Friday, 20 February 2009
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I Think I'm Asexual
So there's this new sexuality sweeping the nation - and it's not hetero-, homo- or even bi-. It's asexuality. It's not celibacy or lacking the right organs. By definition, asexuality is having no sexual desire for any gender. This makes a lot of sense for my life. I've never been physically or sexually attracted to any guys, or if I was attracted to someone emotionally, I never thought about doing anything physical with them - not even kissing. All my friends have always gushed over hot guys and I was never really interested in the conversations. I don't find the idea of sex appealing and don't get "turned on" by sexual situations or images. I think I fit the bill!
I still want to have a relationship with someone, but the whole "sexual" aspect just isn't there. Apparently a person can be "hetero/homo/bi romantic" and asexual. I think this might be me.
What do you all think? Do you believe a person could simply be asexual? Could they still want to be involved romantically with someone? Could you be with an asexual person?
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To answer your questions: yes, yes, and yes.
It's definitely possible, and if you've never been physically or
sexually attracted to someone, then I would definitely say you fit. I
have periods when I'm asexual for months at a time, alternating with
several months of feeling insatiably sexual. Sexuality is just one of
those things that's nigh impossible to put into neat little categories.
Nope, no offense, but I need sex, kissing, holding, touching, etc.
I think a lot of things; yes; yes; & yes. :)
Up until about a year ago, I probably would have been classified as asexual (and then I found the one guy that turns me on). In fact, he's still the only guy I've ever met that turns me on in any way. You might be asexual your entire life, or you might find the one person that you're different for - the one you'd "hop the fence" for, so to speak.
Just remember to let people know early on that you feel this way, and that they shouldn't expect what you can't give (I don't mean sex, just sexual attraction in general).
It's a word definable in the dictionary, so it's an existing occurrence. To answer your questions, I say yes, yes, and maybe. I'm a pretty physical person, so I think I would be all right with it at first, but I might become depressed or sexually frustrated later (it's happened before).
Naw..
I need to know the person I love is attracted to me. Longs for me.. longs to kiss me, etc.
The physical is just as important as the emotional.
asexuality wasn't recently invented.
Yes; yes; yes.
I'm ridiculously sexual, so I can't imagine anything but that. However, I won't say it isn't possible. If it happens in the animal world, it probably happens to us, too.
I think it would be immensely complicated to be in a relationship that never involved procreating, though.
Most definitely.
And I think I'm boarderline.
yes some people can be asexual I believe.
and hmm it's hard to say if they want to be romantically involved with someone. I mean if you don't want to kiss or touch or do anything with your partner... then what's the point of even being romantically involved? but it could happen I guess.. idk.
and I don't know if I could be with an asexual person. I want the sexual part in the relationship as well... haha!
maybe you still need to hit puberty?
Of course it's possible to have no sex drive; I don't. And it's also possible to have or desire to have romantic desire; I do. And I have a close friend in the same situation. All it takes is a major illness; try cancer.
@jupiter312@xanga - im in your boat sista'
From a physiological perspective, it may be a hormonal imbalance. Hormones govern essentially your sex drive. I suspect this occurrence is much more common in females than in males though.
Yes, yes, and maaaaaaybe!
I'm into all the kissing, holding hands, and cuddling. I love sex. I'm a horn dog.
To be with someone who's asexual, I'm not saying it's impossible but it could work. :)
hormone imbalance?
@All_That_Iam@xanga - I think I'm borderline asexual, too. At least, I tend to go through really long periods where I don't want sex whatsoever, and then I'll have short, infrequent bouts when I want it all the time. I do, however, have a constant need for physical touch and intimacy of a nonsexual nature from my boyfriend, and I'm willing to be... ahem... "giving" to him for his sake. I don't want him to go crazy because I don't always want it. But I can't seem to find a balance, and I don't exactly know what causes it, although I have my theories.
This topic has actually been on my mind a lot lately, and I would probably now consider myself bi-romantic borderline-asexual. Yay, labels.
absolutely possible.
probably it has existed for a long, no i mean it does. (see the single cell organism, they need another sex for reproduction). and for human, maybe it existed even b4 homosexuality.@toxictoshi@xanga -
i mean they don't need another sex for reproduction.Hey - I'm asexual and yer your pretty much right with your thoughts. I've always known I'm asexual but didn't know the word till last year, I'm now 17 and it aint too bad. Depending on how old you are definatly makes a difference. And anyways - you can always be something else!! xx xx
yes, yes, no.
Yes to the first two questions.
For me, I would not choose to be with someone asexual because for me, sexuality is a big part of who I am. However, I think that there are plenty of people who don't place a high emphasis on sex, and for these people, having an asexual partner may be an ideal choice.
You can be whatever you want to be :)
oh my god, i thought i was the only one... perhaps i just haven't fully 'blossomed' yet (or whatever they call that crap), but i've never had any sexual desires for anyone.
i dated a guy for 5 months and never even kissed him.