Monday, 23 February 2009
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Cheating Can Be Acceptable?
A male friend of mine just told me that there is nothing wrong with cheating - he said that cheating is only unacceptable if the couple is engaged or married. I told him that I disagreed and that if you cheat on your SO, then you will never get to the next step, especially if it is repeated many times or if the relationship then just ends.
It seemed to me he was saying that relationships before marriage are the time when you can do whatever you want!
Does he have a point?
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No. Cheating is not right period.
Absolutely not, that is if you are in a exclusive relationship. It hurts just as much either way, and anyone to break trust like that shouldnt be exclusive with someone. But in an open relationship, you should tell someone if you are sleeping with another person anyways, its just safety. If your friend is like that, hopefully he is telling the girls he is with that he is like that. If you have to hide it, its not right.
I agree with the both of you. The definition of cheating should really be agreed upon with each other.
You shouldn't necessarily do whatever you want before engagement/marriage. Just don't cross the line too far (the line should be established between you and your SO).
The restrictions should be tighter during engagement and after marriage though.
it's not AS bad when you're not married. it can be fixed & forgiven. once you're married i believe it's unforgivable.
Some of the guys I know thinks exactly the same way as your guy friend. It's okay for them to still "mess around" with other girls until they say their "I Dos" at the altar.
Personally, I think it's wrong to cheat. Period. But to consider what is cheating has to be define by both couples. Some think it's okay to cuddling up with their opposite sex friends and give them a quick peck here and there. Others thinks that's wrong and it's considered cheating.
Sooo, it's always good to discuss what you can and cannot do in a relationship.
ok so usually you date someone before you get engaged or marry them.
if he's dating someone who he cheats on, then gets engaged, why should they trust him?
relationships are about trusting and respecting each other... seems like he's just looking for some flings, not serious relationships.
No offence, but your friend is a pig.
No
NO NO NO.
Maybe he's for polyamory?
As Shia LaBeouf would say in every movie (literally): "No no no no NO no no no NO NO NO NO NO!! ....NO!!"
hmmpf..no it's unacceptable. It would be unfair to the other person. So, there's no point of having a relationship if that person plans to hook up with others. Such a no no. That's a betrayal. He should not enter into a committed relationship if he's being a pig.
If your partner has the same opinion, then do whatever you want. But I wouldn't date someone like that under any circumstances.
My thinking is that, if you want to cheat, then you don't want to be in a committed relationship. Although cheating is significantly worse when you are married (and *gasp* if you have kids) but if you want to date and fool around, when you're young is the time to do it.
Boo and THUMBS DOWN to cheating. Just be single - it's definitely healthier for all involved.
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - MMM. Shia. I'd say 'YES YES YES' if I were with him.
BLASPHEMY!
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than dont get into a relationship before marriage than you could date as much as you want.
cheating is not acceptable. it breaks the trust barrier and once things are broken its hard to get it back to the way it was and even if you could, it still wouldnt be the same.
There's never a point in cheating, you're friend is way beyond wrong...
Then why even bother to enter a relationship if you're gonna think like that? -__-"
your friend must really just like to get around...=\
wtf is wrong with this kid? He won't even GET a wife if he cheats on girlfriends or people he's dating. That's fucked.
your friend is a dickhead. Cheating is cheating, and once a cheater, always a cheater. enough said.
Your friend sounds like a moron.
Also, I don't think that polyamorous relationships are the same thing as cheating. Totally different situations.
no, cheating is plain wrong. why would any person want to be engaged to be married with him knowing he thinks cheating is acceptable? he needs a wack on the head.
Lies.
Cheating is a horrible thing to do.
Married, engaged, whatnot.
Is your friend on something?