Miss Double ShotWe were Googling each other's names in the office earlier today, and when the fun from that wore off, I kept searching for elementary school classmates I hadn't heard from. My crush in fourth grade and I never connected on Facebook, so I did some Google research and found out that he'd moved across the country sometime between 1994 and now.
Also, between 1994 and now, he has come out.
DAMMIT!
The same thing happened with my crush from sixth grade, a writer and actor I spent Language Arts class daydreaming about. When he friended me last year, I was glad to see he was still involved in what he did in middle school - he does screenwriting now in LA - but I can't say I wasn't disappointed when I found out he didn't care for girls.
Inevitably, it really doesn't make a difference who these guys like, and I'm proud of them for coming out, but part of me is still, like, "buhhhhh". Sigh.
Do you keep in contact with friends or crushes from elementary school? Have you had an experience similar to mine?
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No. Those people belong in the past.
I have a really bad gaydar, I'm told, but no. I keep track of a lot of people from way back when but none of them have come out.
not exactly. but i seemed to be following the same patterns in high school. haha. it really sucks, i guess that's just my type.
I don't even talk to most people I knew in middle school, let alone elementary school. There are a few people I was really good friends with, so I talk to them now. Most of them had to get in contact with me first, though. I'm just not interested in going a step back. :/
Plus, I don't even remember the names of most kids I knew in elementary school. I only remember like five of their full names. Ha.
As for gaydar, I don't think I have a working radar for nonstraight people. If I happen to guess about the sexuality of someone, I'm wrong most of the time. So I just.. don't.
I have a feeling that my crush from 1st grade is gay. But I can't find him anywhere on the Internet, despite his unique name.
haha mine was from the first grade. he moved to colorado while i was still in california (still am). it was actually pretty kool. i found him thru myspace & we started talking and thinking about old times. i found him around christmas time and it so happened he was going to cali to visit his gramps. we hung out for one day and felt a connection. we started phoning each other and talk A LOT! later on, we got together but it didn't last. the distance killed it and now we dont even talk anymore. =[ its not really similar to your situation but i just wanted to share that with you.
I'm still friends with a lot of people from elementary school...conisdering I'm only sixteen. But I must say, I have excellent gaydar...considering the fact that I'm a lesbian. haha.
My crush from high school recently got a girlfriend, and though I never really talked to him and know I have no chance now, it still brought up mixed feelings in me. Sometimes they never really go away.
Today, I google'd my elementary school crushes. They're now gay. FML
oh wow yeah, actually just the other day I found out my one elementary school crush was gay ^ ^
I've spent some time googling old school mates... and I seem to remember one coming out.. I think... but most of my boyfriends or crushes are like ghosts... a couple I found in prison.... but mostly they just aren't googleable. Go figure.
One guy I dated and then we were friends is a friend on MySpace and we still chat some.
In elementary school, I was too busy with my toys, sports, and music, to notice the opposite sex. I didn't have a crush on someone until junior high. No, they all turned out straight, well educated, and well off
However, I would like to comment about my 8th grade English teacher. He was the one who encouraged me to open up, and start writing. I always thought he was just a nice man. Well, when I got to high school, I learned that my old 8th grade English teacher had died from AIDS. Then it hit me. Why didn't my classmates and I pick up on it earlier? Were we dumb? Were we uneducated? Were we ignorant? Were we naive? Was our gaydar broken?
Regardless of his orientation, I feel bad that I never got the opportunity to thank him for discovering my then-untapped potential in writing skills. Whenever my writing is correct and profound, it got its start from that 8th grade English class. And I have more respect for my fellow (wo)man, be (s)he old, young, black, white, gay, or straight.
I still keep in touch with a couple childhood friends, and a few of them are my best friends =]. My gaydar was only funky once because I grew up with him, and my friends and I all thought he and his good friend would, like, marry one day. It's hard to get rid of childhood dreams. Haha.
YES. most of the guys i've liked are indeed gay, or most likely gay but have yet to come out -_-
I've recently found out that the guy I dated in middle school is gay...
And I'm only 17. -__-
I seem to attract/be attracted to gay men. It's been a bit of a problem. I think my gaydar is broken...permanently.
I crushed on the same kid through middle school and a good part of high school and never did anything about it (and got over it), even though we were always pretty good friends. He came out during our senior year. He lives in Canada with his boyfriend now. We talked about it once in a while, to laugh for old times' sake and he's even said things would be different if he didn't like boys so much. lol
We are still good friends and I'm just glad he's happy now. :)
Well, it wasn't exactly a crush, but the classmate who bullied me back in grade school came out a few years after we graduated. Lol.
Heh, I'm only in high school yet. But well, The only people I really connected to in elementary school are my three best friends, so I guess that says it all.Â
I don't think I have much of a gaydar. It works out well though, cause the non-straight friends I have just told me anyway, and I don't really need to know about anyone else.
I have nothing against gay people, exept for when they're in my way. (Or anyone who's in my way, really) Example: Friend's friend who is hot, but also gay. Damn.
one of my friends says she dated three gay guys in her past. mostly for their looks though. she knew or suspected they were gay at the time. i personally think they make a girl's best buddy. i don't pick up on it that fast though.
My first puppy love/crush I think is gay, hah. And I tend to be attracted or whatnot to a lot of guys I find out are gay. I should have been a man <3 .
I used to ride the bus with this kid that wanted to be a minister and all he would ever talk about was God. As a Pagan, I loved having long discussions about religion on the bus. We'd talk about this every day.
Not only has he denounced the church, but he got divorced because he, too, decided he was gay.
I must say, I like him more this way.
I do keep in contact with atleast two people from each stage in my life, they seem to be around for the long haul. No similar experiences.
@fly46@xanga - lol haha, man that is funny s***. I have to say i've been asked by girls (and guys) from time to time whether i'm gay. For the record, i'm straight. Apparently it has to do with me not having a permanent gf, being fairly good looking and neat....i don't know...though truth be told i'd probably kiss a guy on a dare *smile*
Funny reading the comments, seems to be A LOT more gay fellas than there are lesbians??? not that i'm complaining. Less competition is always good *smile*
Ok so this is for someone from the top...are you assuming your old english teacher was gay BECAUSE he died of AIDS or you know he was gay and ALSO died of AIDS...? AIDS doesn't mean gay all of the time.
LMAO YES.
two of my biggest guy crushes from elementary school are now both gay and my best friends. :P