I just read
an article about two teens whose parents are suing their school district after the girls were kicked off the cheerleading squad. The teens, both underage at the time, sent picture messages of themselves topless to students from their high school.
So I have a couple of questions - when I graduated high school in '03, texts were a new thing and we never had to deal with stuff like this.
1) How often does this happen in your school? Does it die down relatively quickly or is it a big deal for a long time? Also, on teen TV shows,
everyone magically gets a hold of these pictures - is this true or overexaggerated?
2) I remember reading in magazines that you should send sexy texts to your boyfriend during the day to remind him you're thinking of him - is that how this started, or do you think people just got the idea themselves?
3) After the fact, are people pretty normal to the people whose pictures were spread around, or is it like a "SHAME! SHAME!" Scarlet Letter-type deal?
Enlighten me, please.
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this reminds me of the time I was hanging out with my friend and her friend, who had just broken up with his gf. All night his ex was sending him sexy pictures of herself. she didn't know we were with him, and he would show us the texts and we'd laugh about it.
LOL Funny.
1. I graduated in 99. I think we were getting over pagers and we were all trying to get our hands on the Nokia phones back in the day.
2. I never knew of this. But yes, I used to send pager msgs to my ex & wrote cutsie emails to him to remind him of me and to let him know that I was thinking of him. I was way conservative back then though, so no nakie pics. However, NOW is a completely different story haha
3. I think it's a norm now. We've already seen sex videos of Pamela Anderson & Paris Hilton. Comparing ourselves to big name celebs, nobody really cares about our nudies floating around the world. Maybe someday, one of us can become a famous online "celebrity" on google.com!! Dont expect any nudies from me though haha. I'm not that confident.
2) It's just to keep their sex life interesting. Or if you're in an LDR, it's a good way to also keep sex life interesting without physically being there with the person. Along with phone sex, webcamming, sexy texts, foods like avocado, dark chocolate, pomegranite, etc.
I think it's hard to know where exactly your pictures and texts are going once they've reached someone else's phone. If you're sending a sexy pic of yourself to your boyfriend, you can only hope that he keeps it private and doesnt go around spreading it to other people. If these guys weren't even the boyfriends of these girls, then I must say these girls are rather silly to send such revealing pictures to guys they aren't even involved with and to be naive enough to think that these pictures wouldn't get spread.
I think it might be slightly exaggerated in the movies with people putting up posters all over the place of the naughty photos, but that's not to say that these pictures are "For his eyes only" all the time.
I guess you just need to be careful and who what you send stuff to. You never know who'll be on the receiving end of the line.
I've seen some naked pictures of people through texts, that I didn't really want to see.
one was a guy that just sent a picture of his dick to everyone and i just thought it was really immature and gross, but no one made that big of a deal.
and for other instances, it's just like "oh, i heard samantha sent naked pictures to adam, hahah how weird, she doesn't seem like the type"
but no one actually cares that much, and i definitely dont try to see them.
Geez, when I was in high school in the late 80s, you had to get or buy a camera, make sure it had a battery, buy some film, shoot up the film, then get the film developed. All those steps had costs associated with them. So you get your pictures, risque or not, and them pass them to friends, or simply drop them into their lockers. And woe to you, if you dropped the pics into the wrong locker, or someone other than the intended recipient got them first.
How does everyone seem to magically get a hold of these pictures? Simple. Six Degrees of Separation.
It's normal now.
We have also myspace/facebook/xanga for that =)
e-mail..haha, technology at its best..
but i have a q,
what does this have to do anything with datingish..?
1) It's exaggerated. Even if people do get a hold of the pictures, nobody cares. There's no giggling and pointing in the hallways.
2) I have no idea how it started, but most instances of it are likely people sending pictures to their SOs. Or it's just an attention-whore. Never can tell.
3) Bah, people don't care. We've all seen/heard about too much crap already (sex tapes, Playboy, etc.) to think much of anything is risque.
This happened once in my high school before I graduated. The girl got in a lot of trouble when she got caught, and the administration made a big deal about "child pornography." Apparently it counts even if you took the pictures yourself. I don't know if this is true or if it was something our school board made up to prevent the activity from happening more than once.
But to answer your questions:
1) It did die down, but it took awhile (and a lot of teachers/administrators discouraging conversation on the topic), and people still brought it up occasionally. And, yes, mostly everyone got the pictures. They just kept getting forwarded around.
2) I don't think it was to the girl's boyfriend. I'm pretty sure she was drunk and just decided to flash everyone.
3) It wasn't "SHAME! SHAME!" so much as "Dude, I saw your boobs."
