Some will say I have no right to say what I'm about to say, being that I am currently happily coupled. To which I say,
Bularki.
I was saying this exact same thing when I was twenty-five-years single--my sudden onset of relationship doesn't impact the truth of this message.
Seriously, everyone, stop
whining about St. Valentine's Day!
Spokenfor once said, "bitter people should be confined to one location on V-Day so the masses can enjoy romance one day out of the year." And these days I'm inclined to agree with her - if I hear one more blog whining about Valentine's Day, I'm breaking out the banhammer.
1) But Chris! If you have a Significant Other, why do you need one stupid day out of the year where you're supposed to show them affection? Shouldn't you be doing that all year long?Um, yes. That's kind of a non-issue. Only someone with the cognitive faculties of a brain-damaged Gary Busey would think that V-Day excuses them from year-round acts of love.
So what? We have Arbor Day when we're supposed to care about trees - do we chop down and burn trees for no good reason the rest of the year? Do we throw litter into the woods and dump toxic sludge in our drinking water just because today isn't Earth Day? Oh look, today isn't Thanksgiving, I don't have to be thankful for anything! ...C'mon, people, give me a break! It's a holiday. HOL-I-DAY. It's a day of celebration of something that goes on all the time.
2) But Chris! Valentine's Day is a fake holiday manufactured by Hallmark! It's just a commercial ploy to get you to spend money!For crying out loud, people, crack a book!
St. Valentine's Day as a celebration of romantic love predates mass-manufactured greeting cards
by a good six hundred years. The original "valentines" were strictly handwritten notes. If you don't like the commercialism, go retro and write your SO a handwritten note! It's amazing what you can make with construction paper, glitter and dried macaroni - and it doesn't cost much at all.
As for it being a "manufactured" holiday, pssssh. All holidays are manufactured holidays - someone had to start them at some point. Just because we know when the more recent ones (like Kwanzaa) started doesn't make them somehow less valid than the ones that were manufactured longer ago (like Christmas or Halloween).
The point being, if you don't want to spend money on V-Day, no-one's forcing you to. You can be plenty romantic on a budget. In the words of that great spiritual thinker J-Lo, it doesn't matter if you're broke "cuz love don't cost a thang."
3) But Chris! All my friends have significant others. They're going to get flowers and cards and candy and I won't! It's annoying and I don't want to hear about it!Uh-huh. And you don't go to peoples' Sweet Sixteen parties because you're not sixteen, right? You won't celebrate someone's graduation if you're not the one graduating? You won't attend birthday parties except your own? How about baby showers if you're not having a baby? Celebrations are sometimes specific. People are always left out, no matter which holiday you're talking about. Most of us just learn to deal, and to be happy for whoever
is the center of celebration this time.
I'm not saying that your coupled friends can rub it in your face--that's not right either. But for heaven's sake, GET OVER YOURSELF! If you are thinking all about yourself on V-Day, that's a recipe for Instant Pity-Party. (Just add water.)
My recommendation, go do some service on Valentine's Day. Hit up a soup kitchen. Visit a nursing home. Make Valentine's Day better
for someone else, and it will make your single Valentine's Day better.
This is the sort of thing I did on V-Day for years.
4) But Chris! I've listened to all you said and I still hate Valentine's Day! I won't celebrate it!And that's fine. You have a right to. Don't celebrate it. But what sense does it make to
whine about it?
Do you see me filling my blog with "I Hate Ramadan!" posts every November? How about "I Hate Hanukkah!" posts? Of course not. I don't celebrate these holidays, and so I just leave them alone. Do that for the big V. If you don't like it, quietly avoid it. Quietly being the operative word.
Let those of us who like the holiday celebrate it in peace.
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Comments (231)
love the post!
Thank you! Finally, someone who agrees with me. Lol.
Know what's perfect for V-Day? Giving yourself the perfect day! Dinner, a movie, some starbucks, a great book to read at night and give yourself some chocolates and flowers! Hell give yourself a card and pretend to be suprised. Know why?
