Friday, 20 February 2009
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The Most Embarrassing Thing Ever? Maybe For Other Girls
Miss Fox
Last night while talking to a bunch of my guy friends, the topic of sex came up (surprise surprise, right?). While we were all talking about our Valentine's Day rendezvous, one of them goes to me, "I heard about youurrrr Valentine's Day" in a very wink-wink-nudge-nudge kind of tone.I knew exactly what he was talking about.
Without getting into details, I acted in a very uncharacteristic way on Valentine's Day, and my boyfriend had apparently told his roommates (my guy friends) about the experience.
Now, at first, I was a little taken aback. I didn't even realize that my boyfriend talked to his roomies about our relationship at all (that's me being naive). But once I snapped out of the shock of it, I realized I didn't care that they knew.
The shock switched from me to the boys - they were in awe over the fact that I wasn't pissed about my boyfriend's leaking our personal stories.All I could think was - why would I care? My boyfriend was bragging about how cool his girlfriend was. He was showing me off as adventurous and fun, not as a slut or whore. He was excited over the spontaneity of it all and wanted to share the excitement. If anything, I felt flattered that the boy's were obviously jealous of him.
I wasn't embarrassed at all.
Apparently, my guy friends thought it was so cool that I wasn't upset. They thought that any girl would be furious if their boyfriend was talking about their sexual experiences, no matter what the reason was. However, I couldn't care less.
Would you be mad if your boyfriend talked about your sex history with his buddies? Have you ever accidentally found out that he told his friends about your in-bed escapades? How would you react?
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- From: missfox
- About Me: I am by no means a relationship guru, but I've seen a lot for being so young. I was in an on-again-off-again relationship all through high school, but college has opened my mind and heart. I've learned a lot about what I need in relationships, and what my significant other should want of me. I believe in love, but I believe that you must first be happy with yourself.
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My husband don't talk about our sex lives to his buddies. I'm glad he don't because some stuff are just rather left unsaid. But if he did, it'll be awkward since I see them almost every weekend. When I see them, I'm probably wondering: "Dude. Are they imagining my husband and I in the bedroom?" lol. But girls who don't mind their bfs/husbands telling his buddies, more power to them! I just don't like others to know what positions my husband and I tried out the other night. lol.
I think it would depend on WHO my husband talked to and WHAT was said. I know my husband alludes to stuff with his buddies and I actually have a pretty open relationship with one of them when it comes to discussing sex and issues like that. But....if tons of details were spilled to where they might as well have just been there, then it would probably bother me.
PS --- Good for you for being adventurous...don't lose that spirit. Your future husband will worship you for it! :D
Depends on the act, I guess.
I don't think I'd be mad, perhaps just extremely embarrassed. I can't be mad because I'm sure I would talk about my business with my girlfriends as well. When it comes down to it, I probably wouldn't mind if my bf's friends knew about that kind of stuff (again, because it's on my side as well), but I would prefer that they not tease me and talk about it a lot. I dunno...that opinion might change if I actually had a significant other and was actually sexually active with him.
Hahahaha, after the first time my boyfriend and I had sex, he went to hang out with his cousin and several of his friends later that night...and the first thing that came out of his mouth when he saw them was "Mission Accomplished." I laughed pretty hard when I heard about it.
I actually still laugh, thinking about it. I don't find it embarrassing at all to suspect or know that my boyfriend may talk about our sex life...mostly because it would make most of his friends jealous since the majority of them aren't getting any at the current time. Besides, I have no sexual shame...well, almost no shame in general, and definitely not in a sexual sense.
In that context, it's awesome. but if like, he was going: "So yeah, I totally filmed us, posted it on youtube, and it was awesome. Oh, but I didn't tell her." THAT would suck, haha. But if he's got nothing but positive comments, then hey! go with it. ^_^
I don't think any of his friends want to hear about it. It wouldn't bother me in the least. I say appreciable things about him whenever we have a group reading of Cosmo (yes, this really happens). I think when it comes down to it, you shouldn't be embarrassed unless you're not proud (accepting?) of what you're doing!