Why do children need cell phones to begin with? WTF are they doing that's so important that they need to be in constant contact with people? If/when I have kids, they'll get a cheap, prepaid phone for emergencies and that's it... unless they want to pay for a regular cell phone themselves. I don't want to encourage my children to have a reliance on shallow, trivial communication (like texting) or addictions to unnecessary technology.
a girl did that in my school, and everyone seemed to either have heard of it happening, or actually got the picture themselves. she initially took it to be sex [stupid girl] and ended up looking skanky. Now I can't help but think of that when ever she tries to look cool. Girls who do that are just desperate, maybe even crying out for help, or trust the absalute wrong people.
it's like advertising..."hey look what i got!" SEND haha
I didn't even my first cell phone until I was a freshman in college. Now looking from left to right, everyone has a cell phone. I used to work in a childcare center and this child by the age of 7 had a cell phone! Wow.
With technologies now a days, anyone could sent anyone's nude pictures to anyone. If you don't want anyone seeing you nude, just don't send your nude pics to anyone! Can't even trust anyone these days!
lol something similar happened my sophomore year of hs. long story short, some chick was with her boyfriend, who was taking scandalous photos of herself. soon the whole school had the photos, of course. the administration found out, though i don't know what they did about it, if anything. that day in school the girl was crying all day. i had no sympathy cause she was kind of a bitch. and even up till the end of senior year, every time she pissed me off, there was one thing that always wanted to come out of my mouth:
shut up bitch, i've seen your tits with whipped cream on them.
by the way, for what it's worth, i graduated in 04.
Well, as to number three, this guy sent a naked picture to this chick and she sent it to everyone, so it really depends on the people involved, haha
Before I answer anything, I have to note that these are mulitimedia messages and not simply just texts.
1) Pictures never went to people's phones in school, but they definitely went over links on messenger or myspace. It was talked about ALL year. And unless you chose not to look based on prior warning, everyone saw them.
2)
Cute texts or sexy texts are a good thing for a romantic relationship, but I wouldn't suggest young people dating should send pictures. The magazine said texts, no naked pictures, right?
3)
A girl at my high school let pictures of her downstairs go around and she was just made fun of into the ground. I felt sorry for her.
i hate sending personal txts b/c i never know who will read em or who will pick up my phone and read the txts.
There is apparently a boy at my old school who has a collection of naked pictures of girls in the school. Whenever a guy gets pissed off at his ex girlfriend or something they send the naked pictures they once got of her to this guy. At least that's what I heard. *shrug* Thank God I have a little respect and wouldn't do that. Idk can't a girl just send a text "I'm thinking of you"? but guys beg for it now. They always want you to send them pictures. It's crazy.
@AnemicRoyalty64@xanga - There's even a Facebook Group for that 6 Rules of Seperation lol
@Miss_Sarah_Jane@xanga - EXACTLY! Respect.
1. I graduated in '06. Even then the habit of having a cell phone was still not as "normal" as it is now, at least not for me until junior or senior year. Not only that, but being able to send pictures was still a new thing, and not everyone could do it because they didn't have camera phones. Nothing like the above incident ever happened; it just didn't seem characteristic for something like that to occur at my school, or many of the high schools in the area. Really, I don't see why people receiving the messages should be disciplined, unless they failed to report the incident (which I'm assuming is the case). You can't really control what you receive on a phone.
2. I think people get it from different places. Some people think of it themselves, and others are seeking a way to please someone and read these magazines. I wouldn't do it either. It wasn't necessary in order to keep a boyfriend before, so why should we have to do it now?
3. If something like this came out, the majority of people would be quick to think, "Slut!" I just think it's gross and inappropriate, especially in high school.
I don't know if I'd ever send topless pictures of myself to my boyfriend. Even though I know he would never send them to anyoen, I just don't like the idea of pictures of me without my clothes on, period. Besides, he's seen me naked enough, he should be able to create a mental image. Sexy texts though, I do send on occassion. Nothing of a smut-like manner, just something to perk his interest slightly, usually while he's at work, or while I'm driving home from school. It definately solidfies to him that I'm thinking about him that way and I think really helps keep our sex life going strong.
However this is between two consenting adults. I don't think it's appropriate for girls to be sending pictures of themselves. Who KNOWS what the people they send them to will do with the photos?!
when i was in highschool it happend maybe once or twice. they suspended the girls because somehow it got 'accidentally' sent to one of the teacher's e-mails while she was drunk or something...i dont really know.
but the teacher told the principle and it was such a big mess. honestly, i think it's non of their business to suspend someone if they did something off school property and time.
highschool had so many rules...stupid rules that got you in so much trouble. standing by the stage, walking during the national anthem, walking around the halls, we got in so much trouble for such trivial things it was so stupid.
i love college life. haha off topic.
there are a lot of girls in my school who have nudes as we call them....they either start off as pix messages to their boyfriend or to a guy they like or they just get sent around. i dont really know how they get around but once u take them, they get around. a lot of the girls dont seem like theyre embarrassed by them, but all the people who see them think that the girl is pathetic. my boyfriend was upset when i said id never send him nudes. its not that i dont trust him, but i dont know if these girls ever planned on having their pics leaked or not. who knows how they get around...maybe they plan on having the whole school see their hot naked body or maybe they just intended it to be for someone special, and it got to the world. basically, if u have nudes, you go down in classiness