Tuesday, 27 January 2009
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I Love to Spoil My SO
I pamper my husband like he's a king. That man gets whatever he wants/needs. I've pampered him since we started dating. I feel like he deserves to be spoiled. And I LOVE to do things for him. He's been at work all day, he gets up at the crack of dawn to go do PT, right now he's deployed in the middle of a giant sandbox . . . why shouldn't he be pampered?
He doesn't ask for any of this. Yes, occasionally he'll ask me to scratch his back or get him something to drink, but we all do that. But he doesn't ask for me to throw his towel in the dryer so it's nice and warm when he gets out of the shower, he doesn't ask for me to praise him and constantly compliment him and tell him how wonderful he is, he doesn't ask for fresh ground coffee and a hot breakfast every morning. I do that stuff because he deserves it and I love to please him.
People know I pamper him. My life is consumed with making sure he's happy and comfortable and taken care of. The biggest comment/question people (especially girls) have is "So what does he do for you?"
It always blows my mind. Um....he provides a life for me with a roof over my head, plenty of food to eat, a warm bed, a comfortable life where we can enjoy dinner dates and movie nights and before he left, we got pregnant with our first child...which is a boy! He works hard to provide a solid and comfortable life for our family. Do I really deserve anything more? He doesn't buy me flowers, he doesn't shower me with gifts or compliments. But he takes care of me and protects me. He is patient with me, he tells me he loves me and his number one concern is me and our unborn child.
So why should he do anything else for me? And why should I be concerned that he's doing something for me? A relationship is not about what you can get out of it. It's about what you put into it. If you've got a healthy relationship with someone who really cares about you, make them your first priority and they will make you their priority. That, to me, is the secret of a healthy, happy, loving relationship.
All I expect is what he promised me when we said our vows on our wedding day: to love me, honor and cherish me till the day he dies . Anything else is just extra.
Do you spoil your significant other? If so, what kinds of things do you do for them? Do you think it's a bad idea to pamper someone and not expect something in return?
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Yep, I spoil my boyfriend... And he spoils me back equally. We're great like that =D
Well isn't he a lucky man.
YES I SPOIL HIM TO MUCH LOL I COOK CLEAN WASH HIS CLOTHES RUN HIS WATER BAKE FOR HIM HIS FAVORITE TREATS COMPLIMENT HIM AND ANYTHING ELSE HE WANT I MAY START THE WARM TOWEL THING IT SOUNDS SO SWEET NOT COFFEE HE DOENST LIKE IT REALL BUT I DO IT ALL AND HE DOES EVERYTHING YOUR HUSBAND DOES FOR U FOR ME AND OUR SON Y DO PEOPLE FEEL LIKE IT HAS TO MORE OF SOMETHING SHOWY
oh i definitely spoil my boyfriend. i just love the sight of the sparkle in his eyes and his face lighting up when i do something for him. it's such a great feeling inside.
I never have money to buy my SO things but I definitely spoil them. I am there for them if they are hurt and when they need something I am there for them. If my SO is sprains his ankle I am usually there by his side with an ice pack (except for the one time he was in FL; it would've been impractical to go there with an ice pack from NYC). I cook them dinner, and just try to be an overall nice person, but I thought most people do that for their SOs
my bf and i spoil each other like crazy.
I think I'd spoil my SO just a little bit because I hardly get a chance to do so. I'm the younger of two children in my family, so I'm used to being spoiled by my parents and my brother (I'm not actually a spoiled person, though).
You're right though, it's what you put into a relationship that's really important. You reap what you sow, right? It's rewarding enough just to be appreciated and know that the person you are spoiling really loves you and what you do for them :)
I think it's fine to pamper someone you love, since it's your choice. You should never feel forced into it --but as long as it makes you happy, then why not? It's the same difference between a woman who chooses to stay at home with the kids, and a woman who is forced to stay at home with the kids.
I'm long distance right now, so pampering isn't really an option for me.
Glad you're such a giver, and you sound quite happy. It's nice for both sides to want to spoil the other! Sounds like you're doing your part, and he spoils you in his own way, by working hard and loving you. Expectations are a huge part of a relationship, and it sounds like he's meeting and excelling yours, and vice versa! Sounds like a good deal to me, regardless of what anyone else thinks. We're all different, and a lot of people here expect MORE from a man, but that's them, and you're you. Glad you're happy :).
That is awesome! I am in the Army Reserve right now, it'd be awesome if I could find a gf that would do that haha!
AMEN! I'm so tired of hearing crap from people about how devoted I am to my husband. Yes he's made mistakes, we all have, but he is MY HUSBAND. People divorce way too easily these days and vows mean nothing. He's spoiled me so much that I sometimes feel like I can't do enough for him. You know what else gets me? OTHER MEN that try to get us (married women) to cheat and then GET MAD when we say no. Like how dare I turn you down.. UGH! But that's neither here nor there LOL. Devotion is a wonderful thing when it's a two way street.
I don't have a significant other and I haven't had one that I really feel like spoiling yet, but when I'm with the love of my life I will because he'll deserve it and I want him to feel like the luckiest, special, most loved person in my life. :)
I think what you do for your husband is amazing and I'm really happy that your relationship with him is great. I wish you all the best for your future and I hope all goes well with your pregnancy. Also, I send my thanks to your husband for being in the military and fighting for our country.
jesus.
and here i thought dinosaurs were extinct...
Haha, my SO and I always spoil each other, with tons of stuff.
It could be us getting each other things that we've been wanting, to food, places, and TV channels.
I personally love how he spoils me with food, I love how he cooks me food even though it's like late at night, or we would go out and buy ice cream just because it will make me feel better.
@iambravado@xanga - exactly!
My girlfriend spoils me alot. She buys me food for my apartment (since I'm in art school with a part time job while she works full time). I never asked her to buy me any food or clothes, yet she still does it anyways. All I want is just love and the feeling of happiness with her, which she does give. I feel bad sometimes too because since I always spend money on art supplies and groceries, I don't have as much to give back to her, though she tells me that I shouldn't.
Dude..I like to spoil people..
PERIOD. like my friends say,
"you always put yourself before others"
anything to make you smile.
Yes, I spoil him as much as I'm able to but I'm young so I really can't spoil him as much as I'd like
and I don't get much in return, I don't even care.
:D
I love to spoil my man. As long as he is there to support me and loves me for who I am. I am more than glad to treat him like a king. I miss mine....Urgh
Oh yeah, Congratulations to both of you for your new gift of life : )
whatever works for you both. :)
Your husband is blessed to have you as his wife and it sounds like you're also blessed to have him. Good testimony for a good marriage.
Your relationship sounds amazing! You truly appreciate your husband, and that is all too rare. I believe that doing those things for you (taking care of you) is an expression of love that women often miss because we get so focused on flowers and candy. Making your SO your top priority (especially if you are married) is the key way to having a happy relationship, and when you treat them well, they do the same for you. Keep it up!Â
Congratulations on the baby boy! :D
Right on. Great post! :D