Monday, 26 January 2009
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I Have The Opposite of Yellow Fever
I'm an Asian girl, and I've been infected with white fever - the opposite of yellow fever. I've got it bad. I need a cure.Don't get me wrong, I've dated Asians. In fact, I've only dated Asians in the past. I'm tired of dealing with the strict parents that my past SOs had. I may be generalizing, but the reserved personality doesn't really cut it for me, either. I've been told that Caucasians are more lenient in terms of letting their children associate with the opposite sex. My friends that have dated Caucasians got introduced to their boyfriends' families after a couple months of involvement. Now, that's rarely heard of for Asians in relationships. Fellow Asians, do you agree?
At my high school, it is seriously white deprived - they are the actual minorities! I can honestly say that you see one white person to every sixty or so Asian people on campus. I'm 18 and a senior in high school, so not only is it hard for me to find someone who is of age (hilariously enough, my school mascot is a cougar), but it's even harder to dig through the pool of Asians to find someone.
What's even tougher is that most white guys seem interested in their own kind. However, some of my relatives married white men and ended up having beautiful children. After seeing their babies, it made me want to marry a white man, too. I concluded that interracial couples made beautiful babies.
I guess another reason why I'm so desperate to find a white guy is...curiosity. I mean, I wouldn't want to go to UC Irvine for that reason – the overload of Asians. But, I guess I have to wait for college to start my search...
What do you guys think? Do I sound closed-minded?
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No, you're not closed-minded. I have to bi-racial kids and I think they're beautiful as well
all i have ever dated or hooked up with is white men. even if i wanted to date an asian, they just wanna be friends where i am. so im stuck with white men whether i like it or not...and i really don't mind, though, hah.
more than likely i am going to end up with a white man myself. :P
Yellow fever, chocolate fever, white fever . . . . it's all stages. I was talking to a friend last night about it and one of the main reasons why alot of white males have yellow fever is to just get into an Asian girl's pants. Tell me another reason why and you probably won't find any. Don't get me wrong, I don't generalize that all white men who go for Asian girls are only going for the prize. The friend I talked have been with my best friend (who is Chinese) for over 2 years and they got together because they enjoyed each others' company.
But, generally, I know what you're saying with the whole "strict Asian parents only letting you date Asians" thing. I'm Chinese and my dad always told me to keep the Chinese gene pure bred. Not a chance. When I dated a Caucasian girl before, he got really upset. Right now, I'm dating a Vietnamese girl and he never showed one sign of being upset. My mom, on the other hand, told me to switch it up. Hahahah.
But, really, if you're only curious about dating a white guy, it's not closeminded. If you only want to date white guys, then it's closedminded. I hope this helps. :)
i've dated asians before. too much drama with their parents, etc. because i was never the "good influencing, christian, straight A" type.
Don't shut out Asians because of the stereotype. I am sure you'll find someone who is Asian and has the type of characteristics you like. But I understand your frustrations with Asian guys.
Haha, I've heard your situation a lot from my friends. I think you really need a bit of variety more than anything.
You raise a good point. Asian/Caucasian baby mix is mostly always good!
I'd wait until college to really start your search since starting a relationship your senior year in high school will be hard and limiting to you when you get to college.
Yes, that is rarely heard of in Asian to Asian relationships.
What? All I had were white people! GAH.
Whatever. Dating/Relationship is all the same. There is no Asian/White/etc. Fever. Don't let these things control your life.
@litt0_h0nii@xanga - What? You're frustrated with Asian men? Why? We're just like the rest of them...just...uh smaller in all aspects.
I have fever fever. I only date people who have body temperatures above 99 degrees Fahrenheit.
@laytexduckie@xanga - I'm with this duck. If you are only looking to see what the difference might be, you are not closed. It's when you have decided to dislike the Asians, American Indians, Black or other racial and cultural blends that you become closed.
@methodElevated@xanga - Hahaha, nice comment.
