Thursday, 29 January 2009
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Warning to Guys: We Can Size You Up
Girls can do some remarkable things. Brilliant things. Useful things.Maybe what I'm about to say will send a portion of the male population running or make some of them laugh. But within the first five minutes of conversation with a guy (or sometimes we can tell without even approaching you), my best friend and I can tell a lot of things about a man. We can tell if you'd be a good kisser. We can tell if you'd be a good dancer. And sometimes (a lot of times actually), we can even throw out an estimate on your size or sexual prowess.
Now, not all of us are born with such an intuitive and useful gift, haha. I have plenty of friends that, upon hearing my best friend and I rattle off assumptions, ask us how the heck we can possibly guess something like that. But we have about a 90% success rate. We don't test drive ALL of these theories ourselves, but there is the occasional man that feels he has something to prove once we tell him we have him figured out. Sometimes we hear things through the grapevine, sometimes we learn first-hand. But we're usually dead on, and we can't figure out what it is that gives it away for us. Not swagger, not physical fitness, not personality. There are just certain physical traits that I think are related to others within a person.
Ladies, am I right? Do you possess this skill as well? And if you do, do you use it to your advantage?
And men, are you running screaming? Do you do this with your friends too? Or maybe now you want to prove some of the ladies in your life right (or wrong)...
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Haha, I do this with my friends, too. We're usually right about the guys we choose to "size up". And once the guys realize what you're doing, they'll try to either prove you wrong or hide the truth, and usually that just makes it even easier!
I love boys for just that reason.
i remain unconvinced. Still, it IS a bit intimidating to hear someone make this claim.
I wish I had this special power... lol!
another reason why this gentleman prefers other gentlemen
I am very good at this. But I can do it with everyone... not just men. I am the go to girl for all my friends.
Hahaha best friend, this will make me giggle for days.
It is VERY true boys ;) We have a knack!
Funny thing is, I'm not that surprised. A lot of women have some variation of such an ability. Lucky for me, I'm able to smooth talk well and balancing it out with good gestures.
Well im not nearly as correct about my mans character.. ( dont we all WISH we were??)I am almost always correct about friends boyfriends.. just never my own, almost all of my friends introduce me to there boyfriends and whether they like it or not.. i give them my opinion.
But i will say I can usually assess whether or not a man will be a good kisser with a 90% accuracy rate. lol But it is only fair to admit that i am also a picky kisser. hehe..
it only takes 3 minutes from the moment i see him to know if i want to sleep with him..
it takes 15-30 minutes from the first handshake til the end of the conversation if i want to pursue him or to welcome his advances.
The way someone walks, the gestures he makes...eye contact..posture ..they all say a lot.
But as good kissers?... that's a little hard to tell. I've dated some really cute boys and they couldn't kiss. But I've also dated a few who could.
@Just_call_me_the_underdog@xanga - take a breath!
"girls like me," you will find, are miraculously still very eager and willing to find someone that treats us wonderfully and fits well in our lives, someone that we can share trust and mutual respect with.
but do we want that every single time we meet someone? maybe, but it is highly unlikely. and if I'm looking for a little fun in my life, you're damn right i'm gonna pick a guy that can do what i need him to do!
@Just_call_me_the_underdog@xanga - Lol, well put :)
And that is entirely the truth. A lot of a first time experience is about chemistry. Whether in a sexual or dating sense, we unintentionally seek things out. Perhaps some of us just choose to admit that. If we're seeking a sexual experience what on earth would we be spending time with anything we may find to be mediocre?
I feel its safe to suggest that guys know what they're looking for in the ladies department too, and they have both creative and crude ways of handling that as well.
Good observation skills do come in handy. Noticing that your SO is a dirtbag before everyone else on the planet does -- now that's a useful skill, and one that is woefully neglected. Of course, being able to spot the other more positive attributes would come in handy too.
@YourOuterCritic@xanga - don't worry I have decent dirtbag radar as well haha! but definitely not as fine tuned as other types. Some people are scary-good at first impressions!
@blackmagic_woman@xanga -
*takes a breath*
Do as you like. And BTW, please inform me on more of the things you do or what people of your type act like so that when I see them, I know to stay the f_ck away from them.
*exhales*
This would be a great money making skill.. for a gold digger.
I know some girls that have this "skill", which makes it seem like she could pick and choose the right one for the girl.... then again, they're mostly in their mid 20s and often single... I wonder why?
Hehe my boyfriend and I met a year ago, but didn't start dating until 4 months ago. I thought nothing of him the first time we met - I hardly acknowledged his presence the first 8 months of knowing him. He later told me that he knew we would get along great because I wasn't one of the many girls who flock all over him because of his fit body without even knowing him!
I do the same thing - the quieter the guy is in a public setting, the better. Silence says alot. I find it mysterious AND sexy As long as he's still listening and alert on what's going on, and smiling (not acting all stuck up) - the less that comes out of his mouth, the better... it sends a spark out to loudmouths like me =)
@Just_call_me_the_underdog@xanga - I feel like you found this to be some kind of personal attack and I'm not entirely sure why. I'm gong to assume that maybe something unfortunate (and in your head seemingly related) has happened to you both by the bitterness from your response and coining the phrase "underdog" in your username (may be a stretch, assumption, and I'm owning up to that) but I can be quite certain that we in no way as a "type" (or gender) stereotyping but rather being selective to find something we're interested in. Each person has their own qualities and attributes which make them individual and unique.
@fatal_mess@xanga - i agree, the quiet ones are always the ones you gotta watch out for!
maybe.
but have you ever wondered why men never brag that they can size your women up dead on?
because we don't really give a shit.
@YourOuterCritic@xanga - Haha, agreed.
It's great OP feels confident enough to "read" men. But I disagree that it's a "gift" - I think it comes through experience.
I have to ask you about your comment: "...but there is the occasional man that feels he has something to prove once we tell him we have him figured out."
You actually TELL them you have them figured out? If someone told me that that I barely knew, I would likely be offended and stop talking to them. I mean, yeah it's fine to think that you know someone. But it's pretty brazen (and unnecessary) to tell them so. Unless, of course, you're reveling in your "gift"...and using it as an overt defence (or offense) against men.
Personally, I like keeping my "powers" to myself and have them revealed to other people over time. That's what makes them so powerful. I mean, maybe I can size people up, or maybe I can't - but they'll never know. My powers are for ME, and not something to be thrown in another person's face to make them feel crappy while making me feel like, "Yeah, I know all."
@Sanitysremnants - Actually, this username was made around, 2004? 2005? when I first signed up. It's a bit weird to still have to use this, but I'm not gonna make another account. So I'm waiting for 10k credits and bam.
Maybe I'm bitter, but you have to ask yourself, how are the countless "men are brainless asshole idiots, we can typify them and do this" posts I constantly see around here, any better? You're saying that this 5-minute rule isn't a result of any bitterness, but it's just a "Hah, lookie us women" thing?
@Nicola_Six@xanga - when we tell people it's more like a joke we mess around with in our circle of friends. i would never walk up to a stranger and say "I give you about 7 inches" haha. you're absolutely right, that would be incredibly rude!
I think you're all idiots.
@Just_call_me_the_underdog@xanga - You make excellent points. I think what you wrote was the proper response to this kind of article.