Dr. DatingishI have dated the same guy three times now. We keep breaking up and getting back together. He is always the one to break it off and to start talking to me again.
Each time we date, the relationship gets better and more intimate. The only issue is he expects to much too soon each time - I think that's one of many reasons he keeps breaking it off, because I won't give it to him.
Recently, we broke up again. He said he loved me and everything, but he didn't have time and did not really want a girlfriend. I'm wondering if it might have been for another girl or he didn't like that we were not being sexually active. Do you think that's all he wanted?
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Stop talking to him and find someone worth your time.
That's probably what it is. You should consider not dating him anymore, if you don't want to be sexually active yet, because it really seems that that's all he wants.
Here's what you say to him (and use these exact words):
"Shit or get off the pot."
Don't bother with this guy
tell him to peace the fuck out.
You could make a joke saying do you want to be friends with benefits.. and see how he say about it. If you caught him in his words, then that's good enough to end this "relationship"
There's no way of knowing for sure what he wanted, and there's no reason to know, either. Don't waste your time dating guys like him and pondering about stuff that doesn't matter.
Are you ... surprised? 0.o lol
Seriously, though. Cut him off, lose him. Find someone who will like you for YOU and not just the physical stuff.
Please, PLEASE don't get suckered into having sex before you're ready. Haven't you noticed that's that is the reason so many girls end up regretting their sexual encounters. Be smart. If he had an ounce of respect for you, he wouldn't be playing this yo-yo game. Listen to the people before me, dumped the schmuck! You don't need to go through that.
ditch him like last year's snotrag my dude. it sounds like he's just working on you to get into your pants.
Woah...this sounds all too familiar to me! I'd went through something VERY similar...almost exactly. He was pushy and I wasn't ready. But the pushiness literally made me feel like that's all he was interested in. And the on-and-off again crap was getting to be too much for me. Eventually I'd discovered he was seeing somebody on the side. I've happily moved on since! lol You should do the same! There's somebody else out there better for ya, I guarantee it!
Ask him straight up how you feel about taking it slowly. If he respects you, then he will slow it down and wait for you.
i'm in a similar situation. i think you should cut it off with him if he's ot respecting that you want to take it slow, but i know it's hard- i haven't cut it off with the guy i'm currently sort of seeing but i prob should....
but yea, just tell him what ur intentions and ask what his are and just talk about it and see if he changes/starts to respect you.
Everyone's saying drop him and I agree. Don't keep him around any longer. He's not good for you.
guys are asses..
find a man.!!! ha, j/k
I don't know if sex is all he wants, but he obviously doesn't want to be in a real relationship. He just wants to get his manwhore on.
Get rid of him.
get a real man
Nope. Well for me at least, it never has been. But then, I don't look at sex as some might either. I think it can and should (usually) be about intimacy and an expression of love And as you get older, it should get more so, not less.
stop dated wth him anymore..
my question is, why do you keep letting him do this to you? I mean, the first time you didn't know... the second time you thought he'd come around or at least change... but why the third time?! don't you see a pattern?
i became recently single and this is probably the reason why I'm looking for JUST dating... meaning nobody is getting laid because I don't believe in separating sex from love (the equation in my head is sex comes if and only I love him) but any guy that I date for a long period of time is going to expect to get laid and knowing that, I probably won't have any genuine feeling for him to give him that.
You shouldn't give into that either because he's doing this thing... and perhaps.. he just enjoys "jerking" you around. "maybe there's something about her that I've missed... she's such a nice girl and she's what I'm looking for but..." THIS might be it. Sorry to sound harsh but it just might be the case and until you actually stand up for yourself and put your foot down with "NO" then he's going to keep doing it to you.
Yes.
screw him. i mean, you know what i mean.
If by sex you mean sex, then yes, (moron).
@Super___Connected@xanga - Lol... this comment makes me smile...
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