Miss Double ShotBack in high school, I crushed on a guy who loved The Beatles - I liked them, too, but I didn't know or care as much about them as he did. I remember getting books about Paul and John's childhood at the library and trying to casually whistle Paperback Writer when he was around. Slick, right?
Now, I've realized it's not worth the effort to make someone think you are into the same things as they are - if you guys are meant to be, you'll find common interests anyway - and I don't pretend to like certain things just to impress anyone. My poor BF has been trying to get me into The Simpsons for a while now, and I just don't get it; 16-year-old me would be furiously Googling in-jokes from the series and trying to ease "d'oh" into my vocabulary just to impress him, but 23-year-old me knows better than to fake the funk and like it if I like it, not if he does.
Have you ever pretended to like something your crush did just so you'd have something in common? Did he or she realize what you were doing, or are you slicker than I am?
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I started to lispten to a completely new type of music and band I had never even heard of. Lol. Only then I ended up loving the music and hating the guy. Go figure.
Eh, it's soooooo much easier to just figure out who you are--and go with that. Let others take notice of it, if they so choose.
People generally like it when you're you, and not them--in my case, at least.
@photochic226@xanga - Right! Adapting is good, but that's part of growing up, developing tastes/interests. Doing so ONLY for the sake that someone else likes it (and you would like them to like you) is.... pointless. Especially if you hate the interest to begin with.
I don't think I have ever pretended to be interested in something a guy likes just to have something in common with him. I would feel like I was lying to him and I just am not a good liar. I am willing to try new things and learn about stuff he likes but I let him know I am exploring things he likes. I find guys are pretty impressed to know I am learning something new for them. About the Simpsons... LOL my new guy in my life just introduced me to them... not sure how I got to be 23 without ever having watched the show but I found the episode he showed me to be pretty funny. It won't be my favorite show anytime soon but I can sit and watch it with him and have fun. ......................... ~Echo
I don't recall pretending to be interested in anything that a crush liked, or at least I didn't make an effort to do so. Too much work--I'd rather find someone who already shares those interests.
I remember doing this a lot in junior high. It was mainly college basketball. The guy that I liked was a huge Duke fan so I started getting into basketball also. Of course, as I've gotten older, I've realized that this is silly and it's pretty pointless to do something like that. Having different interests is good because always having the same interests would be boring.
i agree..don't pretend what's there or try to force it..
nope never pretendid to share eny intrests that wernt alredy ther my current bf izza total jok who takes hiz football way too seriously while i can barely contain my boredum thru an entyre game zzzzzzzzzzzzz but hez sweet so i put up withit & slowly i did adjust to tolerating baseball & akshually bekama colorado rockiez fan go figure we do hav plenty of other stuf in common thank gawd & he iz gay so ther iz that
The most I've done is listen to a band he loved that I didn't really care for. I learned to like the band and we came to be able to share our music.
;D
But i wasn't like. "OMG I LOVE THAT BAND!" and then go off and try to remember every song. I just said I didn't give them much attention but I'd look into what they got. And that led to more conversation than just pretending like I liked them a whole lot.
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surely the in thing now is facebook stalking
I used to be like that too. I'd do anything and everything to try and have something in common with the guy I liked just to get him to like me. Now, I'll make a small effort. If he says, "Hey have you ever heard of [some band], I love them" I'll look it up and check it out, just to see if I might like them too. 5 years ago I would have lied, said I loved them too, and obsessively listened to their music until I knew every word.
Or I just find someone who I actually have things in common with. Haha...
@vampuke@xanga - facebook stalking to find out every like and dislike and saying you like all the same things before they get the opportunity to tell you?!? Thank God facebook didn't exist when I was in highschool, I would have done that all the time, I'm sure of it. Not anymore...
No, I would not. Not even as a teenager did I pretend or try to like something I did not. It's not worth the effort of trying to be something you are not or like something you don't like. You are you and your BF or SO is who they are. Either they accept you for you or they don't, and if they don't it is not worth it to begin with.
@pansybradshaw@xanga - Your typing is extremely annoying. Is that what you are going for?
I've never pretended to like anything, other than meatloaf.
God, I hate meatloaf...::shudders::
My current boyfriend loves Coldplay so I've went with him to a free concert and enjoyed the concert. I like some of their music but do not pretend that they're my new fav band. I'm the kind of person who will give new music/movies a try but if I don't like it, I won't feign interest in it.
I used to be the same way. I think we see though as we get older that people don't want you to be a mirror image of them. You have fun together because you teach each other stuff too.
Also, I HATE THE SIMPSONS! I don't get the fanaticism about it.
@Pcgecko85@xanga - no
I used to really like this guy who was into rpg games so i would play games with him even though i didn't really like it. But it was a high school crush so i've learned not to do that. What you see is what you get!!
I will give their interests a shot but if i dont care i dont care. For example my gf got me into anime. I got her into metal for a while but then she gave that up for radio crap. I also got her into WoW then I gave it up and she still plays it all the time. So give it a shot, and u like it u like it. Don't force it
Ah err.. I can't think of any. I don't think I ever pretended or faked an interested for some guy. Once you lie, you have to keep on lying. I don't think I had enough strength to do that. lol.
I never have, but I had an ex that tried to get into the things I liked when the relationship was coming to an end. Its easy to see when he's pretending to like something. We had nothing in common. Its just not worth pretending, it just causes more problems in the end. I wouldn't want to get stuck having to listen to music I really don't like hahah. Or dress in clothes I hate.
Yeah, but then later on, I really became interested in those things...
I dont have to pretend to like something what my crush likes since I dont have one.
This can also be pretending to like something with other people like groups, music, websites etc.
I totally changed my taste in music for a guy until one day I was like "Screw it, this stuff sucks!". He seemed to like me more after that, when I started listening to my own stuff and not just agreeing with him that his was good.