Miss FoxMy boyfriend and I are coming up on our two year anniversary - which is the longest, most committed relationship that either of us has been in.
Both of our anniversaries have fallen/will fall on the last day of spring break, and last year we were away (as we will be this year).
We both agreed that our first anniversary was a big deal, but our second isn't really too huge. Even though it's both of our longest relationship, we've already been-there-done-that with everything. We've already exchanged Christmas, birthday and Valentine's Day gifts in the past three months, so not only are gifts sort of repetitive right now, but I think we're both strapped for ideas.
I've always said that I'd rather go somewhere over getting a material gift. Sure, I like jewelry and flowers and all that jazz, but I'm much more of a traveler than a gift-getter. So, this year, we'll be going to Savannah, GA and Myrtle Beach, SC with a bunch of our friends for our spring break. We've already agreed to spend our actual anniversary alone, but other than that, we plan on having a blast with our friends that week.
So what's the big deal with anniversaries? Is there a "rule" to when you should expect gifts? Would you rather get a gift or go out on a date with your SO for your anniversary?
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A date is better than a gift for this to me, but I usually give a gift.
Mmmmm... I have never been with a guy who has celebrated anniversaries... The guy I'm engaged to is very into just random spontaneous gifts, which in my opinion is SOOOO much better. I would much rather get little stuff throughout the year just because he was thinking of me than just on certain occasions. But that is just my opinion. And if your guy is into the random thing as well as the anniversary thing, you're lucky. I would love to be able to celebrate the fact that I've spent such a beautifully amazing ____(fill in blank) years with my guy if I were you. :]
I always act like anniversaries and holidays are not a big deal, but truthfully I would be thrilled if my husband made a bigger deal out of it. He is the one that remembers dates and gives me a hard time because I dont, and yet he just lets the days pass without commemerating them. If I do something for him he either does not show up or laughs off my gift since he doesn't have one for me. We actually talked about a few of the special things that he had gotten me when our relationship was brand new, seems that "we" were more important then! This year though he made a small attempt at V-day, but not as much as I had hoped, there is always next year though! M
I would rather get small gifts here and there than a big gift on the actual anniversary. A date night out on the town would be awesome enough for the anniversary. I like the little thoughts here and there that counts.
Anniversaries designed to be mini-Valentine's Days. Hallmark just invented them to make more money off poor hapless souls that have to spend money on their women. I think the "6 month" anniversary is their latest abomination. I've even heard of "3 month" anniversaries.
Date for sure. Stuff is just stuff. Have an awesome time!
I'd rather go out on a "date" with my husband on anniversaries. I'm not a very materialistic person. For our 1st wedding anniversary (which was also our 4th anniv together) he brought me a single rose at work and took me out to lunch. That was perfect. The previous year, we got married on our anniversary (3 yr) and we spent time w. family before spending 2 nights in a hotel on the beach here in SC (then a week at a diff hotel, and a week on a cruise for the honeymoon). Went on a date for our first anniversary, and another on our 2nd, when he proposed to me.
Anniversaries are like little milestones of your relationship, but typically my boyfriend and I celebrate the months leading up to the 1st year of our relationship. So the big 1 year anniversary and then after that no more celebrations of the months and I think the next one to celebrate would be 3 and then 5th year ...after that hopefully he should've married you by then.
As for me, I would rather go on vacation with my boyfriend rather then get material things. And the same for him too.
In our first, second, and going to be third year anniversary for my marriage - usually, I just tell my husband what I want or for him to take me on a shopping spree. lol. Yes, I'm materialistic. As for him, he just wants to a massage. He always does. It's really no biggie to us since we've been together for almost six years.
Both of us don't make a huge deal out of them, just another day. Though he has been bringing up our 6-month one a bit, I think mainly cause it lands on the first day of spring, and he's kinda an outdoorsy person. We'll def celebrate our 1 year though. Just time to spend with him is all I ask for for anniversaries and such.
I rather go out and make a great memory with someone for our anniversary first. I would give out gifts as well, but that's secondary.
Well it took us an entire year to settle when is our anniversary, and we decided to be on his birthday. The first year was great, well more like celebrating his birthday but it was fine. I planned out lots of small surprises, like a card, bought him his favorite game, baked cookies, took him to a nice restaurant by surprise, oh and I had fireworks too. He was really touched, and I think that was the first time I saw him cry out of joy.
The second year I did something different, I took him to his favorite restaurant, bought him some thoughtful small gifts. He loved it.
This year, we are planning to go to Vegas.
What did he do for me? He treated me like a queen the entire day, haha. No, he got me stuff, he remembers and would be the first one to say happy anniversary, he took me to places that I like and buy me things that he knew I have been wanting to have. I think spending an entire day together doing things we love to do is already good enough.
we acknowledge the day, maybe say something about it. mostly, we just like to spend time in each other's company. don't need an anniversary for that :D
I don't particularly like to celebrate dates when something ordinary and arbitrary happened. And I especially don't understand why materialism is encouraged as a method of celebrating such an occurrence.
Every month for the first year that my boyfriend and I dated he got me something. It was really sweet and I'm not gonna lie, I was kinda sad when I stopped getting those gifts. I guess I just liked the fact that he thought it was still important.
my boyfriend and i never really celebrated our 1-year, or even our 2nd Valentine's together. it would've been nice to do something to acknowledge it. like an official thing, kinda like you going to myrtle beach. we kinda did something.. went to the mall, bought each other a gift and just called it "part of our 1-year" haha except this was done like three weeks in advance. i mean, i'm not asking for a parade or a showering of gifts, but just doing something that we usually never do. :/. it was also pretty half-assed haha
it's def understandable to be strapped in both cash and ideas after the holidays and valentine's and new year's haha our "anniversary" is around early jan so i feel you. and my birthday is nov and his is dec, so it's like a;klsdjf;kladjf omg no more celebrating anything by the time it's our anniversary & valentine's day
I hate people who celebrate their anniversaries EVERY MONTH.
I think each year is a good mark for celebration. Another year that you've put up with someone's crap =P (Kidding...sort of. haha)
Personally, my boyfriend and I just plan out "Us-days" We turn off our cell phones, disconnect from the internet and just spend time together - watching movies, exhanging massages...and other physical pleasures =P Sometimes we cook a meal together, or go out.
It's a nice, cheap but still romantic way to celebrate how long we've been together. And it works for us. *shrug*
I've never done presents for anniversaries, I just think it's a great excuse to go out on a date - particularly if you've been dating for a while and you've gotten out of the habit of actually doing stuff together.
I'm more of the "spend the whole day together" type for anniversaries. Gifts aren't something that should be required. So I guess in a sense I'm with you on having a date anniversary rather than gift giving.
i like to dump my boyfriend on our anniversary.
just kidding =P
i'd rather go on a date. gifts are over-rated.
@zubes5806@xanga - gifts are not overrated hahahhahaha
simple things matter.
He can get a one rose. a letter. a card. or something that reminds him of me - or something we share together..
But no, you don't need a gift every month ~ but do DO something together even if it's not your anniversary to keep the relationship alive and intresting..
Although we aren't together. We shared something special together.
I sent him a cologne - Dolce& Gabbannnnaaa - "The One" with an engraved word that says..Remember
It's just one of those things that gets your heart. You know? Needless it be big or small, it's something.
And it all counts.
I agree, I would much rather go out somewhere and have fun with my boyfriend.
BTW, I go to school in Savannah, GA -- it's a beautiful town! You should check out Forsyth Park and Tybee, definitely :)
i think anniversaries are sweet... :)