I don't think you're close minded, but be careful with following stereotypes too closely. So many things can vary on a case by case basic. For example, I introduced my past girlfriends to my parents within the first couple of weeks of dating. Sure a lot of Asian parents can be strict, but there are many that are just like any other parents of other races.
I'm dating an Asian girl that doesn't date Asian boys... Oh, I'm full Korean.
There are always exceptions to the rule and it's just proof that your choices are dependent on the person. Race is only ONE aspect.
I recommend that my sister date white boys, but that's based on her personality... and even she's aware that there are exceptions to the rule.
@methodElevated@xanga - TEE HEE.
@laytexduckie@xanga - Chocolate fever? Is... there... such a... thing? *eyes widen*
Mother: You better not date a guy who isn't Asian. I'ma disown your ass.
Me: Why do you gotta be so racist? As a matter of fact, I'm dating one right now!!! :D
Just for the fun and shits to piss her off.
ya u kinda do, i mean its cool that you find caucasians attractive but it seems to me that that is the only race outside of your own that you are willing to date or marry.i just think beauty is beauty, doesnt matter what skin shade someone has.
You're not close-minded, you just don't want to deal with the parent drama. Just be careful that you don't miss out on a great asian guy because you assume there will be trouble.
No, I don't think you're close-minded at all! :D
Actually, there are a lot of white men out there that like asian girls a lot. (: so, i know your parents must feel a bit odd, but I'm sure they'd be okay with it. My parents are okay with my boyfriend, and he's caucasian.
Anyway, I don't think you should worry about dating whoever, and you know, if the ethnicity is a kind of turn on for you, then let it be. xD
@IMChurchmouse@xanga - u couldnt have said it better
fascinating. it always is, discussions about race and dating. i had a filipino amercan friend who only wanted to marry a white guy because she wanted beautiful babies. shit, beauty is beauty, no matter the race. butt ugly people and gorgoeus people from all races. anyway, i do have some insight into this. my husband's flip am and his parents didn't want him getting serious until after law school. pfffff. like they paid for his damn tuition. still, kids, especially asian kids want their parents' approval. i should know. we don't want to disrespect them.
you're still very young. your idea of a perfect mate will change and change until you choose someone to marry. you won't know until then if you've totally closed yourself off to asian men. a non sequiter, for sure.
race should not play a factor on who you date. you are not dating or getting married to the family or friends. it is the person. my ex is an japanese-american. and though we may not be together (and it had nothing to do with her race or family as they accepted me with no problems) it does not stop me from looking outside my race (caucasian) <---funny that the word "asian" is part of the whole word. so do what you feel is right for you and the heck with what others may feel.
Nothing wrong with wanting some good ol' variety! It's not 'bad' racism unless you're unfairly discriminatory based on it. But there are very distinct differences based on ethnicity, which is all about background, which also builds your personality and everything that goes with it. UCI (University of Chinese Immigrants) is a bit more asian weighted than UCLA (University of Caucasians Lost in Asia), and they're both good schools. Alternatively there's Berkeley, and you'll get a HUGE variety of people there, be it race, creed, sexual orientation, personality, economic status, or simple eccentricity.
Caucasians, man, we really got jipped with the racial ethnic name. I'd prefer to be called white haha, but dude, you dont sound close minded at all.
I see Xanga is stoking the flames of Yellow Fever again...
My mom is southern Chinese (darker skin) and my dad is a blond Norwegian. They met and dated in college. I'm definitely not opposed to dating outside your race, since my siblings and I are products of that.
Ummm... there are just certain characteristics of people that are more typical to certain races. For me, I wouldn't be OPPOSED to dating an asian guy, however, based on how I grew up, the type of personality I want in a guy, and where my life is headed.... I have usually been attracted to anything but asian guys. I don't know why that happens, it's not that I'm not physically attracted to any of them. That's all :)
@wolvenchic@xanga - haha. i say white. and black. but not yellow? or brown? wonder why that is. . .
@Lizbeth8207@xanga - I had never been introduced to the ideas of yellow or brown until I started blogging. I think it kind of sucks to fill in that bubble if you are mixed ethnicity. Your ethnicity becomes "other".