Sunday, 01 March 2009
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Scandalish: The Race Card
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Are there some races or ethnicities you'd refuse to date for whatever reason? Can you explain why?
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Black, Asian, Mexican, and any other color except white.
*Just so everyone knows, I was kidding. Color shouldn't be a major factor in a relationship EVER, but my girlfriend is white, so I'm happy right now.*
Oh crap I forgot to log out first. Oh well.
I've only dated in my race and I married within my race. I think that's just how it happened....I never really thought about it.
I don't know if there is a race I wouldn't date, I guess it depends on the person.
I once dated an indian guy and dealing with his family was a nightmare. They didn't accept me because I was white and therefore was not good enough for their son. It would make me think twice about dating another indian because a lot of their families are like that. Wouldn't stop me completely though, if I really fell in love with an indian guy with a traditional family then I guess we would just have to work around it. But it would make me hesitant.
I would like to think I have an open mind when it comes to the people I date, but I'm not. I'm too judgmental and too biased and too indifferent to care to change my perspective.
I'm very selective and if I were to take the time to get to know every single guy I come across, I would be going on too many dates and wasting a lot of energy pretending to be interested when I'm not. I'm not racist, but I have preferences.
Yes, but I'd never admit it openly.
Romance Racism ftw.
i just cant imaginine a rezun for narrowing the dating/sex/bf pool men are beautiful no matter the race or kultchr etcÂ
no, i don't think i'd refuse to date anybody based on their race. i live in a very accepting area, so most couples you see are interracial. i'm dating a brazilian and i'm white, but i've never even thought about it like that until i saw "true life: i'm in an interracial relationship."
Race? No. Ethnicities? Yes.
I feel like people don't choose their race, but they do choose their "ethnicity" in a sense. Like, do they accept or reject the culture in which they were raised?
I don't care if I look like the person I'm dating, but we need to be culturally compatible.
I always feel like people would be more selective against me than the other way around because I'm hispanic. As long as they don't think I'm going to hot wire their car, get in ridiculous fights in which I make sure to take off my giant hoop earrings and call someone a puta, or other stereotypical bull. And it always comes down to asians because, at least around here, asian guys 99.999% of the time are with an asian girl. That .0001% chance that it's another race will more than likely fall to a white girl.
I can't date my own ethnic group. It's a major turn off.
it's not a race thing really, but i hate the thug/ghetto look, so a lot of guys are out for that reason....and since a lot of black guys go for the thug/ghetto look, it's an automatic fail.
same thing with guido guys, blech...
It is what it is, I'm not going to log out since it's my preferences and people can't change what I want if I'm not attracted to them for whatever reason.
I don't mind any ethinicities as friends, but when it comes to dating, for some reason, I don't know why, I'm just not attracted to Blacks, Mexicans, etc., even my own ethnicity.
I can tell when someone from that background is extremely attractive, but still I wouldn't be attracted to them.
This one black guy was trying to hook up with me and I just refused. And he was like why not? I didn't want to tell him it was because I don't prefer black guys without sounding a bit racist, so I just used the excuse that he has a kid and I dunno, but I'm just not attracted to people with kids. I don't want any baggage.
I also just don't see myself with an Asian even though I'm Asian. All I have ever dated/hooked up with were white guys. I guess like white guys who have yellow fever, I have um...white fever? lol. I did have a thing for pretty boys for a while, but it isn't just limited to pretty boys. If he's a nice average-looking Joe, I could give them a chance, too.
Plus, my options are limited from where I live anyway, so even if I did want to date an Asian, or something, they all just want to be my friends and there aren't that many Asians around where I am.
It's kind of weird, I'm Asian, but I could just not see myself dating another Asian.
I guess I've never been as into the culture as other people would be, and I don't want to always feel behind, or something... so I've never been attracted to Asian women, even ones that would be impossibly "hot" by other people's standards.
I'm not really attracted to anyone but white people either, sadly... at least, not yet. ;)
- John
I am all in support of interracial dating... I can't be against because if there were no mixed couples there would be no me... I would date anyone but I can only see marrying a black man... that swagg gets me everytime!!!
Race doesn't matter to me, as long as we're able to find enough common ground between our clutures.
In a previous Datingish post I pointed out how there was no trend in the guys I've been interested in, as far as race goes. In the future I'd like to have the experience of dating a Japanese or Korean guy, but for some strange reason none have expressed any interest in me...wonder why that is.
I don't know how many times I've told people--especially my dad--this, but the color of someone's skin isn't a good indicator of their personality. Ethnic groups are stereotyped because we force them to be that way.
Actually I went through a period where I only dated outside my race. Partially because I liked pissing my racist dad off, but mostly because I'm adopted and I had a long standing fear I'd end up with a brother...hahahaha.
Anyways, I've dated black, white, Filipino, asian, i liked a mexican once...it really doesn' tmatter to me.
If it matters to you I suggest reading the book "if you come softly".
No, however I would be carefully because one of relative he can be really funny sometimes.
For me I had the chance to date another race, but at the time I thought it was very sweet of her asking me on a date, but the timing was wrong.
I'd like to say I'm open-minded, but my mom told me she absolutely does not want me to date a African-American man; and instead wants me to go with a white or Asian man.
I don't really care about race or skin color. As long as we have a good time, and if I'm comfortable around him, it's all good.
I am not biased when it comes to dating outside of my race. However, like someone mentioned above, we do have to be culturally compatible.
And now that I think about it, I was putting the moves on a white boy at dance yesterday. I'm an Asian girl :).
i treat all races the same... i've been attracted to guys of just about every race except native american, and that's only because i've actually never met one, somehow. i don't know how that works because our town name is actually a native american name and our high school mascot was the "braves" but eh...
even though i've been attracted to a bunch of different races, so far i've only dated chinese guys and one white guy. i don't know if that's because i really prefer them more or if it's just because that's who my social circle tends to include
I like half Mexican/white boys. They are just cute.
Xo
I've only dated Asians or Caucasian guys. I have, however, liked Hispanic guys before. My boyfriend is actually 3/4 Mexican and 1/4 Caucasian(:.
I actually don't see myself dating any African-Americans or middle eastern guys. I mostly prefer Asians, Caucasians, and Hispanics. Oh, and I don't think I would date an Italian guy either. I don't like guys with thick curly hair. Lol!
I have been really attracted to members of every skin color and major ethnicity. Except, perhaps, Australian bushmen, (probably not major anyway) but that might be because I've never seen a young one.
I would never refuse to date someone based on "race." That is just silly. If cultural differences were so major that we'd have huge problems, that would be something to seriously consider, but "race" alone? No way.
Just throwing this in: Just from my own experience, it seems like every biracial or multiracial person I know is really attractive. In general, I find so many people who are of more than one race super good-looking.