I have been seeing this guy for about seven months now. I have always brought up the question of why we aren't dating yet. He always avoids the question by changing the subject or just choosing not to answer. I get so upset with him because he won't give me an answer.
He wants me to say that he can do whatever he wants with other girls and I won't care...but that isn't going to happen. I will never say that again. I did once and he ended up doing things with his ex twice. He said that he didn't know it was going to hurt me because I said he could do whatever he wanted with other girls. WTF? He says he didn't intentionally mean to hurt me...
Also...if I say he is allowed to do things with other girls, it's going to make him not want to because he has the choice between them or me....whereas if I say he can't, it will make him want to do things more with girls because he doesn't have the choice.
So he can go out and do whatever he wants, but if I were to do anything like that with one of my guy friends or even flirt with a guy, we would be over.
So my question is...why doesn't he want to date me? Am I not good enough? Should I even be wasting my time?
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It sounds like he's just not interested in dating. It's probably not you, but if you feel like the partnership that you guys have is unfair or unfavorable, you ought to get out.
On the other hand, if you break the terms of the agreement and find another guy, THIS guy might reconsider the terms of the agreement... it's a possibility!
he's such a jerk ....
leave him ~ he's wasting your time ~!!
You're wasting your time. Dump his ass and find a guy who really truly wants to only be with you, not other girls like this poor excuse of a guy.
Stupid boys belong in the dump.
he's selfish
leave him
sounds like he wants to be able to do anything he wants and you should just sit back and be okay with it.
and doesnt sound like he is ready to give up his single life.
he isn't ready for a relationship.
He has alerady messed with another girl and hurt you, I'm sure you don't want a repeat of that.
Xo
Definitely I agree with the others. Dump the useless jerk. He obviously doesn't want to be with just you, he's not ready for a one woman commitment. Find someone who is.
plain and simple he isnt ready to settle down, It doesnt matter if you say he can or cannot he is still going to do it. You said if you did the samething yall would be over but you just said you guys are not even dating so technically he can do whatever he wants as well as you can. Doesnt matter if he gets upset, doesnt matter if you get upset. yall not in a relationship together so no one has any say in what eachother does. One more thing make sure you use condoms STD's gets around pretty quickly if you dont protect yourself.
Um, he's had seven months to decide whether it's you or other girls - I think his decision is pretty obvious.
Don't wait around for the loser - find someone better, please, for your own sake.
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Agreed.
Are you a fool? Sorry to use that word but it fits perfectly.
If a guy doesnt want to commit to you there is nothing you can do about it.
Im guessing you never heard the phrase:::Dont make somone a priority when all you are to them is an option.
Keep him around as someone for your entertainment...bc honestly...that is all you are to him.
Plain and simple... ditch the pussy
Do you have self-esteem issues, because waiting around 7 months for a guy who has no real permanent interest in YOU has all signs pointing to low self-esteem.
Do yourself a favor and dump his ass.
He doesn't want to date you because he doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship. If he really wanted to date you, and only you, he would have made a move already.
Let him go.
What a douchebag. You should be glad he doesn't want to date you so you can save yourself the trouble of being hurt by him lying and cheating.
You have got to dump that guy. He will never lead to anything good, and you will end up broken hearted.
I agree with everyone else. He's keeping you as entertainment, not because he actually cares for you. If he actually cared for you he'd show more interest in how you feel about things, and he wouldn't be wanting to get with other girls. You're wanting a relationship yet you clearly stated numerous ways in which he just wants sex out of every female he comes across.
Dump him and find somebody who's worth your time.
You kind of said it yourself. You're wasting your time. If this guy can't see what a gem you are, then why bother investing your time in someone who pulls out b.s. answers like, "I didn't know sleeping with someone else while I'm seeing you would hurt you. My bad." Make him talk about it and determine, once and for all, whether or not you'll be exclusive. Maybe even give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't start to grovel (haha), or do some variant of it, I suggest you leave his butt with his ex.
And he "did stuff" with his ex twice? Either he's not over it, or he's addicted to sex.
Move on, you'll only be hurt if you stay with him. Some guys really are jerks.
Two words, dump him. He is using you as his ego booster. What a jerk.
Don't ever waste your time on anyone who makes you question your worth.
he does not worth of your time
dont be one of those girls that he messes around with
wasted TIME
HEART
AND EFFORT
forget about him.
i know it's hard and we can't hel p ourselves..
but FUCK HIM