the average Datingish reader (or the average dater, if you prefer), how much emotional baggage do you have - more, less or about the same?
Does it affect the way or the people you choose to date?
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Comments (49)
Emotional baggage? I'm not emo. The past is the past.
I don't consider myself having any emotional baggage really.
Nothing worth mentioning.
The biggest greif I face in dating is coping with the past of the other person. I'm really bad bad about that.
This means, I prefer to date those whose pasts I can accept. That sounds really bad, I know.
I wouldn't say I have any emotional baggage, but who knows? Maybe it's hidden, and and I have yet to deal with it. Hahaha. Cross our fingers that doesn't happen.
yeah tons of baggage.. but if I don't talk about it, people usually think I'm a pretty happy person.
It takes a lot for me to share anything.
Because of some particularly bad events growing up, it is extremely hard for me to let my guard down and trust people. And if I do trust someone and they break that trust, it takes me a while to trust them again. And I'm really bad about hiding my feelings.
The equivalent to a toothbrush.
I have a lot of emotional baggage from my childhood with an abusive parent. It's annoying because it definitely does interfere with my adult relationships. Whatever, you learn to deal.
:-\
Right now, none. But back then, more than my share.
none?
None anymore. I've been past those for a few years, now.
I have ... a lot. But my current boyfriend has accepted all of it, and I'm also growing past it. :)
a loadful. still having a hard time moving on.
imagine: making love to her on the 13thfeb night, only to know she has arranged a blind date on the 14th..and now they're going pretty well.
damn users!
i wish i could slap every sacrifice and thing i had given up for her. i wanna dump everything in her face to release my rantings....but i can't because i still love and care for her.
i think i just have to learn to let go and slowly lighten up my burden..jst don't know how honestly.
I've had it for 4 long years. It's in my dreams too.
I am surprised that with all the shit I have been through, I manage to have very little to no baggage. The past is the past. I grow and mature and learn my lessons and apply them in the future. I don't hold any ill feelings or distrust against new people I meet just because of what people in the past have done to me.
A bit.
um some emotional baggage I would say. but not too much. I usually get over things pretty quickly... well some things. but when it comes to like dating and such... I usually try not to hang onto feelings over the guy for that long. I'm the type of person that moves on very quickly once things don't go my way... kind of bad yes but that's just who I am. I just figure you can't really change your past... but you can learn from it. and so far all of the bad things (and believe me... there have been a lot) in my past has just made me a better person today. and I truly believe that... even though all of that sounds really cliche and corny or whatever lol.
more; it affects the people i date.
I've always had a lot whether I want it or not. It just follows, even when I'm over it! My ex always chose to ignore it and that made me want to talk about it more... so it definitely affected us some. The next guy, I know, will be different.
I've got little emotional baggage to take into a relationship...but the baggage coming from a guy I date does make a difference. Not so much that I can't handle whatever's in his past, but he's got to realize I don't have that equivalent and...I'm probably not nearly as scarred by it all as he is. So basically, you're gonna have to get over it and just deal with the present, 'cause that's what I'm doing.
Probably a lot, but I'm really easy going in relationships, so it doesn't get in the way.
I don't think I have that much, really.
Less. I'm young, I move on pretty fast.
Depends on what the average is of other daters. Some people experience more pain in heartbreaks than others. I was physically abused by my ex fiance. Even though it's been 3 years since we've broken up...I still have some baggage to get over. Like...fully trusting that the next guy won't hurt me like that.
I don't really have any emotional baggage. I just won't date guys that remind me of an ex.
I guess it affects guys because I'll just say no right off the bat and they say it's not fair that I won't date them. They'll be like, "I'm different and blah blah blah."
Sorry.
In my own opinion, I have a lot of physical and emotional baggage.
I can be a very dramatic, sad, hyper, happy, bipolar, etc etc person. :[