This is a guest blog submitted by Bbyphat22.
It usually comes every month like clockwork. My stomach starts to hurt, I start craving chocolate and salty foods...but not this time around. I tried to calculate when the last time my "friend" came to visit was, but it's a new year, so the calendar on my wall is brand new without any marks - no familiar sad faces drawn with a red Sharpie to remind me of her last visit - damn.
Now I'm nervous...I start looking at myself in the mirror, trying to see if I notice any changes in my stomach - being a curvy girl doesn't help at this moment. Is that a baby bump or was it just that second helping of mashed potatoes and steak I had last night?
Now I'm sweating, wondering if I call my boyfriend and tell him the dilemma that we may be facing. Or should I wait for a couple more days until the end of the month approaches and I know for sure that my "friend" has bypassed me this month? Should I be the only one going through this nervous stage, or should I tell my boyfriend now so that we can prepare for the "what if"s?
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not yet... you may just be a bit late.
worrying about it too much could delay it even more.
It is normal in some women to have late periods. I dont know why but it is. It happens all the time with my friends lol. Wait a little bit to see if "she" comes again. Usually if you go a month and a half without it then you can start to worry and just tell your bf NOW that you haven't gotten your period yet and you are starting to worry. Guys don't really like surprises. Keep him informed.
Do not tell him. Not just yet. Wait a little longer. We don't want to freak anyone out. It's OK to be late. The weather, stress (or lack of) and what we eat and drink affects when it comes too. Mine is never on time. It is always a few days early or late.
I think you should wait. It may just be late!
You should wait until you know you are totally late!!!
I had to tell my bf the same thing 2 years ago and I actually didn't notice until I was 3 months so really just wait. If you are really nervous then you can say something.
There are many signs to look for, not just missing your period and remember, sometimes your body just wont go through it one month. That happened to me, even when I was on birth control, so that confused me and freaked out by I was good then.
Remember protection! These scares or pregnancies aren't the funniest thing, especially when you are young!
Good luck
I think you should wait a little bit longer. Even if you are very regular with your period, there may be a month every once in awhile where you are late. This can be due to a lot of factors like stress (the holidays always seem to be a stressful time).
Well, it's up to you. There was a post awhile back about this. You shouldn't have to worry alone, and you can share that, but you also can be considerate of his feelings. Would he want to share every worry with you? It's one thing to continually heap worries on someone unnecessarily, but it's another to go through a trial like this alone. Either way, go out and pick up a 2-3 pack of pregnancy tests. They're not expensive, and it will help you know sooner. You will NOT show 'bulge' signs for about 3 months, so that's not going to help. You might, however, get some morning sickness. However, it's getting towards the end of january, and unless you have some compelling life circumstances (extreme weight loss, exercise, stress) that means you should have skipped, there's a good chance you are pregnant. False positives are rare, but pick up a few because it's cheaper, and if it's negative you can wait a couple weeks and test again.
Second, tell him eventually, perhaps you should be more careful with your birth control!
you should definitely wait until the end of the month, or at least mid next week. then you can take a test and then once you know for sure you tell him.
you don't want him to think that your just pulling the "pregnancy card" for attention or something, you know how stupid guys can be.
best of luck!
oh and if you have to buy the test, get at least a 2 pack. it took me 4 test and two weeks without my period to confirm that i was pregnant. and use your very first morning urine!
Give yourself some time, it's not uncommon to be a little late. Unless your "friend" already missed the last visit (in which case a test wouldn't hurt), you shouldn't worry so quickly. And if you really are worried about being (accidentally?) pregnant, then maybe you should look at your sex life and make adjustments accordingly. By that I mean either quit having sex if you can't handle the consequences or if you can't quit then make sure you're protected every time. If you buy pregnancy tests, get a multi-pack (2-4) because there may not be a high enough hormone level to show that you're pregnant just yet. If you decide to test now, and it's negative, and you still don't have your visitor for the next couple of weeks, test again after the two weeks.
wait until you have a better idea (period or pregnancy test). If you end up being pregnant, it's going to last for many months, so a few extra days of "preparation" for him isn't going to really do much (exactly what would he even be doing in preparation that would take much time anyways?). Although then again, it could be an interesting test of character either way to see how he reacts...
