On my way to the office almost every day, some dude takes it upon himself to throw "hey, sexy" or "good morning, beautiful" at me and several other ladies who walk by him. And while I ignore it, I wonder what other people do when they hear him. Do they scowl at him, ignore him or start screaming about how demeaning it is?
What is the appropriate way to respond to a catcall?
Also, for kicks, what was the best catcall you ever got?
And guys, if you're the type to say things to passing ladies, why do you do it? Just curious.
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"Aww... so cute. Look at you, thinking you're so clever. Someone should give you a fucking cookie," is what I'd say, with a big fat smile on my face. Yep.
That's just me though... I wouldn't recommend it, otherwise, haha.
I ignore, and then later laugh. I mean really, what does a guy think he's going to accomplish by driving by and yelling out his window "You fine girl!"
Ughh..I ignore it! I hate it when guys do that..It just catches you so off guard..and I'm sorry but my name is not "baby." Why don't they act like gentlemen and try to start a conversation with me instead of catcalling? So annoying.
i want to give him the evil eye or make some smart ass sarcastic comment on how lame he and his words are, but best to ignore.
a reaction is what they're hoping for--don't honor the demeaning words with a response. doesn't deserve it! so i bite my tongue. hard.
when i used to werk downtown i wuz shokd by the number of men who thot it wuz ok to make catcallz @womyn so i usually wud pretend they wer callin me & wud grab my crotch & flik my tung out @the freekin jerks just to call them on ther shit & the one that really will completely piss offa catcaller iz when i made the asl sign for blowjob az for makin catcallz ive never dunnit Â
i ignore them the best i can..so sleazy -_-
i hate walking from my work to restaurants across the street..a lot of spanish guys stand around that street all day for God knows what, and they always say something to me (i hear it's just their culture though?). either way, i make sure to be on the phone or have my iPod on if i go there for lunch
but the worst is when you hear honks then looking at them then it turning out it was for you UGH i hate giving guys any kind of reaction, even if it's as neutral as just looking. so i've trained myself to control that reflex hahaha
Sometimes I ignore it, depending on who says it. I'm not sure if this is a catcall or not, but I was definitely taken aback by it. There's this guy in one of my computer classes that I went to high school with and we're still going to college together, and we were talking about something...he called me young lady at the end of it.
No guy, in my life time, has ever called me young lady until he did, so I was a little surprised when he said it, and blushed, hehe. I hope he didn't see me blush though. I don't know if he has a mini-crush on me or not, but he's always making sighing noises with me, too, lol.
I think a lot depends on who is doing the cat-calling. If the guy is an attractive young guy, reactions might differ. I might smirk. But usually I ignore them because there is no point since I won't ever see them again.
I probably should say that I hate catcalls I'm sure that's the politically correct thing to say..... but come on girls isn't it just a teensy bit funny to you?..... honestly speaking there is that little part of me that just gets tickled at the effort those guys put in to making up all those funny things they shout. Especially the hispanic guys whose English may be slightly lacking.... and most of them do mean well even if they are misguided in their mode of complimenting a woman. So when I get the cat calls I try very hard to igore them and be politically correct but sometimes I can't help the little smile that sneaks out at the sheer creativity of some of the calls........~Echo
i usually just laugh it off. i mean really, unless it's someone i know, i'm glad they enjoyed looking at me and i hope they never get that chance again.
It honestly amuses me some.
I don't typically react to it though. Like someone before me has said, they just want to provoke a reaction and I'm not going to fall into it.
Side note:
Some kid (my age, roughly) called me ma'am yesterday. It confused me a lot. Why is this tough football player stepping aside, opening a door for me, and calling me ma'am?
I don't care what the guy looks like, I think it's stupid. I don't react to hooks or whistles or remarks - it's not worth it. I don't know what they think they are going to accomplish when they honk at you. I mean really? A honk? How flattering.
Usually it just makes me feel like a piece of meat and I'm pissed about it for a few minutes. I know it shouldn't make me angry, it should flatter me - but it doesn't. It just frustrates me.
I understand that when you first meet a guy (as in face-to-face), usually he's going to comment on looks, because really, what else does he have to work with? He doesn't know anything about me - my level of intelligence or my taste in music - so that I'll excuse. But catcalls insinuate that he doesn't care to learn any of that about me - just that he thinks my butt looks cute or I have a pretty face. That's what I find so insulting about catcalls - there is no respect there for me as a person.
@pansybradshaw@xanga - shit, can you write normally too?
I put a finger on each hand up. One guess as to which finger.
There really aren't any best verbal catcalls- although it's pretty sexy when the guys are in a big brown truck that's got straw and hay plastered all over it with specks of manure.
Gross
@pansybradshaw@xanga - @Shy___Away@xanga -
yeah i get confused over her ghetto english too
Hmm it depends on how they do the cat call I suppose. I usually just ignore them, but once in a while I will tell them to get a life or screw off.
A few months ago I was walking to lunch and this guy kept starring at me and I looked back at him and said "wow you are so beautiful....beautiful" I was a little flattered.
@kusakusakiwi@xanga - That sucks. Just to let you know not all hispanics are that way. There are jerk guys in all cultures. I happen to be mexican and I know it is not apart of our culture to be that way.
ignore most of the time. Responding to them will just give them permission to initiate a conversation.
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I ignore them. I live on a busy street and occasionally get beeped at especially by truck drivers. What's the point of that? It's not gonna make me go running down the street after that..."OMG you beeped at me, I WANT YOU!"
@GaMeGurLsH@xanga - clearly you havnt eny idea of what ghetto englysh iz hahahahahahaha
@silence_of_words@xanga - define normal i meen reely wtf iz normal
@pansybradshaw@xanga - at least it's not what you do with the language there?
Wow... again, i'm shocked by the responses.
Yes, sometimes catcalls are irritating but most of the time I turn around to find whoever called and smile at them. Hell, they think i'm good looking, why would I be upset at that? I'm usually pretty flattered. I don't think they're actually trying to pick up women, they are just showing their appreciation, even if it is a little... unorthodox. If its something really explicit like "suck me" (which some random guy i was walking by said) I just ignore it and walk faster.
@pansybradshaw@xanga - then you might as well speak in gibberish if you think nothing can be categorized as 'normal'.
@silence_of_words@xanga - Clearly she just wants to feel special and unique. Yes she is clearly SPECIAL if you get what I mean.
"Keep dreaming...." in a nonchalant, more irritated than snarky manner.
I got one that went like this
he said: "Mmm you're FIERCE."
I said: "Mmmm you're uglier than Tyra Banks."
:D
edt: I used to respond to cute guys, but now I don't really want to even get that game started D: Most guys don't know when they cross the line between flirt and creep.