My friend was nervous about not being a good kisser, when another friend said something I thought was great: "Boys don't think like girls do about kissing. You're thinking, 'oh my god - am I a good kisser?' He's thinking, 'oh my god! She's letting me touch her!'"
We all laughed out loud, but I think she had a really good point. I've never heard of a male friend even bring up the subject of kissing. On the other hand, that's something I've heard a lot of my female friends talk about.
One friend even stopped seeing a person because she couldn't deal with the way he kissed. A female friend once said that kissing is her favorite hobby. A male friend once said that kissing is an impediment to better things.
How important is it that your significant other be a good kisser? Are there different purposes behind it depending on your gender?
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I definitely think there are different viewpoints towards it depending on gender. Your friend is totally right - my boyfriend and I have talked about this, and he told me was just excited that he could kiss me... Forget worrying about how. And I was nervous because I wanted him to like how I kissed. Haha. But I think it's pretty important that we kiss well... I mean, if my boyfriend were to slobber all over my face, I would definitely be completely turned off. Thankfully, he's pretty good =)
I always figured that kissing would come naturally, I never really worried about it. First kiss I felt like I didn't know what I was doing and wondered if he could tell I was being awkward. Then I decided to just relax and go with it. Kissing is fun =)
I don't know if there's a difference but it's definitely fun and it can definitely be done the wrong way. Boys, take note and take some time!
@UnVolume@xanga - Agreed.
Just stop thinking so much and dive in. lol
I do believe men and women have a different stance on kissing. I think women are worried to much about whether or not its good and guys are more worried about numbers. Numbers being how many girls he has kissed or how long.
I'm not overly worried about kissing myself. If it happens it happens.. just don't ask me to go "Hello! Nice to me- *throws tongue down throat*" ... I won't do it.
I don't know. My boyfriend and I are both virgins, and we pretty much both look at kissing as a precurser to future intimacy. And from our talks about it, we feel pretty much the same way in other aspects. We enjoy how close it brings us to each other, physically and emotionally. Just saying.
sum gayz kiss gud & otherz gayz kiss not so gud i think itza personal thang rather than one based on gender
as long as they're not drooling down my chin, i'm game.
@pansybradshaw@xanga - First of all, the way you type makes my eyes bleed and if I hadn't torn my eyes away I'm pretty sure my IQ would start falling just by being overexposed to you.
But to the poster, yeah, I think you have it dead on. That's great. Great post. And how good of a kisser is very important. But kissing is easy to train, as long as you're willing to train them. I think that was a featured question at some point in time. Bad kisser, train them or dump them?
Haha, you're right. I love kissing my girlfriend, and I don't really care how.
Everyone I've dated or been romantically involved with has shared a similar view on and or style of kissing. Most of the girls that I've hooked up with were either bad kissers or rushed it to get to something else. I would like to see someone analyze that from a psychology perspective.
I did not notice any one thing in common among all the girls that I kissed.
i don't like kissing ):
@MusingsOfAnAlmostSocio@xanga - Lmao, we need to make a survival guide for this kind of stuff "What to do when your eyes bleed due to excessively bad gramer/spellen"
I love kissing, i think its a really cute way to connect with my boyfriend.
In the other hand, he only does it bc he think that kissing turns me on and that i´ll want to have sex in that moment.
I´ve explained to him like a thousand times thats not the case but he wont listen to me. He still hopes that every little kiss will end in a hot session in bed.
@MusingsOfAnAlmostSocio@xanga - Hey play nice, you never know, bradshaw could be illiterate or have some form of learning disability. LMAO. Of course, now I will feel bad if these things are true....*thinks* On second thought, I won't.
@pansybradshaw@xanga -
A male friend once said that kissing is an impediment to better things.
Cheeky bugger!
kissy kissy kissy =]
isnt this too much thinking for something simple and natural~
kissing seems to bring my thoughts away though~
@abcxunt@xanga - haha XD agree!
I love kissing! Granted I haven't been kissed in a while, but I love it nonetheless!~ I've always wondered if I were a good kisser or not and I still question it, even though my previous boyfriends were like 'blown away'...>__< I think they were exaggerating though...
Teaching someone to kiss is always fun. If they aren't kissing you in a way that you don't like, then teach them. *Likes to be kissed a certain way* And as long as they don't slobber all over your face, they can't be that bad! :)
Bad kissers are just turn-offs. xD My boyfriend agrees to that. He hates it when I kiss him to make him shut up, though.
@Not_a_real_site@xanga - wow watta guy
i can't stand bad kissing. luckily, i haven't come across terrible kissers too often, but i hate it when people make out by sticking their whole tongue in the other persons mouth and moving it around extremely fast without stopping. it's really gross and hard to follow. there really has to be a lot more lips involved.
@TangoWith_Daddy@xanga -
I second that.
While good kissing is partially due to skill, a big part of it is chemistry. If there's no chemistry, what's the point?
I've only kissed on guy, and I felt like I wasn't that good at it and that I basically just did it to keep him happy so he'd keep me happy. I prefered other forms of affection.