Dear Guys,
I just want to tell you that if you say that you are going to call, do it.
And if something comes up and you can't call, tell us
in advance and don't leave us sleeping next to our phones. It's like waiting all week for the new Gears of War game to come out...constantly checking online just for it to be postponed on the last day. Send us a text or even a message on Facebook. Just don't come the next day with, "baby I'm sorry." It's not going to fly.
If it happens once or twice, fine. Don't make it a habit of it because it just makes it harder for us to trust you. It shows irresponsibility and that you can't do what you say you're going to do. That's not a good impression to make.
If you don't call because you're not interested, then man up and tell us.
Better then having us check our phones every five seconds with false hopes.
Don't promise you're going to call unless you're 100% sure. Don't say that you're going to call in 15 minutes when in reality, it's three hours. If you're unsure on how fast you can get back to us, just simply say, "I'll call you back later." If you're unsure that you're going to be able to call, say that you may be busy and may not be able to talk to us tonight.
It's as simple as that. If it happened to be an unexpected emergency, like the hospital or the law, and therefore you couldn't call us, we'll understand. Reasons like your being too smashed drunk with your friends to remember us are just not going to pass by. Call before you consume all those beers and that you'll talk to us another day.
If she can't respect that you like to have a guys' night out and drink, perhaps she's not the one for you.
Really, girls aren't that difficult. Just remember to call, even if you have to put a Post-It on your forehead.
Sincerely yours,
awokenfatality
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Comments (63)
agreed. fully.
Just remember: It's a two way street.
dear girls,
why are we waiting up for guys to say they're going to call. you're wasting too many moments in your lifetime, waiting up for that call. go out, live, laugh, and love someone else.
EDIT: meaning, if it's one of those, meet at a club sort of "i'll call you" moments. lol, that did sound a bit harsh eh?
i agree..
call if you say you will.. i dont care if you dont say what time but if you say "i'll call you tonight" you better fucking call me tonight. haha
i think its stupid when girls get mad cuz "he said he'll call me at 10! but it's already 10:05" . . . like wtf?
luckily, i don't have that problem with the guy i'm talking to sooo yay.
he eventually calls on the day he says he will. lol .. . good enough for me.
lol if you lose trust over not being called, then there's a problem lol. I understand the concept, very much so. But you're ruling out the idea of the person having every intention of calling you, and just getting caught up in the moment.. among other things.
I'm not excusing it, i'm simply saying your feelings of being 'led on' or feeling expendable b/c of not receiving a phone call, are in a word, ridiculous. Why even be dependent on someone's call anyway? Just call him back yourself. I'm sure if things were reversed, and you didn't call back, he wouldn't be mad in the least bit. if he DID get mad, then you have an interesting case; strive for emotional equality.
zubes5806@xanga - hahahahaha so you'd stop loving someone over missed phone calls? whoooooa lol
This goes both ways but I agree absolutely!
We wait because we really want you to call back but more than that we want you to want to call us.It's just like any other promise,if you say you're going to do it,do it!
i definitely agree.
glad i don't have to worry about that, but fully agree :)
boys, boys, boys... can't live with em, can't live without em. ;)
I ask the same of women. Dont say "I'll try", just call. Yet my ex didnt do that at certain times. But I always called her when I said I would. It's so simple. So I expect the same respect from women.
@Simply_Cynical@xanga - ha, yeah...thanks for the reply, i editted my comment to explain what i meant ^_^
i agree! i got upset at my boyfriend for forgetting to call... or rather, he said he'd call so i stayed up and waited, and waited... (and i usually sleep early) and he finally called and told me he didn't want to talk cause he was watching a movie.
i overreacted a little, but i was still pretty irked that i had bothered waiting when he didn't even remember to call. :(
zubes5806@xanga- I know what you meant, i was just pulling your leg a bit. ^_^ You very much have the right idea! live life and enjoy what you do! It'll make you more attractive; most guys don't like when they know a girl is waiting on their calls too much.. feels like obligation.
msg for all women. stop waiting by the goddam phone, its so pathetic.
well, it takes practice to do that. I just put my phone on silence the whole day so i dont get distracted, with practice, you will start having more respect for youself and you will get plenty of phone calls =)
dont make men the center of your world.
I agree... just tell us girls. Please.
I hate when they say they'll call and don't . . . but honestly, for men, it's usually not a big deal to them. We're the only ones moping around! Me? I keep my phone on until I go to bed, and if he hasn't called by then I turn my phone off, go to sleep, and just talk about it the next day. It's not about being pathetic or weak or needy or anything like that, it's about simple common courtesy. We are easily appeased by a simple text or message saying, "Hey, I can't talk tonight." I'm all for going out, having fun, etc., I'm not going to wait around on my ass and wait for a phone call, but if you give me your word, I expect you to follow through because I would do it for you. That's my philosophy anyway.
agreed. it's not that freaking difficult, at all.
And if you find yourself in the position where you really can't talk or call tonight, well sorry, but do it anyways.ÂÂ "Hey, I can't talk tonight but I love you and Ill talk to you tomorrow"
there ya go, a full minute of your time.
I agree, Im a guy and i make sure to let my girlfriend know wiether or not i'll be able to talk when i said id be able to. She has this problem, she can say that she's gonna call in 30 minutes, an hour later, she texts like nothing happened. when i bring it up, she forgot or she got into watching something xD.
Well yeah, if he's your bf, then he should call. Should, I suppose. Or maybe that's just his way of driving you crazy until you breakup with him, because you're ultra clingy and if he breaks up with you, you'll pester him, but if he makes you hate him, you won't (as much). Maybe. But if it's just a date? Errr, it's just something guys say. If it's at a club? Even more so. The rest of that line we mumble in our heads "Yeah, I'll call you... sometime between now and never... if I feel like it..." I could probably write a really long response analyzing why this is, but I don't think it's necessary. Bfs, yeah, call. Dates/strangers? If they want to? It's nice if they do, but if they don't, it's because they didn't REALLY WANT TO (ie: lying in the first place) and/or changed their minds. Sorry. Sucks. Happens. Move on.
yes call when you say you're going to call. it's the little things that count. if you can't do that, then how do you expect us girls to believe anything else you say.
I agree, it is a two way street.
I hate it when they do that! This guy I was seeing once use to tell me everyday, "I call you later." But he never did! Jerk! :(
skuze me but i kno SO meny grrrrlz who are SO guilty of the same not calling syndromÂ
i really wish i could get my boyfriend to read this
ugh
amen.
agree with the majority! :)
If you say you're gonna fucking call me.
You better. FUCKING. call me.
Cuhz I'ma just click on you next time. HAHAHHAA. I don't wanna make NO effort FOR NO ONE who isn't gonna even make effort for one little phone call.
So simpo.