Miss Polar Bear
If you remember the countless times I've wrote about being
stood up and my most recent run-in with "
coffin boy", you're probably wondering why I even bother at this point anymore.
I have one word for you all: Datingish.
Amongst the other perks being a dating blogger has, this has to be the best. Every time something so depressingly funny happens to me, I think "well, atleast this makes a good Datingish post." After all, I love to entertain and nothing is as entertaining as my luck in love . . . or lack thereof.
I started to think that by using this as an excuse to keep going, I'm giving myself more opportunities to actually meet a guy who won't cause me to write about him on a site. I can temporarily act like Carrie Bradshaw while still trying to find a man who will actually show up to dates and not bring me back to his apartment so I can admire his use of a coffin for furniture.
Pathetic or not, it works and it's true!
What keeps you guys going after a bad date? What gives you hope that someday you'll meet a legitimate counter part?
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Comments (19)
I keep going because I know I'm better than any single bad date.
Good question! You could be me! My love life is a wreck too, to the point where I've now moved and am starting over. What keeps me going? I enjoy it! It creates endless memories and stories, just like it does for you. I don't have them on datingish (yet), but who knows, maybe someday they will be! That and there's that slim chance that eventually one WILL go well...
I'm just resigned to the fact that I'm the coolest dork you'll ever meet. ^_^
I don't really date. But I guess what keeps me interested in the idea of dating is the experience I get from it, and the things I learn about myself. When a friend needs help, at least I can give them advice based on what I've learned.
My motivation is my parents honestly. I see their happiness and it makes me want to be like that one day. That keeps my mind on the future and my eyes on girls that are worthwhile.
A lot of girls hate this about me because I am extremely patient and will take the time to know whether or not the girl is worthwhile before dating. It's my style =P
Not much of a dating person, but I do love my romance novels when I'm not daydreaming...or doing homework =]. Haha. Ah, they mess up my love life by implanting these ridiculous ideals, but I read them anyway, and then I think that I'll find my very own true love someday. Ahahahah.
And for a more realistic one, I'd say my parents and my sister and her boyfriend. My parents are amazingly adorable together when they're not, y'know, nitpicking. Haha. And my sister and her boyfriend... 7 years, I think? Lesigh.
you sure got some really bizarre yet interesting stories to tell...I hope you will keep writing cause I'll be sure to keep reading.
Stories and the experience. Btw, Coffin Boy was funny to hear abt but painful to envision happening to me. Good luck w yr endeavors, I look forward to many more stories!
I tell myself, "At least I know what I DON'T want..."
To me, bad dates remind me of what I do want out of a relationship.
hahah coffin boy!
Like you... it's the stories you can share with others. It makes it worthwhile! Everybody would like to find their SO, and even though some 'dates' are disheartening, the interesting memories can be worthwhile... it's a learning curve... :P
"What keeps you guys going after a bad date?"
I try to take something positive from it - usually, the fact that at least I figured out early rather than later that he's a jerk and/or we're not compatible. So it's not a waste of time! And if the bad date is at a good restaurant, or I saw a good movie, or it was a cool event, that's another positive to take from it.
"What gives you hope that someday you'll meet a legitimate counter part?"
Y'know, I don't actually have that hope anymore. I'm not depressed though! I just try to be the best me that I can possibly be and present that to the world. And if someone responds to it, that's awesome. But I'm ok with being single for the rest of my life - I have amazing family and friends, and, well, lots of extraordinary things I want to do with my life!
lol
Agreed
@faerienoodles@xanga - whoohooo! I'm with you on that one. The best way to a girl's heart is with humor lol
i never had any inspiration to find someone..lol
and i never really cared..their was a point where i tried..then i gave up..
that's when he showed up. :)
so, maybe you shouldn't look for it..it has to come to you. when the time is right =]
I enjoy meeting and gettign to know people. Also...bad dates are funny when looked at objectively and make great stories. You can even name them Seinfeld style..."3 face", "mixed signals girl", etc.
-Cuisine
thats awsome....i like the attitude....i've been on sooooo many horrible dates....I can't wait to share the more to come on this website :)
i think sometimes the belief that you deserve better and u know better. Also sometimes being able to let things go and not be so hung up over men and people it makes a whole lot of difference I guess.
Also some good stories inspire me to hang in there.