I think you're just being nervous and scared right now though and when we're scared we like to share our fears with other people to ease our own.
since your "freaking out" that could delay it coming. But definitely wait till the end of the month and try to relax too, if your relaxed and it still doesnt come, then let him know.
Take a home pregnancy test if you're already a few days late. I'd tell him. It takes TWO to get preggo, it is as much as his responsibility as it is yours. Good Luck!!!
You don't need to scare him and yourself just yet. Wait until the end of the month or even a week or so after that. Take an at-home pregnancy test. If that comes back positive, then, yes, definitely tell him. Otherwise, wait it out.
I have no experience with this kind of thing though. I'm waiting for sex, but I hope you the best of luck with whatever happens.
I would wait a little while longer b/c sometimes nervousness and anxiety can also throw us off schedule.
I would use this as an opportunity for you to re-evaluate whether or not you should be having sex in this relationship. Because if it is this difficult for you to even consider discussing this with your boyfriend, do you really think you should be having sex with him? I had a couple of scares like this before I actually became pregnant. I wish I had taken those scares as a warning to discontinue having sex, but I did not.
Please learn from my mistake and be proactive. save yourself a lot of heartache by waiting until a man actually proves to you that he loves you before you are intimate with him.
then someday, when you are ready to have children, you won't have to fear. You'll know he will be faithful and fulfil his duties as a responsible father and husband.
If you are pregnant and need someone to confide in, feel free to message me (I kept my baby and she became the greatest blessing in my life). Depending upon how good your relationship is with your boyfriend, I would still consider confiding in an adult or close friend whom you respect and trust.
I agree with YouTOme.
wait and if it doesn't come... take the test?
I'd suggest that you go buy a pregnancy test, one of the early response ones, since there's only a little over a week left this month it could tell u if you are or not already. If you can handle taking the test alone then don't tell your boyfriend. Take it see what it says and then if its negative take another test in a week or two if it still hasn't come. If you need support to buy or take the test, then I'd tell your boyfriend. Really it all depends on how u feel. Like if you feel an urge to tell him, tell him. If you don't feel like telling him don't. There's really no right or wrong thing to do. It all depends on what you, yourself are feeling.
Wait a month to be sure. False scares are common, and winter hormones can throw everything out of whack.
YouTOme has the best advice, and I can't really say anything else.
Wait a few more days and then take a pregnancy test.
The amazing thing about periods is that they have this ability to freak you the fuck out. Mine came regularly, like clockwork, for six months and then was a week late. I freaked and took a pregnancy test because I couldn't stand the waiting, and sure enough, the day after I took the test my period came.
If the test comes back pregnant, you're going to have to tell someone. Whether it be your best friend, your boyfriend, or your family, someone should know so that you can discuss your options. Someone will be there for you, but just know this - if you cannot handle the possibility of having a mini-me, perhaps you should refrain from sex until you are more emotionally (not to mention financially) capable of handling such a situation (or engage in safer sex practices).
You either wait and see if "she" comes around or go buy an early pregnancy test. Sometimes my "friend" would be delay for a month or so because of my stress or other obstacles that I'm facing.
But if I were you, I'll go buy an early pregnancy test. If it's positive, maybe the "talk" can be brought up. If not, just wait and see.
I wouldn't tell yet. Many things can cause a late period. There will be obvious signs that you're pregnant. For instance, sore boobies, cramping but no period, etc. Just wait, you'll know in time.
nah, i wouldn't freak the poor guy out with a false alarm. wait a few more days, and if it still doesn't come, you can take a pregnancy test and find out for sure. good luck! =)
"wait for a couple more days until the end of the month approaches and I
know for sure that my 'friend' has bypassed me this month?"
This would be best. It's only a few days away, and it will at least give you solid evidence of possible pregnancy.
Depends on what your plans are. Not to sound negative, but if you are pregnant, and not wanting a pregnancy, get to a doctor to verify so that you can take proper steps, but if on the other hand you welcome a pregnancy, just wait it out a while then tell him when your for sure. Thats my opinion.
why don't you just take a pregnancy test? they have ones that can detect pregnancy hormones very early on. no point in scaring him. just spend 5 minutes testing first.