Sunday, 22 February 2009
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I'm On Birth Control But Not Into Unprotected Sex
I started on birth control a little while ago, and because I'm on it, my boyfriend wants to have unprotected sex . . . and I'm completely against it. The other night, I sort of gave in - I let him in without a condom. But after a little while - he wasn't close - I pushed him off.I am not done with my first pack of birth control yet. Is there a chance of my getting pregnant? What do I do? I don't know if I should wait for my period, which should be in two days after the unprotected sex. Or I could go get Plan B. However, I dont know if i can take Plan B with my birth control - it's Loestrin.
Then how do I make him stop? After it, I pulled away from him and wouldn't let him near me. He asked what was wrong and I told him I didn't want to do that; he said he was sorry, but I tol him never to ask for it again. But something tells me he is going to. I don' t know what to do.
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Since you just started you can get pregnant because the hormone isn't fully in your system. If you are nervous you could get Plan B which I think would still work even though you're on birth control. There is still always a chance of getting pregnant but the odds to decrease the longer you are on birth control. Make sure you know what could cause your birth control to stop working!
If your boyfriend can't respect that you don't want to have unprotected sex then leave him. He needs to respect your body and so do you. I'm glad to hear that you did stop him and told him not to do it! :)
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It really works wonders.
I took Plan B once and that was because the condom came off after he had came, and the condom was in me. Obviously some leaked out and the next day we went to get Plan B. Yes, you can get pregnant from pre-ejaculation, and yes, you should wait at least one or two months before using unprotected sex while taking birth control. But if I were you I wouldn't be too worried, he didn't even ejaculate in you. You begin ovulating 8-15 days from the first day you get your period, so I think during that time is the time to worry.
Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Explain to him why you are on birth control.
Tell him, you aren't on birth control to have unprotected sex.
Xo
With most methods of birth control you need to wait one month (one whole cycle of pills) before having sex without a condom. You can get pregnant with pre-cum.
The PlanB shouldn't interact with your birth control, but you can always ask your pharmacist/ Planned Parenthood to be sure. PlanB only works if you take it within the first 72 hours, but the longer you wait, the less effective it is. If you're going to take it, do it right away.
If you don't want to have sex without a condom, don't. Your boyfriend should respect that. No means no.
you need to take birth control for 3 MONTHS before it's fully effective. and birth control doesn't protect against any STDs, so make your boyfriend get tested before you two have sex without a condom! as for this time, you should call your doctor who prescribed birth control to you immediately and ask if you can take Plan B or what to do instead.
and also, please hit him for me. it's not cool to pressure/coerce you into unprotected sex T_T
No, birth control starts to work after one week, provided you start it immediately after you finish your period and take one pill a day at the same time every day. It says so on the packet....
You should be fine, but if I were you, I'd be more worried about STDs than pregnancy. Have you both been tested?
yes we both were tested, both negative for anything.
I have had almost the full cycle of BC for one month. I have 4 pills left. and suppose to get period tomorrow according to the pack....
There's no harm in taking a plan B. That's what its for ..when you miss a pill or if the condom breaks. It's when your first form of birth control fails. You can always talk to your pharmacist about all the nitty gritty details, but i think it's fine. It's what plan B is marketed for.
All posts about misconceptions relating the pill.
@SeitekiChibiNeko@xanga - WRONG.
@MakinzyKrysteen@xanga - Entirely false.
@JessxMaxine@xanga - no.
@kaybaby666@xanga - You have no way of knowing when she started the pill, or how many she has left.
@I_am_Michelozzo@xanga - Closest
and what most websites say, but every doctor I've ever talked to says
the pill is immediately effective if dosing begins the day after the
end of a period.
@Jessi12288@xanga - Agreed.
If he's even remotely intelligent, all of this could have been avoided beforehand with some talking. If you want him to use a condom every time, TELL HIM THAT. If he doesn't, then just leave him. If it's not worth the risk to you, then stop having sex with him until he either complies, or he leaves.
@Poster - I'm assuming you took your pill today, right? That means the next four pills you take are either placebo or iron supplement. You've completed one full cycle of BC, and are pretty damn safe.
