Monday, 16 February 2009
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Runaway Bride, Who's At Fault?
Everyone has seen a runaway bride either in reality, tv, or even in music videos (Mariah Carey's "We Belong Together"). But with the poor groom at the end of the aisle watching what is unfolding before his eyes, the question remains: Whose fault is this?The bride's (for running away), the other man's (for taking her) or no one's?
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I know it couldn't possibly be the groom's fault. He's a completely innocent victim.
(It's not always another man stealing the bride away.)
Each situation is unique.
Confidence... Either the lack of confidence in the relationship she's running away from.. or a lack of confidence in herself that she's chosen the right person...
It always comes down to confidence.
Sometimes people wait too long to start questioning things. Then, when it becomes a reality, they bolt. No one's to blame, really. It's simply tactless, rude and (devastatingly) hurtful.
Well, what if it's the groom's fault? What if he was a horribly abusive man and she finally got wise enough to leave before spending more time with a man that stands a good chance of killing her (be it physically, emotionally, or spiritually)?
Not every situation is as simple as there being another man in the picture or a selfish bride that waited too long to figure out what she wanted. In any case, it is tactless to wait to leave until the groom's standing at the altar and the ceremony and reception have been paid for in full.
It differs.
It depends on the relationship.
But, either way, it must have taken a big communication break down to reach that point where she has to leave him at the altar. Ouch.
it depends on each relationship's unique circumstances, i would say. one cannot always blame just one or the other.
the bride. oh the bride. what the hell is she thinking? i mean, the money spent, the gossip that will follow, and victimizing the groom with this horrid tag line of: "couldn't hold onto his bride." for as long as he is single?!
totally the bride. you feel something like that goes on, i suggest you pull on the breaks, blog about it or at least send out a memo. it's just not fair. O_o
i'd say bride!
It really depends on the situation. I think it's terrible that a bride would run at the very last minute. That's humiliating to the groom (and vice versa if the groom is MIA). Not to mention a total waste of money on that entire wedding. But I've heard of weddings where one or the other would fail to show up, but since all of the family and friends are still there, they just decide to continue and turn the wedding into a party. That's always nice to see :)
As for blame, there's no one really to blame; like I said, it depends on the situation. The bride is responsible for her own running, but what if this was a marriage she was being forced into? What if she found out something terrible about her husband-to-be right before the wedding? But if she can find a way out beforehand, that would be better.
I'd say it's the bride's fault. It's her fault because she's the one running away, she's the one that didn't think things through before almost making that big of a commitment.
it's no ones fault. they just were not meant to get married.
i rather run away than having to make the biggest mistake of my life.
The groom if the bride found out that he was a cheating sleazeball behind her back.
The bride if she just finally "figure" out she didn't want to be in a committed relationship with the groom. At least have the courtesy to fess up.
It is hard to say whose "fault" it is. When two people get married it should be because both are committed. When one is NOT committed, that person should not take steps towards marriage to begin with!
Granted that does not leave room for emotions in the equation.
It takes two to tango.
In a love triangle, people tend to blame the third person for breaking up the couple. Howvever, if the bond between the couple were so strong, how could he break it? He (I'm just using 'he' for convenience reasons) must have been given a chance, or a signal that indicates that the relationship is somehow in trouble or that the girl is also interested in him, so he proceeded to pursue her, all the while thinking that this is also what she wants. So I don't think he is the only one to blame. Like I said, it takes two to tango.
I don't think it's either persons 'fault.'
I know several people who have been divorced. Each one said, "I wish I walked away when I had the chance."
So I think it's simply the better choice--because honestly, if they want to walk away from the marriage before it's even started, what makes you think it's going to be a happy ending if they force themselves through with it?
Just my two cents.
Both.
Hehe ever seen "Run Fat Boy" or something to that effect? When he ran away from the alter leaving his pregnant fiance behind?
Fault? - no fault really...I mean this is really a bad way to do it but relationships end at all different times for all different reasons...When the relationships not meant to be or not right... its going to end sometime...
Personally i'd prefer a breakup to a divorce...so sucks to be the groom and i'm sure the bride will feel guilt as well afterwords
So depending on whats going on in the relationship its either both's faults or neithers - it takes two
Each case is unique. The situations are far too complex to pin down on one or even two parameters, let alone three.
Ha, it's not the grooms fault at all. I doubt he'd be standing at the end of the aisle waiting if he had even a doubt that she'd be running away. In fact, I doubt they'd even be getting married at that point.
The typical run away bride acts like everything is okay, a lot of the time it actually IS okay, and then just freaks out on the wedding day.
If the guy was a total jerk to her, he may deserve it, it may be his fault in the sense that he's a jerk, but she's the one who ultimately makes the decision to do it; therefore it's her fault.
A good percent of the time it's a nice guy and a selfish woman, from what I've seen.
Wouldn't it be both? The other guy is kind of stealing the girl away, and she's leaving the poor, unsuspecting groom at the altar. I'd be angrier at the bride, though. She should be more tactful than that.
But then again, if the groom is a total jerk, I guess it'd be his fault. The situation would just be horribly embarrasing for him, and sweet revenge for the bride, I suspect.
unless the groom did something wrong, otherwise definitely the bride? i guess...
It depends on the very reason why she was running away from.
Well, i think that depends on the reason the bride is running away.
But probably more likely than not, it would be the bride who is to blame. She, in the end is the one ditching the poor man at the end of the aisle, he is the one who has to have the guests watch his facial expression change from "the happiest man alive" to some deadbeat, bachelor-for-eternity look, whilst the bride is taking off into the distance.