Friday, 30 January 2009
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Friday Fun: When Did You Know You Didn't Find Your Soulmate?
emmalee1508 sent us a link about moments when guys knew that their girls were the ones for them - check it out here!
But because most of us aren't married and probably won't be for a while, let's switch it up - what was a moment in a past relationship when you realized that your BF or GF wasn't going to be your soulmate?
(mine: when my ex and I were playing along with Jeopardy, he made a scorecard for us and labeled my side "hottie" . . . Check, please. )
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- his idea of a date was detailing my car...
when my ex asked me to ditch my family on christmas to spend time with him... when we hadn't even been going out two months. -__-;
what's wrong with "hottie...."
... i can't think of anything
:S
@smyl4me56@xanga - i would rather be referred to as a garbage disposal than a hottie.
When he said he'd "let" me learn how to drift.
when we broke up.
One of my ex boyfriends wouldn't let me meet his friends for the longest time. After a month, he finally fessed up why-because he thought they would make fun of him for dating a girl who wears outfits that cost less than $100.
i've had a few sour moments with various guys:
1. when he told me he liked me but didn't know what he wanted and needed time to think... only to run into him two weeks later with his new girlfriend
2. when we broke up and i was still in the stage of "did i do the right thing", he had the balls to tell me he's "ready for me to move on" as if I needed his permission. Needless to say, those words reaffirmed my questioning doing the right thing.
3. On a first (and last) date, he nicknamed me Tigger and called himself Pooh.
4. On another first (and last) date, he informed me everything I would ever need to know about cocaine.
@lilacros3s@xanga - That was probably the most straight forward yet best answer. I second that haha.
@fatal_mess@xanga - I like number 4- that's absolutely hilarious (well, maybe not at the time..)
I don't have any good stories though-the only person I thought could be my soulmate actually was my Mr. Right!
I have OCD and my ex-fiance (in front of his ENTIRE family--uncles, aunts, etc included) made fun of me while I was being compulsive. That wasn't okay. :|
When his chauvinistic jokes started bugging me....and when I saw the women, including his wheelchair-bound sister do all the clean up after dinner, while the men chatted and maybe passed a plate to a woman to take to the sink. Oh, and all those "bake me a pie" requests...not even a please.
@Bretagne89@xanga - OUCH! Fiance?! What a beast!
@Purple_Harlequin@xanga - The "ex" in "ex-fiance" is the operative part, though!
when he spent 22 hours of every day for 4 or 5 weeks straight sitting on his computer...he didnt even notice when I started moving my things out...even when i took the bed...
He wasn't actually my boyfriend, but it was when he wrote in his blog "I still think about you everyday" and turned out to be talking about his ex and not me.
Hmmm....in chronological order:
1. When he began planning his life around MINE (we were 18 at the time).
2. When I realized he only wanted the life we had back in our hometowns and was not going to work on the life we could have together in our new town. You can boil it all down to the issue of him never wanting to expand his horizons.
3. The minute I walked in the door....of his mom's house.
4. When I realized he would never, ever make any decisions without input from and approval of his parents. Ever. Particularly his mother.
Current guy? I haven't had that moment, and here's to hoping I never well.
1) When he said he still loved me, but that he had hurt me too much to fix.
2) He only kissed me to get back at my ex, and his mom wouldn't like me anyway (funny, since I knew his mom, and she was cool)
3) he was afraid to talk to me in person (high school)
4) abusive. need I say more?
I could list all the reasons past boyfriends didn't work out, but I'll just tell the one with the best story.
Lunch at a Chinese buffet. He demolished four plates in about seven minutes. After the meal, we walked out to his car. He threw me against his car (Pontiac Firebird - an AUTOMATIC Firebird) and kissed me (with way too much tongue), knowing very well that I'm not a fan of large displays of affection. He pulled away. And belched. Practically into my mouth.
Then he laughed and tried to kiss me again.
Gross. I told him to consider himself dumped about four days later.
when, during finals week, i drove 30 miles (not that long, i know, but this was high school and i had to study!) to give my ex a surprise visit at work, waited for him to get off work, and right after he got off work, he asked: "so, what are you going to do? i'm going to go home, bye."
another instance: a different ex said that the only way i was going to get a certain job was if i slept with the manager/higher-ups, and that was why he didn't want me to pursue my career.
when he sat in front of his computer all day long playing games leaving me to hang out with his little brother. whatever, his little brother was way more fun to hang out with anyways. eh.
when I realized that strangers compliment me more often tha he does
When he invited me to his cousin's wedding after we'd only been dating for two months.. Fast much?
When i became an option instead of a priority. He was looking for something better i guess.