I am an unusual girl.
Well, maybe not SO unusual. To sum it up, I'm not one of those bubbly, sweet, flirty girls who wants everything in hot pink. Everyone knows a lot of those, am I right? But I really fit more into the categories known as tomboyish, headstrong, stubborn, quick-witted...I'm sure you know a handful of these types, too.
Now, when it comes to the two stereotypes and their love lives, the "bubblies" seem to always have the best of luck. For "strong" women, however, it's usually hit or miss, at least in my experience.
It makes perfect sense that guys are attracted to a little frailness in a girl. They want to feel like the protector, the provider, the property owner. Men want to feel strong, and shy, sweet girls help with that.
HOWEVER...For some guys, it seems, intelligence and strong personality are a big turn-on. They want a girl that's nice to look at, but who is also confident, spunky and has a dynamic personality.
Now here are my questions for you (guys especially): Why is it that some guys really like the strong types rather than pretty bubbleheads? Is intelligence and ambition appealing to you? Where do you draw the line between take-charge and just plain abusive/bitchy? And are guys who like tomboyish girls really less manly themselves?
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Yes, we are attracted to strong women. I want a woman who can make sandwiches all day and not get tired. kthxbai.
Strength is sexy. Knowledge is sexy.
The thing about women like us is that we attract men like ourselves. We are drawn to something extra... something more. If we wanted just another guy, we wouldn't be as strong and as sensual as we are. There is something extremely appealing about a woman who can hold her own, and one day there will be a guy who will come and admire that appeal.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Lol making sandwiches can be quite the workout
@Olyachka@xanga - Dude I agree. I'm kind of sarcastic and I love teasing people esp guys and I love guys who can be tease back (:
**Who can tease back**
@greatsneha@xanga - Exactly moi point. Rawr.
I'm aggressive and opinionated. A lot of guys call that being bitchy. But they love it regardless and it turns them on.
Lol men are 2 easy.
fiery intelligence behind those pretty eyes are a definite turn on
RAWR. k, nao m I hotz?
Some men just like a girl who can throw a punch and curse bitches out. Oh, and fart. Some guys like girls they can fart in front of.
Anyways, I'm tomboyish (from what my husband and guy friends tell me), stubborn, willful, "I'm gonna do
wtf I want" type of woman and my hubby LOVES it. He thinks it's so
hot. Plenty men love that in a girl because it says "I dont NEED you,
but I want you" and they don't have to worry about us. We can hold our
own, and we're able to challenge them. Kind of girl that says "keep up or get left behind"...and no one wants to be left behind.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Yeah. Any guy who can make sammiches is a BIG turn on for me as well.
@mayanao@xanga - I make a killer sandwich, srsly.
I'm a little of both because I'm so short and look all innocent which my boyfriend loves but I'm also a little spitfire. And one of the few intelligent blonds haha.
Boys were taught by society that they should be the strong one, the provider. However, the roles of men and women in the work force and in relationships is quickly changing with more women getting higher education and women equal (and sometimes outnumbering) men in the work force. Boys are just taking a little longer to adjust to these changes than women. While women embraced and exploited these changes; men are more reluctant to accept the change in their roles, so they look for the girl who will give them more traditional relationship roles.
yeah who else iz gunna fix stuf aroun the house wennit brakes or change a tyre or or or beat up guyz who pik on me in the barz
it's the acceptance of the Modern Man. A modern man can find strengths and confidence in himself so that he can measure up to a modern woman; we are modern women btw.... opinionated, confident, strong-willed, intelligent and furthest thing from shy, giggly, hot-pink wearing flirty girls who assume the world will wait on them because they're such "girls." Whereas I am like you...I too have been called "weird", difficult, strong, dominant personality that needs a "strong" man to handle.
Not that we're not flirty...but we're assertive. Some guys can't handle that change yet... they're still looking for damsels in distress because they're insecure about themselves. *(shrug) they can argue that it's a matter of preference like height and physical beauty but i think the modern man just knows what he wants to find in a partner, not someone he can dote and babysit.
yes (duhhhh)
My thing with strong women is that incase I'm not around, I want them to be able to take care of themselves. Let's say the girlfriend is on a girl's night out and a thief confronts them. Well, if I'm not around, I'd hope they can fend for themselves if possible. I may be strong in the arms, but I think my girlfriend beats me in leg strength from all the horseback riding she once did. LOL!
Bubble heads are filled with pretty person air. Fine print: Intelligence not included. People like intelligent partners so they aren't stuck talking to a blank face every time they mention a great piece of history.
Intelligence and ambition are very important to me. Which is why every time I find out someone I've been crushing on doesn't know what he's doing in life, and is just wasting time and money by taking useless courses, I kind of frown and say, "well. It was nice while it lasted." (And you'd be surprised how many times that can happen to a person...).
Anyway...The line between take-charge and abusive should be easy, I think. Decisions should be made 50/50 between a couple. If not possible, and if one has more expertise in one topic than the other, then they should divide responsibilities and live up to reasonable expectations.
And I have no idea why a guy dating a tomboyish girl would be less manly. That doesn't really make sense to me. Some guys like tomboyish girls because they seem more independent, while others like to take care of their girls. It's pretty different with everyone.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - lol. Mm...deli meat...
@methodElevated@xanga - Hahaha you're so funny!
I think so. I think they are. But prolly they want to still be the stronger in the relationship. Hehehe but that's just me, making a wild guess being that I've never been a guy in my life.
Some men like the dominatrix. Their fetish is to be bossed around by a mommy figure.
I would like the girl to be able to take care of her self, and doesn't act like a pet which needs caring constantly. How to draw the line between take-charge and just plain abusive/bitchy? That would depends on the situations and if she gives the guy respect and space when doing those. I like tomboyish girls too, it's just a personal preference.
most guys i know LOVE intelligence and ambitions and determinations, but (usually) they don't like it when a girl appears to be stronger than them, because they are expected to be the strong one. not the girl