I wouldn't be embarrassed, but I am an extrememly private person, so I don't like people know my business, so I might be.
I'm a very private person. I am very selective about who I open up to, so I doubt I'd like my boyfriend going around telling everyone anything.
I can't say I'd be embarrassed, because it is what it is. It's just I really don't like anyone I don't grant the permission to to know much of anything about my life. That's not to say I'd even imply denying my boyfriend (if I had one) the right to talk about our sex life with his friends... I just don't want to know he does.
Well me and my boyfriend are both the private-like, so I'd never have to worry about anything like that. If it were to happen I wouldn't be mad or embarrassed, there's no reason to be. Turning into the Hulk with anger over something that small is pointless. Same with turning candy apple red, actually.
like this... !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't care. I talk to my girlfriends about our sex life and he doesn't mind at all. He'll even jokingly tell me what to say when he knows I'm going to a girls' night. While I don't care what he tells his friends, he doesn't do it too much because he knows his friends would rather not hear about it.
The only thing my first sexual partner and serious boyfriend said about our sex life to his friends is that I wouldn't do anal. No, "She gives a mean blow job!" or "She always wears my favorite underwear on random days to surprise me." Nice, huh? That made me quite unhappy.
But with other guys, I would totally be cool with them talking about me in bed. As long as it's what they enjoyed. If it's what I lack in bed, I'd want the guy to be talking to ME so we could fix it ;)
Girls totally tell all of their friends about their guys in bed, too. I don't see why it's not okay for guys to do it.
what, no description of said fornication?
damn.
IT DEPENDS ON WHO HE TELLS , MY FIANCE HAS TALKED TO HIS COUSIN ABOUT IT. I SISN'T MIND AT ALL
what did you do? Tell meeeee.
Im...opinionless? is that even a word?
haha no. I dont get angry. In fact I feel very comfortable talking to friends (both mine and his) about my sex life.
I don't think it's embarassing at all. I'm a pretty open person so, I guess that's why. So, power to you!
My boyfriend tells his friend about some of the things that happened while him and i had sex. Not anything embarrassing really. From what I understand, his friends have asked if they can tap tap me when we break up. I've never been embarrassed or angry when he tells me he told them. The first time I was kind of shocked and didn't know what to think, but since then it just makes me happy to know that he's satisfied in the bedroom and likes to brag to his friends about it =] They don't tease me about it though. That would embarrass me since I'm a shy person haha.
It depends on how he said it. If he just brought it up out of the blue, like, almost bragging I'd have a problem. I like to keep it very intimate and I felt that my guy, in the past, would tell some of his friends our intimate moments to sort of beat on his chest. Like I picture guys just giving each other high fives. It just takes all the love out of the act for me and makes it into a spectacle.
But if it's done as a genuine expression of excitement about how he loves his hot woman, giving advice or personal testimony, or using our moments to illustrate how comfortable or intimate we are with one another, then I completely don't mind it. I think it's all about intent.
I'm a pretty open person when it comes to sex. As long as he doesn't make it out to be raunchy and me to be some kind of sex fiend slut, I'm a-ok w/ my boy bragging about our bedroom acts.
There's certain things he can say and I'll be comfortable with. If he crosses the imaginary boundary we both [should] know about, I'll get pissed, embarrassed, or violated.
i might, just cause i'm not very close friends at all with any of his guy friends and it's just a tad embarrassing.
i think it would be different if we had more mutual friends... however, our mutual friends are all members of the physics club at our school, and i don't think either of us would divulge info like that to them.
my boyfriend might admit that i'm on the pill or that i'm really ticklish, but i think he's pretty discreet himself about what he wants to tell the guys. :P
I won't get mad if ever
His friends talk about their sex life too, so it's ok to share as well.