Wednesday, 28 January 2009
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Greeting Gestures - What Are You Comfortable With?
I guess you could say I'm one of those people who's up for anything in the way of how someone greets me and departs me.
Some people like hugs, some people like to wave, some people don't like to say goodbye at all, some people give me a kiss goodbye.My preference is a goodbye hug with a kiss on the cheek - I'm French at heart. I know some friends aren't comfortable with this, though.
Today though, I kissed a guy friend goodbye on the cheek just to see his reaction...and his crazy ex-girlfriend was watching too, I think. I mostly expected a WTF moment, but not like this. He was just, like, "DON'T EVER DO THAT AGAIN" and walked away. Ooops.
Do you ever find yourself sacrificing what you're comfortable with for someone else?Are you comfortable hugging and/or kissing members of the opposite sex if they're just acquaintances?
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Arrr, I dislike the kissing thing, even though where I'm from, it's a huge custom. But hugs are nice :D and I'm definitely cool with waving and anything else :)
I definitely wouldn't try anything like that without making sure the other person is okay with it beforehand. That said, I'm not comfortable with being all touchy-feely no matter what the circumstance is, so I don't think this question is really directed at people like me...
I usually just walk off with a "bye" or a "see you in a bit" or a "see you on Monday" or something to that effect. If I'm approaching someone, I might say hi, or I might just start talking to them immediately.
I'm comfortable with kissing people on the cheek, I just would never initiate it. And lol, that poor guy's reaction...
It depends on how well I know them. If it's a good friend, I'll hug them usually. I'm from the Midwest, and nobody here really does the kissing thing. It was really awkward for me when I went to New York, because that's how everybody greets each other!
Ummm, I guess it depends on the other person. I'm cool w/hugs no matter who, but the kissing?? I only have like one friend that I'm like that with...
I usually hug my guy friends more than I do my girl friends, but I guess that makes sense. I don't mind hugs or kisses on the cheek - but if I had a boyfriend that DID mind if I did that, then it's not a big deal for me to stop either.
Hugs no matter what. I kiss my friends from South America, so I've gotten accustomed to that as well. Basically what ever the other person is comfortable with is fine by me as long as it has nothing to do with attacking/molesting me.
I agree it depends who it is! I think it's really sweet when a male friend hugs and kisses on the cheek- but only if they are a close friend! I get confused with the French greeting and personally greet in a hug minus the kissing. :)
Oh my gosh, I am so embarrassed for you..lol
I hug people but I don't kiss anyone on the cheek especially if they are just acquaintances. That would be a little weird.
Ya know, I've been playing sports my whole life. When it comes to guys, I'm perfectly okay with the high-fives, forearm bashing, butt slapping, chest thumping, back patting, head rubbing, et. al. But for some reason, unless she's a teammate, I don't like touching females. Moreover, it's weird when a female hugs me. I'd much prefer a head rub, hand shake, or high-five.
depends.
i don't mind being kissed on the cheek goodbye (i went to the dominican republic recently and goodbye was a kiss on the cheek and a hug). i like those kind of goodbyes. they're sweet. but i wouldn't do it unless i was comfortable with someone or knew they were comfortable with it. hugs will do just fine :]
If I really like someone (not as in love interest, but just as a friend in general) I often want to hug them or something. But I always realize that the other person probably doesn't feel that close to me, so it would be awkward for them and they would take it the wrong way (if they're a guy).
Kissing is another story...I've never kissed a guy friend on the cheek unless I had feelings for him. There's a female friend that I feel comfortable kissing on the cheek though, I think it always varies from person to person.
I shake hands with strangers, but I hug friends.
Your friend was probably not used to the kissing thing. I think it's something you have to start from the beginning of the friendship unless you get closer.
Haha, I guess you were expecting the opposite.
@ozzieong@xanga - Same here. I respond with a smile and a hand-shake with strangers, but I give hugs out to my friends . . . more like being forced by them. xD
The whole "hug and kiss" greet thing is too . . . weird for me. :P
It depends. Certain friends make me the casual "kissing" type, but it's not a big deal. It's more of a cheek-to-cheek kiss than anything. Other friends make me the hugging type, and less familiar people make me the bright-smile-and-wave type.
I used to loooooooove hugging, all my friends were huggers, but this was back in highschool. Now it's more for closer friends.
I had a girlfriend give me kiss on the cheek... it kinda feels gross when my cheek has been contaminated by someone else's saliva other than my bf's :S but it's her way of greeting so I don't stop her ahha.. It's ok for the same sex but I think you probably need to be more careful for opposite sexes, especially if you might give out wrong signals lol._.
I grew up in the U.S., so first of all, no one I knew has ever done it, although I remember vaguely seeing it perhaps several times with seniors. I'm glad it's not a custom in the U.S.; I'd definitely be considered impolite or inexperienced in social conduct after an attempt at a cheek kiss.
Anyways, I adore hugs when it comes to goodbyes. =) Anyone, everyone.
I usually just give hugs, but even then, some people don't give hugs whole-heartedly, and they just feel awkward.
When I'm with family or really close friends, I do a cheek kiss and a hug. Those are special to me, so I tend to save those for the ones I really love.
Nowadays, I just tend to see what the other person does; if they don't do anything, I do the same, or if they ask for a handshake... whatever.
I just like affection!
I hug everyone ~ well...as long as they don't seem uncomfortable with me and i get along with them (even if their merely aquaintances)
I wouldn't go as far as to kissing anyone though...it's just not my thing...It was probably weird for your friend if he's not use to it; perhaps he misinterpretated it for something else?
It depends how well I know that person, and what relation they are to me. My mother, I hug goodbye. A friend, I usually wave and say bye. Boyfriends, I kiss. I'm not a touchy, feely person. I don't like being touched by people that's not a relative, close friend or boyfriend.
i like hello/goodbye hugs and kiss on the cheek. ♥
Most of my friends hug as a greeting and as a parting. Some kiss me on the cheek or hair or neck. Only female friends, though; I only hug male friends.
I usually hug people, although I certainly don't have a problem with kissing as a greeting. And just waving seems to unpersonal for people that I know well.
omg! that sucks..i'm not too much of an affectionate person, i guess. so, it might have been weird for me..but i wouldn't have freaked outlike that guy..