No...

I'm a firm believer in love, so I think you can. You need to remember that you broke his trust, and earning it back will be difficult. More so, he shouldn't hold it against you, or else that guilt will eat you alive. I guess if you two are both ready to move on, then the relationship should last.

Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you.

cheat once, you can believe it was an accident and that you are sorry ..... twice, it's a pattern.  "i have zero desire to ever to do it again"... and yet you did.

I cheated on my ex with my current boyfriend. My ex doesn't speak to me anymore.

I think if i cheated on my boyfriend now, he would be really hurt and heartbroken, but i dont think he would leave me. But i would never do that, I love him too much to even look at another guy in a different way. And even if I do, I just think of him in the end anyways.

I think if you &your boyfriend really love each other, then it may be possible to continue on with your relationship. But just know, he'll always remember it. When he sleeps at night, he'll be thinking about your hands on another man. & trust me, that eats a person up inside. He may become bitter later on in life after years of "ignoreing" it.

Good luck to you.

@covet_me@xanga - cheat once, you can believe it was an
accident and that you are sorry ..... twice, it's a pattern.  "i have
zero desire to ever to do it again"... and yet you did.

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That is an excellent point.

Good luck. Though I think you're bound to slip up again.

Why your bf still took you back after your second time of cheating is beyond me.

Can love alone really be this forgiving? We're talking about complete betrayal of trust and complete lack of respect for the other person, not once, but twice. 

I wouldn't trust you. Quite honestly, if you felt bad the first time and still went through with it the second time... Doesn't mean much to you in the heat of the moment and you put yourself in that situation.

I wouldn't try to work it out if it happened twice.

Cheaters are weak.

To me, there is not a good enough reason or reason (s) to justify a person when he or she decides to cheat. 

When any kind of problems arise in a relationship, communicate with the other and find a way to fix the issue.  If not, take a break or let go.

Yes, I've been cheated on before and yes, I truly do believe you two can make your relationship work.  Most importantly, it's the fact if he's able to completely forgive you for it and not hold a grudge or resent you for it.

I hope you change for the better and learn from your mistakes.  Not everyone gets a second or third chance after they've been discovered.

Cheaters only cheat because they want their cake and eat it too.

If it was me in this situation, I wouldn't want to be with you after you cheated on me the second time.  The first time, it should of been a done deal. 

I believe that every time a cheater is forgiven it makes it that much easier for them to cheat again.

I hope that you're able to make it work.

@thinkpinkpanther@xanga - I don't think that the "fool me once..." lesson applies to this.

He loved her enough to forgive her, and still have trust in her. She betrayed that trust, and thus betrayed the person she claims to love twice.

I dunno, maybe it's just me..

@brittbritt__x@xanga - "The thought of how much hurt you caused and how bad you felt would have made you stop and think about what you're doing."

Very good point. Cheating is a very selfish thing to do.

I've cheated before. It wasn't because I didn't love him either. I was vulnerable at that time and he wasn't there to give me the kind of attention I needed. It's not his fault. I was weak willed and depressed...character flaws I'm still working on. I vowed afterward never to do something so stupid again. Other guys don't even turn me on the slightest.

But it's possible to slip up again.. your boyfriend is very forgiving to take you back the second time. You're very lucky. Not many men will tolerate that kind of disrespect more than once.