Nobody can love you more than yourself (unless you dont love yourself then do it because its just sweet). To Me From Me. Get it?
Also, watch He's Just Not That Into You. (amazing movie)
-Kira
Exactly! Just because some people are sad/lonely, it doesn't mean they have to ruin the day for everyone else.
PHOCK JHOO! February can lick mah bahlls.
lol! i'm going to continue to enjoy my wonderful mix of bitterness and enjoyment over the holiday.
St. Valentine was a Martyr and died for a very incredibly romantic cause. It was a memo to remind us how blessed we are to endorse in young love and have the freedom to marry. There are 3 different valentines, you should look the stories up.
But Chris!
Shut the hell up.Hahahahah, you're so freaking amusing.
I loved it.
Man, thank you.
It got to the point where I just looked at the posts and was like.. GOD, AGAIN?
But also, wanted to point out... Ramadan doesn't ONLY happen in November. It moves up 10 days every year since the Islamic Calendar, which is essentially a Lunar Calendar, is shorter than the Gregorian Calendar that we use.
:) But entirely awesome point.
Love it. For real.
@wolvenchic@xanga - I was about to say the exact same thing. Looks like you covered it for me haha.
Love the post!
This post was amazing.
equating valentinez day with ramadan or hanukkah izza bit crass a roman catholik saintz day which haz ben cooptid by the secular realm & turnd into an xkuse for gross commercializm & the publik preshur to participate iz huge ie xmas thatz what i objekt to i do my bit for the elderly & the dying all the tyme & i dont need to uze vd azzan xkuse
@pansybradshaw@xanga - wtf does that even say?
But Chris! I love whining!!! But seriously, why is it when someone doesn't want to celebrate they have to get all douchy and basically tell everyone that they're bad people for celebrating.
@pansybradshaw@xanga - I see your point but is it really necessary to spell like that?
Thank you! Very good post.
LOL! I love your post! Yea, the years I wasn't in a relationship my single friends and I were each others' Valentine.
P.S. For #2 I would like to add that yes it is a real holiday but it was originally celebrated by the Roman Catholic Church acknowledging the St. Valentines (obviously). Hallmark just made an excuse now to make a religious day to a day for them to make money.
Still, great post.
@UnVolume@xanga - hahaha yes imma fraid i hav to but thanks for takin the tyme to reed it & reply i will grant you this itza gud post & if only more amerikanz celebraytid all ther holidaze so thotfuly we might be a better people azza whole
THANK YOU. I have been thinking the exact thing this entire time.
This is my first valentines day where I'm not a single lady anymore. But when I was single, I never minded Valentine's Day. The only people who hate it are those without SO's. I hate when people whine about how they hate this holiday just because they don't have an SO.
@morbidlywonderful@xanga - i was thinking the same thing haha. it's hard to read giant run-on sentences, especially when not one word is spelled correctly.
@Isabella_Scott@xanga - Lol, pretend to be surprised. That's cute.
As long as the History Channel shows the special about the St. Valentine's Day Massacre again, I will be happy with Valentine's Day.
Otherwise it's not worth waking up in the morning.
Haha, kidding. My general lack of romantic sentiments kind of makes Valentine's Day more of a stomach ache for me. And no one ever gets me chocolate, that makes me sad, even though I can't technically have chocolate.
Ha I love this.
@morbidlywonderful@xanga - Haha I was about to ask the same thing. I don't understand a thing.. Perhaps we all should start from learning how to type.
@UnVolume@xanga - I totally agree, well there's always the old saying, "If I can't have it, so can't you, and you, and all of you." Or it must be bad, because I don't have it. *Jealous* There we go, that's the word I have been looking for.
I agree with this post. I mean honestly, Valentine's Day is just like every other holiday, like Christmas, except we still have to go to work, or school, if it's on a weekday. It's just another day.
Tooootally agree with this, just let the lovin happen. =)
Haha, this is great. But that's their right to complain too, oh well.