Saturday, 28 February 2009
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How I Beat Heartbreak
I promised myself I wouldn't talk about the other ones, but these days, I came with a wonderful way to get over a broken heart. The technique is this: what have you always wanted to do in your life? Or what do you have to do? Do it now. It's easy to feel bad because you have nothing, but it's a good help to keep busy to get your mind off of it.I remember my last girlfriend dumped me, and instead of wallowing all over her, I decided to just move on. After all, life goes on, and lovers come and go. I though to myself, well, I lost this love. What's my next love? And I decided I wanted to make music. I currently do psytrace, 8-bit electronica, taught myself piano, and I'm teaching myself how to play the guitar. Sure, I thought of her more, but it wasn't a miserable issue. I got to keep her at bay.
Another thing is that whatever s/he bought or gave you, give it back. The more you keep it, the more you think of her/him, and nobody wants to think about someone that either tried to hurt you or was incredibly clumsy with your heart. So, I went and sent most of her things back - even her pillowcase - and gave the bear away to someone else. Now, I can live in peace with someone else.
I like to do things easy. Instead of letting love get me down, I can just give stuff away or fold clothes. Today, I folded clothes to get over an argument, and I feel so much better, that I had no time to feel anything bad. You can do anything that keeps you so extra busy that you hardly have time to think about how s/he wronged you. And that is quite a healing technique. Heck, even Wilco wrote a song about this method.
What do you guys do to keep yourself from feeling that same old emptiness from after a breakup?
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What timing on this post. Exactly what I decided to do. I'm taking up voice lessons and dancing. Best wishes.
fold clothes? gahahha.
care to help my cupboard?
I found the thing that helps me get over anything best, be it anger, frustration, or a broken heart, is to keep loving. Surround yourself by things and people you love and push yourself to love them all, and more things, further.
It's so easy to say to yourself "That's it, I'm never going to love again!", but to love and love and love no matter what happens is what I've found to be the healthiest way to live my life.
Thanks for this post (=
I started going to the gym to let off some steam. It made me feel good mentally and physically.I'll take your advice and do something i enjoy.Nice.well what helps for me is studying very hard, immersing myself with work, going shopping, gymming, praying and asking god to help me out and then of course my friends who are always here for me and always on my side.
running
I'm not one to talk about my feelings, whether I'm angry, frustrated, gloomy or hurt. So I tend to bottle it up and hide it. I keep my mind off of it by working a lot and having a social life. Occasionally, those hidden feelings that I refuse to deal with come creeping back out, but I fight them until they go back where they belong.
I got back in touch with a lot of my friends and made plans to see them. A lot of my social life was through my boyfriend, but I enjoy having the extra time and now I can concentrate on ME.
try to be social... lean on your friends or family for support.
i cut my hair
got a tattoo
& two more piercings to add
hahahahaha yeah
I give stuff away to Good Will that they give me.
Good post. :)
To overcome my heartbreak, would do different activities like running, reading, and spending time with friends. :)
I don't think giving all the stuff back to the personb is a good idea. You're giving them the upper hand. You're letting them know you're hurting, and it's hurting you so bad just to have things around that this person possesed of bought for you. I think it's best to keep yourself busy, as much as possible, so you wont have to think about it as much.
I really admire you for your strength and determination to move on. I broke up with her 3months ago and find it hard to let go. She has degenerated into a loose girl and it really hurts.
You are right (: I will not let love get me down and I will move on. With God's help. Tks bro, good post.
Feel more empty and sad. Think about that someone who's responsible of making you feel this way. Eventually you'll get tired feeling this way. Trust me. I've been in this situation and owning the moment is the first step to self realization. :)
After I got dumped, I trained for and completed a triathlon, scored an internship, and am looking forward to spending a semested in africa. After the breakup I finally decided to get off my ass and stop moping, and now I have the time to do some really amazing things! Who knew getting your heart completely smashed could open so many doors...
I usually write in my journal and let exactly what I think and feel fill the papers. Afterward, I'll get a huge sigh of relief and just move on. I'm a fast mover so..., I usually don't whine and cry like most girls do.
Good suggestions. I just recently caught on to the wisdom of purging all the things that remind me of my ex. Any clothes that she gave me, and even ones that I bought when I was with her, I've given away to charity. I've also donated other gifts. And I've tossed our or recycled all the love notes, letters, photos and little things I kept as mementos.
I'm thinking of her a lot less these days, and it hurts less every week that goes by.
Distraction is good.
I also don't keep the things they gave me.
@ghostinparis@xanga - so true for me as well, thanks
Exercise.. join a gym. Go to bars/clubs and meet new people.
I already paint and draw so I don't need a new hobby, but it's really hard to do those while i'm depressed for some reason.
I do things that make me happy, or give me a serene feeling. Reading, talking to friends, swimming or playing badminton (if I ever get to pick up my racket again... =[), dancing, etc... It isn't really taking my mind off of something horrible as it is making new memories that will overwhelm the hurtful ones. It makes me feel like, "Yeah, I can get over this. Life is not over."
There's still so much to do in life, and if I spend extra time wallowing (extra = more than a day or two. Two is pushing it) in self-pity or depression, all the minutes I could have spent being happy are gone. Boo.
hahaaah..Kinda like the blog I posted after aweek's feeling of shit! ;) but not about Love..about life.
I don't think doing mindless tasks help you not to think about them. If anything, I think of them more when I wash dishes than when I'm doing work.
I also got a tattoo (it was previously scheduled, but I went through with it) after my last break up. I started school, got more jobs, etc. Doing what you want without considering spending time with somebody else is definitely worth it. We all find better love later.