Saturday, 07 February 2009
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Office Relationships - Not Just In The Movies.
I've been working in an office at school for about six months now. When I first started, I didn't notice anything weird about the people working there. I never inititally noticed any awkward relationships or friendships.
It wasn't until about two months into my working there that I began to hear rumors about my boss and co-worker possibly having a relationship. My boss is in her late 20's, possibly early 30's, and my co-worker is not even 21 yet.
Their mysterious relationship has created a four month stir in the office. We're constantly wondering about their whereabouts, and often times trying to figure out if they're anything at all. There have been a few clues - like my coworker bringing a backpack over to my boss's apartment - that might hint towards yes. But the office is in denial - we're trying to avoid believing it.
What makes this relationship even more awkward is that both my boss and co-worker are girls.
Now this isn't to say that lesbians, or girl-girl relationships are awkward. It's only awkward for us in the office because neither of them have come out about this, yet both seem to be tip-toeing around the idea of being together.
I'm not sure how I feel abou this situation. I can't figure out if I feel more awkward because my boss is "with" my co-worker, making me feel like she may get unfair advantages... or if I feel more awkward because I don't necessarily know their situation, if any.
What would you do? Have you ever worked in an office where there has been sexual tension between an employer and an employee? Have you yourself ever falling for a co-worker?
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I think more than anything, it's an excuse to have something entertaining and mysterious at work.
Oh I LOVE it. Office romances are very very real and very very hot. One of my co-workers talked about it, but it was just one employee to another. It is unfortunate that boss-worker relationships are forbidden, but excepting that...
Office romances are hot because there can be lots and lots of sexual tension due to the office atmosphere. You can't be openly romantic, so it feels a lot like forbidden love, even if it's well known that you are a couple. You're spending time together, but can't be 'true'. It's just a little devious, flirtatious glances, it's just a little taboo, sneaking a kiss in when you pass in the hall, it's a sexual tension builder, that you can't release until the day ends, or maybe even the weekend comes.
Obviously if it's even more forbidden because it's boss/worker, it just adds to it all. I can't help you handle the situation unfortunately. This is something I don't want to touch with a 6 foot pole. There are so many conflicts of interest here that it's insane. There's the age gap, the authority gap, the benefits gap, the fact that they're the same-sex, the hidden nature of it, wow wow wow. It honestly sounds like the premise of a mid-grade porno. Hot cha cha...
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back at my old office...there were about 3 affairs going on all of married people too. My boyfriend and I both worked there ... (having been in a relationship before I worked there) and thought that was horrid...but one other couple we knew that had met at work got married. =P
Oh joy, co-worker romance. I know how that is, having been involved in one. There's something about having to be secretive and low-key that makes romance like this really exciting. And of course no matter how subtle you are, everyone else knows that there's something going on.
But work is work. If there's something going on between two people at the office, it's their business, so just brush it off. Of course there's a problem if it interferes with work.
This reminded me of a list of little known office lingo.
the "umfriend" - a person you work with who you are having sex with but not necessarily in a relationship with. As in, "This is my um, friend Jeff."
I personally find that office romances are horrible, due to the rampant gossip that usually accompanies them.
I once made out with a co-worker while extremely intoxicated, and it haunted me until I left that job.
To me, the employer is off-limits, but a fellow employee is fair game, though I think it's best to avoid any relationships outside the workplace, for fear of stirring tension INSIDE the workplace.
wow. I volunteer at a school office (since I'm still in high school). I think that an office romance would really make the place more interesting. haha
@ov3r_us3d@xanga - that's clever. = ]
I would ignore it. A backpack might mean they've been sneaking around, or that there's some special common backpack infatuation between the two of them. Either way, that's the way the world works. Sometimes, others will get an unfair advantage, and of course it won't be based on merit. You said yourself you didn't notice anything until the rumors started, so maybe you're thinking what you want to think, or what others want you to think. It's like high school drama all over again. I guess, like the song, high school never ends. If it begins to negatively impact you, though, you should definitely call them out on it.
Sounds like a remix of R. Kelly's "Trapped In the Closet"
Yikes... shouldn't really be getting to close to your employer, in my opinion. If you are, you better sign it with HR.
@xXxjelloxXx@xanga - Ditto!
Oh wow, wasn't expecting that.
I dated a co-worker and almost fooled around with another one. I don't personally find them awkward if I am in them or witnessing them. They have the potential to make things really bad, though, so enter at your own risk. :P
I'd leave them alone and try not to get into the mess.
I met my boyfriend (whom was my co-worker at the time) when I was newly hired at a branch and there was no sexual tension, but there were definitely some sparks. EVERYONE in the branch kept teasing us liking each other, but we were totally in denial about our feelings for each other nor did we admit it.(The both of us had a personal, unwritten rule to not date co-workers.)
Anyways, as time went on...he quit for school and I quit a few months after he left. Our friendship has a strong bond, one thing led to another -- we became boyfriend and girlfriend now. :) I'm happy as ever can be. ^^
i'd just be really curious
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Whoa. This is like a real-life drama. Haha. Can't wait to tune in next week. lol.
-What would you do?
Personally i think It's their own business what they do. But at my work. If the people in the relationship aren't in the same position (like in your case) They are tactfully asked to work in different areas.
-Have you ever worked in an office where there has
been sexual tension between an employer and an employee?
Yep, me and a co-worker.
-Have you
yourself ever falling for a co-worker?
Yep, sorta falling for one now. Nowhere near as hard as the first girl i fell for though. As it comes.
I think its definitely very hot and intense:) hehe. I would definitely fall for a co worker and fight to keep the fire down...hehe drama queen.
hahaha yes, more than once....bad idea every time.
If it's really that intriguing to you, ask for pics. :)
Personally, I find office romances to be pretty silly. No fishing off the company pier for me.
Haha. Yeah, my current love interest worked with me, which is how I met him. He may be working there again.