Thursday, 12 February 2009
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My Professor Makes Me Want To Break My Vow of Chastity
So for the past few months I've been enjoying celibacy. Well, maybe "enjoying" is not the best word, but it has been fun in a "now I know who I am outside of a relationship and can really enjoy going out on the town without a lead bar weighing me down" sort of way. It's been smiles times ever since I put on my metaphorical chastity belt, especially because I decided my celibacy will end next January when I start my semester abroad in London.
But there is a problem: my Roman history professor. Being in that class makes me want to forget all of my priniciples and sacrifice all of my beliefs so I can seduce my professor. Okay, my professor isn't the most attractive one at my school, but there is just something about him that makes me want to abandon all sense of morality. And I am sure that he doesn't swing for my team (which, considering my track record, is probably 15% of the reason why I like him). I love Roman history and he obviously does. And he encourages face-to-face time, especially regarding our end-of-semester paper, so he can approve our topic/help us find sources. That will be a fun meeting...
I know this is pretty ridiculous. I know I'm not going to do anything about this silly little attraction. And as much as I want to obsess over how awkward class is for me during those 75 minutes, I get through it twice a week. But during class, all I can think about is this delightful little conundrum... and how Scipio was the first Roman to beat Hannibal...
Have you ever taken a break from romance and been celibate by choice? Did it help you focus on how you could improve in relationships or just sexually frustrate you?
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Considering that I am celibate by force (being away for months at a time from my boyfriend) I know I am extremely sexually frustrated. Then again, I love sex.
If you already know that you're going to turn off this celibacy thing at a specific date (rather than saying, oh, I'm going to wait til I get married - making your vow more indefinite) then what difference is there between that date and now?
No worries. Really. It's a choice you have to make sometimes. It's been beneficial for me, and now I know I'll be truly ready when the time comes.
Just follow your heart. :)
T likes to joke that my sexual frustration is the primary contributer to global warming. She also joked that if me and two of my buddies roomed together that combined we still got less action than her bf's elbow.
The sad thing is... she's right. Apparently because he works in IT his elbow has spent more time poking boobs in the past year than the three of us combined...
I was celibate by force when my husband (then bf) and I had a long distant relationship. It just sexually frustrated me but it was all worth it when he came home again.
ooh, that's gotta be tough. I've never been purposely celibate. I think it would just frustrate me though...Good Luck!
Going through the process now...
@MusingsOfAnAlmostSocio@xanga - Not going to lie, thats awesome.
Yep! I'm celibate right now and it's pretty good. Definitely a pretty safe route to take.
Geez, when I was a teacher, I was lucky if the students showed up. And the ones who did show up weren't interested in learning. They just wanted to know if the district had enough funds, so that I could coach the sports teams.
No one even dreamed of seducing me. Although, one of my students did offer her foreign cousin to me, LOL!
I've started an impromptu vow of chastity last month. (Not like I was getting it all the time anyway! LOL) I don't know how long it will go for but I decided to take my mind off of sex and think about more important things after talking to some of my friends who seemed to dedicate their lives to sex or are in relationships that center around it. For the most part, if I find somebody who is interested in a relationship, I want our relationship to center around being together and getting to know each other. In other words, I want to weed out the pervs. Haha. So far, it's going well. I wasn't getting it all the time like some of my friends so it's not like I'm going nuts or trying to hump a table... Haha... Sadly, I still haven't found anyone willing to put up with me... T_T
@rzimmerman08@xanga - Worst phrase ever made. Lawl. I hate it when people say that to me.
-Kira
At least you know it's silly. I'm somewhat disturbed, haha.
Anyway, given my lack of sexual experience (I hope I've turned some pigs away by saying that) I've never made an official promise of celibacy or anything. I sort of take things as they come. There's that whole "Waiting until marriage" thing that I'm doing (hope I've turned away some more pigs), which hasn't been a problem so far since I don't have a boyfriend and am repulsed by the idea of one-night stands and such (I'm sure all the boys must have run away by now).
I admit, if I found a guy insanely hot I'd probably be tempted to drop my vows and consider getting a little frisky with him. I wouldn't let it lead to sex but it could get a little hot...
I was celibate for a year..lol then I broke it O_O
fell into it. Oh well, lol.
dont break it
i had this thing for my humanities professor but just stayed friends with him. but you can use him as a good example of the type of guy you want, once youre vow is over and youre ready to date again. he might just be a safe vessel to pour youre sexual energy into for the time being.
personally i wouldnt fogo my vow, and just reflect on myself for a while till love comes a calling.
then again cher says to have fun with all the mr. wrongs while waiting for mister right, and you might always be wondering what it wouldnve been liek to have a fling wiht him. go with yer gut! either way everyone in xangaland is rooting for ya! :)
I'm currently celibate. And I KNOW what you mean about your professor. My professor is AMAZING. He's not gorgeous, but he's charming and worldly. He knows so much. And he happens to teach history, as well. The THINGS I would do to that man if I got a chance. 8000 ways till Sunday!!
Well, I'm still a virgin... So, that would imply celibacy. It's definitely by choice, but more because I haven't found the right guy...
Well...after a while you forget what it feels like anyway. Even though in the back of your mind you knew it was reallllllly good. *shrugs* no big deal.............lol
@rzimmerman08@xanga - Really...?
You are a hot mess.
By choice.
@rzimmerman08@xanga - LMAO.... You think she should follow her heart and have sex with her professor? Really?
I can't really say I have choose to be celibacy by choice. When I was going through, I got frustrated. As matter of fact, I thought I might have some kind of psychological or physical damage...
Don't get me wrong, I am not a sex addict. I just enjoy it a lot. It is just such a fun and pleasurable activity to do...
I became celibate by choice (and it's been over a year.) I'm not sure how long I will remain celibate, but hopefully for another 3-4 years. I did this to earn self-respect (due to the lackless romantic relationships that I've been by trying to heal from a bad breakup) and I got to learn a lot about who I really am without the physical part of the relationship. Although, I do get sexually frustrated sometimes -- but it really helped my self-discovery on life and relationships.