I think you need closure.  What will help make you feel better after you've done it?  Maybe giving back stuff you've exchanged, having a talk, or just not talking for a short while? Or you can just try to focus on other things in life while you let time heal whatever wounds are left open.  Good luck =]

I was in the same position you are right now. I have been single for over a year and just enjoying my life with my family.

If you only miss him when your alone, my guess is you need to just fill that time with something so your not pondering and doing all the "What if's"

It is hard, very very hard, just do some serious soul searching on what you really want in your life.

there's no way of telling...it just happens...

you just need time

It's different for everyone. It took me 4-5 months before I was sure I was completely over my ex and was ready to start thinking about dating again, though it was about another 16 months or so before I did end up dating again but I was fine with that because I was spending more time with friends again and doing the things I loved that never got to do with that boyfriend. Whereas my friend it took her less time, I think only about 2-3 months to get over her ex and then less than a month after that to find someone new. It's always different but what's important is that it just takes time, time that you need to really get over your current heartache. Best wishes to you.

That's tough.

I don't think there's really a point where you're "over" someone, although sometimes people do just wake up and it's done.

I believe you're getting over him.. you're just at the in-between state right now but eventually it'll fade.

you know when you're over someone when you can't remember what it's like to be with that person or how to feel about that person

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. My ex and I broke up always..to make up. We broke up quite a few times actually over the course of a summer. We were together for approximately 1 year on and off. It wasn't until he went off to school elsewhere is when I finally got the courage to leave him for good.

It took time, but towards the end I had fallen completely out of love with him. I believe that was why I didn't come running back to him after 3 days. We never could stay away for longer than a week. I ran out of reasons to be with him and because of our lack of communication, we never resolved any of our problems. So as soon as I realized this, that we can never be happy together, the sooner I stopped hurting. You'll run back to him because of familiarity, but considering all the times you guys broke up... there are problems you both are not fixing or it is unfixable.

If you are to be with him, be with him whole-heartedly not half-assedly. If you are to be with him, then try and fix what is wrong. If you can't then please stop seeing him. You'll only keep hurting yourself if you continue this way. Good luck.

Your first date is always a memorable one.

Think of the issues on why you guys break up from the past? Was it jealousy coming from his attention given to others? Well, if he deeply cares about you, it can happen to him too when you intentionally do the same or not. Otherwise, it is questionable on whether the attraction is mutual or not. 

Any arguments based on incompatibilities before? People can adjust themselves to changes if they try to accommodate a new environment or a new part of their lives .

What is the actual problems between you and him? Understanding that helps to reconcile or move on...

A person can only let go when issues can't be solved between the two, no matter how many times they tried. There's just no future when it comes to stability, unless, that's not even a problem for some.  

i think u miss the idea of liking and being with him, but not him. also, closure would probably help hasten the process but you are def on your way of completely getting over him. it's harder to deal with when you have no distractions (home by yourself) but even that will pass, and you will become a hopefully stronger and more independent woman by the end of this =] try to think of it as a growing experience

@k_emetib@xanga - Agreed. When I moved to another city and was feeling like there weren't many romantic prospects, I started thinking about one of my exes. And it's not because he was great (he wasn't - we had broken up for several good reasons) - it's because I was bored and lonely. When I started dating again and making new friends, the feeling passed.

If u are really over him, u wont be talking abt him in this blog. when u are truly out of him - as in out of sight out of mind, you wouldn't be asking us about him. That is just an attempt to get him out of your mind..and its hard to get pp out of our minds forever its the feeling just goes away somehow.

Trust me, I've been trying to figure that out too... I broke up with my boyfriend of two years in August, and yeah. As soon as we broke up we didn't talk to each other for a month, and in September we decided to try the whole friends thing... We met up somewhere and he told me how he still wanted to be friends and how I was an important part of his life and how he missed me as his best friend blah blah blah...so for most of September we spoke (mainly through text messages). And then all the sudden he just broke off all communication, unfriended me on Facebook, on top of that he blocked me from Facebook, and we haven't spoken to each other since October.

There are times that I know I'm over him, which is most of the time; I've had this one steady guy for a while, and when that didn't go anywhere... My point is that its not like I've been alone since we broke up. I'm really happy, etc etc.

But I just hate it that sometimes when I'll be alone I'll still want some closure and I still want I dunno something to make me feel like I am over him.... I know I don't like him or love him anymore. I know I don't want him back and I know I don't want anything to do with him, but I don't know there is still something missing....