There's a new Twitter tool called
reboundfinder, which allows people to search for people who recently broke up with (or were dumped by) their significant other.
The reboundfinder motto/bio listed: "
Helping you find people who may be on the rebound. Sicko." While I do think that people are likely to put their relationship status in their Twitter update bar, I don't know if people necessarily do it to publicize their breakups.
...but maybe they do.
The last time I broke up with/was dumped by my ex-boyfriend (there were multiple times), I remember calling my best friend to let her know what had happened. Because it happened over the summer, we never really dealt with people gossiping about the end of our relationship, which was nice. Other times, our splits spread like wildfire through the halls of my high school, totally irritating me.
If I wanted people to know, I could have just put it on my MySpace (Twitter/Facebook status updates weren't around at the time
).
When you break up with/are dumped by your SO, do you like to talk about it? Or would you rather keep your feelings to yourself?
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I don't see a reason to talk about it. If it's a serious relationship that I was in for a while, I wouldn't want to talk about it, I'd be too upset. I can understand people saying "I'VE BROKEN UP WITH ____!" if it was only a week long relationship though. It wasn't that important to them to begin with.
I usually give myself a couple of days to wallow before I let it hit the internet anywhere. Then, I usually have one of my friends log in and change my relationship status for me... Something about canceling a relationship feels funny to me.
I only like to talk about it with my best friend. I won't discuss it with anyone else.
i didn't let anyone know last time, which made it awkward when we went back to school in fall and people just assumed we were together =/
With my first serious girlfriend after we mutually decided to call it quits, I had a bunch of free texts and minutes to use up on my cell phone, so even though we agreed on just letting our friends at school figure it out for themselves, I went ahead and texted everyone about it.
Oooops. We live and learn.
Now, I'm much more likely to keep it private... though I've found me "keeper" so it's something that I'm fortunate enough not to worry about... too much.
i would first keep to myself for a week. cut some. and then tell someone about it.
i tell close friends then when it dies down, i am more comfortable saying it on the web, but not specifically.
I'll tell my friends when I'm ready, but other than that, my misery belongs with me. It shouldn't drag along some company.
I only tell my close friends.
hay i was just broken up with today, by a guy i have been with for over a year... the only people i have spoke to about is my bestfriend and my family
but i did change my relationship status of facebook and myspace
I keep my feelings to myself.
I don't need people to gossip.
I talked about the surface of what happened to my best friends, but I usually hides the real emotions and feelings inside. I tried not to publicize about my breakup 'cause I don't like having everyone come and ask me what happen when they are just trying to find some gossip. It gets annoying.
My last relationship, which I thought was perfect, was just...ended terribly. I ended up heartbroken really badly, and now I'm here, still trying to recover.
I needed to talk about it...I still do.
But with my other relationships, I didn't have to talk about it too much.
I guess depending on how serious the relationship was, and how badly hurt I was.
depends on what kind of person you are, how you interact w/ your support group. it doesn't work very well to talk to best friends when.. she was your best friend.
but publicizing it for eeeeveryone to see?
it's always been an option. it used to be more forced (w/ email) or anonymous (xanga/myspace/blogger) read-at-your-leisure/risk, but now... everyone is plugging into the 'know-what-youre-doing-every-second-of-the-day' information overload - i don't know. the new 'generation' would love this, but i think (i'm in my 20s so it's not like i'm old) a line oughta be drawn. in the end you just want people to see/echo off your feelings. but w/ the way networks have allowed proliferation of information to people who really aren't your 'close' friends.. maybe it's a little too much? besides, if you coudln't tell someone face to face or in one-to-one communication (phone/IM/etc.) then you probably are better off not telling them in the first place? just my 2 c.
We girls would definitely call our close girlies/family members to let them in on the sad(?) news, but there is really no need to 'publicise' unless of course, you feel proud for dumping, or better yet, for being dumped. I think its a kind of respect for the other party (yes he/she is now an ex, but you once love each other don't you?) to keep things between the both of you. So if one day people eventually finds out, then that's a whole different story.
I don't call up my friends to tell them or anything, I just wait until they ask.
I haven't been in a relationship throughout the 'Facebook relationship status' age yet, so I don't know what I would do in that situation.
I find when the situation happens, i want to tell my closest only. It's a very personal thing and not for others to 'gossip' about. I HATE gossip!
I change my relatioship status on facebook, but I delete the notice that shows up on people's home pages; if they check then that can see what it says.
When my boyfriend and I broke up the first time I told a few closer friends and my parents, but when we got back together and broke up again I didn't tell anyone but my best friend, not even my family. I was tired of everyone having an opinion.
I haven't really been in a relationship since these status updates came into my life. So I dunno. But seeing as how I pulse/update about everything else, I don't see why I wouldn't.
I talk about it with my close friends/family, but I also change my relationship status on Facebook, so everyone finds out one way or another.
depends...on how sad i am...
It depends on the severity of the break-up. Sometimes break ups are too hard to talk about. But if the guy was a total jerk and loser...I'll let the whole world know.
Usually i will not even update after recently my fren tweaked with it. i dont want to publicize anything..really cos i think its nothing glamorous to talk about.
If I had a girlfriend and we broke up. I will only tell me close friends and (family members) I would not post it on any blogging site including Xanga, no social sites i.e Myspace and Facebook.