Saturday, 28 February 2009
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The Poor Schmuck That Lost Me
Expanding on my last pulse...I've had many males in my life that I aptly dub "boyfriends". They normally don't last too long, just a few fun times together until I realize what kind of people they really are. In theory, they would be great boyfriends if it weren't for this flaw here, or that flaw there. Personally, I think I'm a great girlfriend. I'm attentative, I'm easy-going, a little jealous but not to the point where I make random drive-bys to your ex's house to egg their car make sure you aren't there. I love to just hang out and have a good time, have some laughs; no drama here. But when I meet some of these guys that I end up "committing" to, I find myself wondering why I even agreed to in the first place.
When we inevitably break up, of course I'm a little sad. One because now I am once again alone, looking for the next guy to fill the hole in my heart and also because I did like the guy; even just a little bit. But ultimately, I just feel sorry for the poor guy. Why? All modesty aside...
Because I think I would have been the best thing that happened to him.
Am I the only one that feels this way?
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- From: StewieIsMyHero@xanga
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Haha, funny thing is, they might feel the same way about themselves. Or, y'know, their friends will say so. Haha.
That's how I feel for the girls that have been with me but messed up =P
It's alright though, I just keep looking forward and make the next girl the happiest girl in the world.
Wow! Where's your sympathy? No offense, but you sound kinda detached and conceited. You're perfect and they're just not good enough for you?
I feel the same way =) and it makes me happy because it's his loss.
No, everyone usually feels this way. That doesn't mean it's true. The best thing that ever happened to him is yet to happen to him, and I'm sure he doesn't feel that way. It's the same thing when you get dumped. You wait for the next best thing.
Sounds completely narcissistic,self-loving and conceited. I think it's time to re-evaluate your opinion of yourself.
A lot of people seem to feel that way.
They break up with someone or someone leaves them, and they are like "Oh, it's his/her loss."
I don't think that's true. You might be a very good person, but chances are that the other person was too. If it's his loss, it's perhaps yours too. Either that, or he thinks it is.
@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - @Purple_Velvet@xanga - I have to agree with these two.
Everyone or most like to think they're a great person to their significant others but if it really was, you two would still be together. I don't ever think anyone is "better" than the other or "it was his/her loss" when the relationship itself didn't work out. Apparently, it didn't work out because both parties didn't want it enough to work it out or, you just fell out of love with one another.
Its probably because of that attitude is the reason why all of your relationships FAIL! And you shouldn't be looking for any guy to fill any hole. . .uhhhh not literally anyways.
" am once again alone, looking for the next guy to fill the hole in my heart"
Your frame seems to be that you are not complete without a man. The "fill the hole in my heart" metaphor...is a red flag. You and he should complement each other...not fix each other.
That said...be happy when men who were ultimately inappropriate for you move on. Keep putting yourself out there and be positive about how (and why) you do it...and you will meet the might person eventually.
I feel the same way too and a couple of guys (and their mothers) have told me that I was the thing they ever lost...
But honestly, I think all women and people should feel like this... if you don't think you're the best thing stroking who will?
I understand what you mean.
Maybe I'm narcissistic as well, but I have thought this before. After pouring more effort into a particular guy than he deserves, and having him screw it up.... It's easy to feel that way. Whether the statement is accurate or not, I don't think you're wrong to feel that way.
@Lifes_Bookmark@xanga - amen! :)
i agree :)
Hmmmm
cocky much?
I feel the same way.
But I've also never been dumped.
The only thing that can fill the hole in your heart is loving yourself first. With no hole, you are free to love unconditionally.
@jeezshoua@xanga - I've to agree with these three.
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I think a lot of guys miss out on me as a person when they reject me as a nonsexual. So in a way I can say I have felt this way, but not in a "I could have been the best thing that ever happened to you" way, because obv I couldn't, because I'm sure the best thing to happen to most guys has to include sex at some point. But maybe that's just me being cynical.
Everyone has their flaws. The only way to make it work is to accept those flaws and try to help your SO make up for their flaws, and they help you make up for yours.
Everyone you come across in life changes you in some way, whether it's big or small. I guess what you're trying to say is that you made a big (positive) change in their lives, and now they've lost the root of that change. You're probably right, cus like my physics teacher always says, guys don't deserve girls! ;)
Ugh, don't you hate when commentors psycho-analyze you like they have a degree in the topic?
As a society we are some of the most self-involved people out there. And people are coming out saying KP is narcissistic? It's called self-reflection, and I'm almost positive all of you do it for a good part of your day.
And people who have Xangas? Cool for the most part, but ALL of us have a little inclination to being more self-involved than most non-bloggers. So give me a damn break, already. Why don't you look at your own narcissistic habits before you judge others ? Thanks :).
Maybe sub-consciously you really aren't at the point where you truly want to be in a relationship with these guys. To be honest, I think the best things that happen to these men is that you guys broke up cause why waste his time or yours.
@heyjulsiscoo@xanga - Agreed.
@heyjulsiscoo@xanga - I knew I loved you for a reason. <3
@mirsalient@xanga - Thank you!