EDIT - your darker pills, the four you have left, ARE iron supplements. The good kind, ferrous fumarate. It's normally used to treat anemia, which means you don't NEED to take them, but it's a good idea all thigns considered.
A guy who really loves you would respect your wishes.
Either you need to look into the communication part of your rs... or whether he makes a worthy boyfriend for you or not.
godofthelost@xanga
iron yes, thanks. =] you helped ease my mind alot...
There is always a chance of getting pregnant if you are having sex. The only way to avoid pregnancy is abstinence. 2 to 8 women out of 100 who are taking a Combined Oral Contraceptive Pill ("The Pill") will get pregnant within the first year if they choose to have unprotected sex. Your pill will usually (but not unfailingly) become effective after the first week (7 consecutive days), but your best bet is to use a condom anyway. Using a condom will lessen the slim chances of getting pregnant while on the pill, but anything can still happen.
Condoms are also important if there is a chance either of you have an STI. If either of you have had unprotected sex with a previous partner, you should get tested. Pap tests are particularly important because many STIs have more serious symptoms and long-lasting conditions for women (including increased chances of ectopic pregnancy).
The most important thing in your relationship right now is communication. No means no. If you feel uncomfortable, tell him and make sure he understands. Tell him your concerns about becoming pregnant and talk with him about how you two would deal with a situation like that.
If you are concerned that you are pregnant, you should see a doctor and ask about taking Plan B.
When did you start taking your pills? I started having unprotected sex the day after I started the ring. I never had any problems.
But if he has a problem with you not wanting to go raw then that is in him. I know a lot of people don't like condoms but it cuts down on what you are feeling now.
@godofthelost@xanga - yeah my doctor told me not to skip any anyway. and for your reference, Loetrin you have to start on the day of your first day you get your period. so out of 28 pills i have 4 left the iron supplements...
my biggest problem with all this with the BF i dont have a strong will. I think i give in easy and it sucks and i feel like shit sometimes....... >.<
I would encourage you to talk with your boyfriend. For some guys, condoms are a hassle and they're lazy. But for other guys, condoms make orgasm much less climactic. You could talk to you boyfriend and your doctor about another form of birth control, like spermicide, to see if that's a good option for you.
@Poster - With any oral contraceptive, you can start any day you want.
Might I ask why you do things that make you feel like shit? If you don't want to answer, I understand.. If you wanna keep it private, shoot me a message through xanga.
@godofthelost@xanga - she said that she HASN'T even finished her FIRST pack and like with any medication it needs to get into yourself system for a month or so before i can work and birth control can fail anyways even if you've been on it for years so precautions always need to be taken. i was told when i started birth control that i need to give it time to take affect. the same reason that if i go off it to get pregnant i need to wait a bit for the chemicals to get out of my system.
You need to finish your whole first pack before you can have unprotected sex. I would wait until you finished your second pack too, just to be safe. I can't believe your gynecologist didn't tell you that!
@kaybaby666@xanga - She's done her first cycle of pills, this argument isn't even valid anymore.
Not all medications need a month to get in to your system. Last I checked, Nyquil works MUCH faster than that. In fact, many medications are in and out of your system within a week and, AS PROVEN BY BIRTH CONTROL PILLS, they can leave your body so quickly as to cause a major setback. If you miss even ONE DAY, there's a risk.
@key19@xanga - NO. Stop spouting false information.
tell him. duh. he should respect you for it.
You just need to take the pills for a week, after taking it for a whole 7 days, then yur protected, but during that first 7 days of taking the pill, you need to wear a condom.
And if you're not ready or don't like to have unprotected sex, just tell your bf about it. He should understand. And don't worry about gettn pregnant once you're fully on the pill =)
I have heard that it takes awhile for your body to become used to having the pill in your system. However, there's always a chance that you could become pregnant whether you just started the pill or have been on it for years. I'm on the pill but I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of not using a condom. Your boyfriend needs to respect your wishes of not wanting to have unprotected sex. Or you could just not give in to him until he agrees to use a condom.