Miss ReindeerI like to think my SO and I have everything in common, but it's just not true. One of our big issues of contention is going camping. Camping is one of my favorite kinds of vacation, and I mean
real camping - in a tent, no electricity, cooking over the fire, etc. It's something I've done since I was a kid, usually with my dad, which is probably why I have a soft spot for it. I desperately want to go camping with my boyfriend, but he's
not having it.
Apparently he's not a fan of the icky showers and sleeping on the ground arrangement. I've tried to compromise with talk of air mattresses and a site with an electrical outlet, but I'm pretty sure the only camping I'll be able to talk him into is of the RV variety. And I'm sorry, but to me, that just isn't camping.
My boyfriend has gone with me to see
RENT, has taken me to Beatrix Potter land in Windermere, England and has no qualms about going on the occasional trip to the mall. But he will not pitch a tent of any kind in the woods for me.
Is there something your SO just won't do for you, no matter how much you beg and plead? How have you tried to convince them?
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There's only one thing we really don't agree on.
It's the video game playing.
He's a big time player, doesn't mind staying the whole day inside just to play.
While me, on the other hand, likes to do things and have fun with life. Not a big fan of staying inside doing nothing.
But yeah, we don't really agree on this because he'd rather play than go do something, so we've had a couple of arguments over it.
And I've tried to convince him so many times how he should do other things. Vice versa of course. He's tried to convince me that playing isn't that bad.
But, even though we argued over it, and we never seem to agree over it, we're still ok and in love <3
Renaissance festivals. I've been working them since I was 15, and he refuses to get involved. This year (my second year playing princess for the Minnesota Renaissance Festival) he will actually show his support by attending, although not in costume, so i can only briefly speak with him. But this is an improvement over the past 6 years.
It has taken a lot of arguing, but we came to a happy medium.
He won't let me watch him masturbate.
I won't go running with him.
UMM IT WOULD HAVE TO BE HIM GOING TO BED WHEN I GET SLEEPY LOL. HE WANTS TO WAIT TILL HE IS TIRED AND TO ME IT SEEMS LIKE HE IS NEVER TIRED.
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - LOL. Somehow I find this extremely funny.
Uh..we're into basically the same thing..so not much to work on other than LDR communications.
I say really stupid things to her sometimes. :\
I totally deserve those silent treatments.
A guy that doesn't want to go campin'? huh strange
Hmmm well my boyfriend and I like to do the same things soo we pretty much don't have an issue there. Our interests are pretty much the same so *shrugs*
Cooking. I have a very smooth, quick, and clean operation to the way I cook. He has a very thrown together, ridiculously fast, rough way of cooking from working in a kitchen for 4 years.
I can't think of anything off the top of my head that my boyfriend absolutely won't do for me. we have our differences... but our differences usually equal each other out. for example i hate to cook and he hates to do dishes. so he'll do the cooking and i'll wash the dishes after we eat. as far as what we do together... we both love camping, fishing, playing video games, the same music (concerts), ect... so there's really never much of a problem.
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - awwww. I hope he lets you watch sometime in the future bc it is DAMN sexy.
But...im so unfair...I wont let mine watch me. Im shyyy.
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - Haha. For some reason I found this funny. Hopefully he lets you watch sometime in the future, it sure will turn you on.
We actually don't agree on with lots of things, but we tried not to get angry/frustrated about it.
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - HAHAHA THATS FUNNY. but i always thought masturbating was a personal thing.
Hmmmm... sounds suspicious. Likes: shopping, musicals. Dislikes: Camping, women(?). It's hard for me to say as myself and my SO have the exact same likes and dislikes but then again I'm positive that my SO likes girls too so maybe thats the true question here?
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Well with an ex (I've been single for the past 5 years) We had certain things we just didn't discuss, like for example, he wasn't a fan of animals, and I was a big one. It was so bad to the point where we just never discussed that topic. Though he seems to be improving, last time I saw him, he said he got a dog, and is trying to change his ways! Weird.
I think the best relationships are those where you both have stuff in common, like music, movies, and then you have some differences, like hobbies, but in such a way that you're both interested in what the other likes. So you end up trying new things all the time and helping each other find new interests and so on...
Just talk to him and take it one step at a time, slowly like one night only, or in the garden just to see what it feels like, or at the beach, trying the sleeping bag to see what it feels like, or the air mattress and eventually showing him it isn't so bad. Go to a camp site during the day for a picnic or just to hang out and show him what it's gonna be like!
LOL, the camping thing makes me laugh because my ex tried to convince me to do it. We never got around to it, but my reason for not liking it is because I'm a germaphobe, and being out in the woods with no toilets and ready access to showers grosses me out. I'll sleep on the ground, in a tent, provided that it's not cold. But I need a bathroom and shower facility, and I refuse to do it for longer than a weekend. Your boyfriend might be a lot like me, so if you're wondering what his mindset is, this might help.
He hates Mcdonalds. I could live there. It causes no end of arguements, I swear!! oxo.
If there's something my SO won't do, then that's that. Why do you have to phrase it as something he has to do *for* you - maybe giving this up something you're not willing to do *for* him. Why force the person you love to do something he's not going to enjoy? Do you really want to drag your partner to something that not only sounds like it will make him miserable, but will likely last a few days? Do you think doing so will somehow benefit your relationship?
If camping is so important to you, go with other friends who enjoy it. Then, when you get back, you can do something together you *both* enjoy. Besides, its healthy for a relationship for two people to do things on their own from time to time.
well u can go with pp who enjoy..compromise dear..;)
@computerpunk41 - Thanks for the suggestions! My SO and I really do have a lot in common, that's just one of the things we don't share.
@missleshya - I realize that, I just wanted to hear other couples random activities that they don't mutually agree on in because surely I'm not the only one.
@KTlou85@xanga - omg my SO loves McDonald's...maybe we'll just go camping in the ball pit with big macs. i think he'd be up for that :)
@lovemasquerade@xanga - It is personal. That's part of why I want to see it - I want him to share that with me.
Also, it's really fucking hot.
@oOBuBBLes711Oo@xanga - Haha, you should. I let my boyfriend watch me all he wants.
We don't see eye to eye on all of the music we listen to, but we have some common bands/songs we like... And he's said that even if he doesn't like the band, he'd go to a concert just so he could spend time with me. :x
I don't know if there's anything we absolutely won't do for each other... We both want to learn to play guitar and do karate-ish things... And I'm pretty sure he said he wouldn't mind trying a dancing class with me. :)
You could just do what my girlfriend always does... Threaten to bring some other guy... Might be the only option, either that or make trade offs with him. Go see the new Fast and the furious movie with him, or bake him some of his favorite cookies, or go to a ball game with him. Make compromises, not fights.