Tuesday, 24 February 2009
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Public Displays of Aggression
When my husband and I went on a double date with his friend (Derek) and his girlfriend (Lisa) to watch a movie, we were in line behind this couple arguing while waiting in line to get their drinks and popcorn for the movie as well. From what I understand, the girl was pissed off at the boyfriend because he was late picking her up for the movies - now the movie had already started without them. The boyfriend argued that he had to pick up his younger sister from work, drop her off at home and then rush to pick her up. They also could have watched the same movie later that day, but she wanted to watch it now despite their lateness. I'm not siding with anyone, but I agreed with the boyfriend on that particular point. Well, it was their turn to get their snacks at the counter. The boyfriend asked her what she wanted to drink. "Pepsi," she said. He ordered her Pepsi and another drink for himself. When he was finished paying, she told him that she'd changed her mind - she wanted a different drink instead. He turned around and ordered her another drink. When he'd paid for it and was ready to go, she said she'd changed her mind again and she wanted another drink.
"Forget about it," he said, "let's go." She started swearing at him and pulling his shirt. When he turned around to tell her to stop, she poured her drink on him and shoved him. He lost his temper, slapped her across the face and left (with the security guards, of course).
After witnessing that scene, my husband and Derek agreed that the girlfriend deserved it, whereas Lisa and I said that the boyfriend didn't have to slap her. He could have pushed her or done something less dramatic.
In society, yes, we're bought up that a man should never lay his hands on a woman, but do you guys think that sometimes the man does have the right to hit a woman when she's asking for it? Or do you think he should have been the better person and walked away, regardless of what the woman said or did to him?
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To me, it seems like the girl was trying to provoke him. She got what she wanted.
If she poured the drink on him, he could've done something similar but inflicting physical pain is frowned upon, especially from the man to the woman. That woman was a total bitch though.
He was slapping some sense into her. I think men should not hit women but if she is making a huge scene and being unreasonable then she needs a reality check. The guy just happened to give his reality check in slap form.
While agression is never a good thing (on either the man or woman's part), I can totally see and understand why the bf did what he did. She totally provoked him.
Damn. She deserved it.
But in our society that's a no-no and for pretty good reasons. In general, women are smaller and not as strong as men. Being hit or slapped by someone much bigger and stronger than you is not cool. Besides, where do you draw the line? It's kind of like the debate about spanking kids.
In this situation, the guy (while his temper was justified) should have turned around and walked away. Call her a cab or call one of her friends to get her and just leave.
Even if the girl is asking for it, which this girl clearly was. I still don't think the guy should hit her. Men are so much stronger than women and thus can do much more damage if they get physical. I think he should have walked away or used words instead of his hands to tell her how he was feeling.
She deserved it. If she was causing a scene like that, she needed something to stop her and make her think.
It's pretty unnecessary to slap a woman or ever hit one, but in the bf case the girl deserved it.
I would have gone with a more subtle karate chop to the throat.
He should have hit her. Just because he's a man, it's unfair to say he should take HER physical abuse and mental/verbal abuse and then not dish anything out to her. He was patient and she was an asshole. And if she is going to get physical on him, he should get the same right.
Wow. That's insane! How does the boyfriend put up with as much as he did?!
The girl is a complete prima-donna that needs an urgent reality check.
As much as I'd like to say that the bf was justified in what he did, I'm still uneasy with the concept of a guy laying his hands on a woman, no matter what the circumstances are.
I think he should have just turned the other cheek, and left her there. She's not worth his time. Someone as patient as that deserves someone far better than that.
Wow she sounds like one of those spoiled girls that I despise. However violence is never the answer. He should've just left her there - this way, nobody would get hurt.
I don't approve of his actions, but she def deserved it!
Since it was a one hit out of anger, I don't blame the guy. She crossed the line when she poured the soda on him.
It's not like he continually beat on her.
she needs the shit kicked out of her. she wants to be man enough to pour a drink on some one she needs to be man enough to take a slap. if it were me, i would have already spilled the 2nd drink on her the moment she said she wanted a 3rd and left her ass there.
She deserved it. There are some women in this world that need to be knocked off their damn pedestals.
The woman acted with pouring a drink on him (not to mention the entire provocation!), and the man retaliated with a slap.
An eye for eye.
she deserves it.
While I'm not really an advocate for hitting, that girl deserved it for being such a b!tch. That's unbelieveable. She was probably thinking, "I can do whatever I want to him, it's not like he would hit me, especially not in public." And look what happened!
It would have been more mature of him not to hit her, and just walk away. The same goes for anyone, man or woman. But hey, what happens, happens. She needed some sense knocked into her, and she (hopefully) got it. A punch or multiple hits would have been much worse.
@Kevin_is_a_pirate@xanga - LOL yes!
As much as I'm not for women being hit, she had it coming to her. But I think he should have just broken up with her or something and left her there stranded in the theater lobby and made her find her own way home.
Whoa, whoa, whoa.
What a needy, indecisive, selfish, impatient BITCH.
I woulda smack the shit outta her.
Wtf?? Pour her drink on her BF???
IN PUBLIC?? wtf? shoved him& shit? Whoa , whoa. Dump that female. -_-
I don't know. I think she deserved it.
I side with the bf but he shouldnt have hit her since she Didnt hit him. He could have taken the other drink and poured it on her.
I agree with your point of view that he shouldn't have slapped her in the face but maybe done something less drastic, even though I think it is totally her fault and she is acting like a bitch.
People tend to skew violence to a gender issues, but it really isn't. A man shouldn't hit a woman, just like a woman shouldn't hit a man. It's just that men have the tendancy to act out their violence more than women. I think the guy can hit the girl only if she has become physical with him, ie slapping him on the face. Otherwise, he should have just walked away, because the girl is obviously trying to get the guy agitated and possibly violent so that she could end up looking like the victim in public. By hitting her, he gave exactly what she wanted.
She's a bitch!
Although i believe that he shouldn't have slapped her, but she was asking for it, and also being a pest
That would be so annoying for him to put up with