Thursday, 22 January 2009
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Rekindling Former Crushes
Have you ever experienced crush renewal? A Datingish reader submitted a post about running into a guy she'd liked in 7th grade - even though it had been nearly ten years since she'd last thought about him, after she saw him again, she felt the same butterflies she'd felt before.
Have you had this happen? If you acted upon it, were you able to start fresh and forget what you were both like before?
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Yeah, I've definitely had crush renewal... We weren't really able to start fresh though... It was just kinda like, okay, I like you again but I have to not talk to you >.<
you have no idea.
Yep.. and it was sad.
I liked him (back then) but he didn't. Saw him again after a year or so, and he still didn't like me more than a friend. I was crushed but I moved on.
i've had this happen to me before. my crush was from grade 12. i saw him 2 years later and still had those butterflies. but....after a while, i figured we couldn't start anything because in those two years (probably because of university) we both had become two entirely different people with entirely different goals in life.
we BOTH changed so much that things just couldn't work than to be friends.
This has happened to me before...and it lasted a week.
There was a guy that I sort of "dated" freshman year of high school for two months, and then senior year I started to like him again. I mentioned to him about wanting to try things again, and he said okay. A week later, I remembered why I broke things off with him, and told him that maybe we were better off just being friends. It was really embarrassing to be so wishy-washy like that, but I don't think he minded much. We don't really talk much anymore.
Yep, I had something of that sort when I went back to Miami last Christmas, but I couldn't go too far because I'm now living in a different place, so I don't want her and I have this complicated feeling.
Yep! I had a crush on him my last two years of high school. Used to get all dolled up and pretty for school
. We saw eachother again 3 years later and BAM!! I got all shy and giggly all over again. haha we dated for four years though. *sigh* Good times..
Yeah, it happens. But times change, and people go with the times. Get to know each other again, and try to not to have too many expectations. Having too many expectations will do you in before you ever hit the ground. You don't have to forget where you came from, but you definitely have to look at where you are. It's not easy though...
I feel the same. My crush started in 3rd grade and we were friends at the time. My crush lasted from then to freshman year in highschool which was when we got a bit closer . In that period I was falling for her...... HARD. Sophmore year came around and I felt that she didn't like me back so we drifted apart and ignored eachother. From then on til freshman year of college I decided to talk to her by messaging her on facebook. We ended up catching up on all the years we ignored eachother and met up face to face. Little that I knew she told me how she felt about me that freshman year in highschool, how she fell hard for me and was the only guy she had butterflies for. It was wonderful listening to her just spill every thought and feelings for me. As of now we are close close friends, and we both know that we're more than "just friends". It's like fate brought us back together =)
He had a crush on me and vice versa. We dated once but it didn't work. We dated a second time and it lasted two days because he "supposedly wasn't ready for commitment." A week and a half later he was in a new relationship. Two weeks later he got out of that relationship. Another few weeks after that he had the nerve to claim he was in love with me, which he wasn't. He treated me as a backup plan for when he couldn't get anybody else and I let him have it about how I wasn't going to be treated as a backup plan for when all else fails in his love life. He never bothered again once he found out he would have to put some effort into winning my trust and me back into a relationship with him.
For me, it was a blissful moment. I have not seen my crush in years and years and years, too. He didn't even notice me back then, but now it's a different story.
I know my friends say I liked a lot of people back then, but I didn't like anyone else like I liked him, though. We fell asleep together the other night and just cuddled. I mean I could feel the sparks when we kissed, not just lust or anything. I hope he could feel something more than lust. I wasn't sure though and didn't want to bring it up seeing as we just randomly bumped into each other after not having seen each other for eons.
Yepp....Deff. had this happen to me...I have no idea where anything will lead and if he even feels the same...I suppose time will tell!
I sort of have a "lifetime" crush. I hadnt seen him in years and he suddenly pops back in town, we hang out a few times and the feelings kinda just, came back. But he ended up back with his ex girlfriend, it was nice seeing him while it lasted though.
most definitely, this actually happened to me recently, two years ago i had a thing with this guy i really liked but we ended up breaking my heart but then a couple months ago we started talking again and now we are boyfriend and girlfriend and things are absoutely wonderful!
it was the other way around, actually with this guy that liked me years ago. we didn't see each other for 3 or 4 years, then i started having classes with him and ended up seeing him everyday. we got reacquainted after an awkward reintroduction and he told me after a few weeks that he liked me again.
Yup - we crushed on each other for 7 years, on and off, every time we spoke to each other (which was between S.Os). So we liked each other since we were 18.
When we finally dated, which was recently, it was wonderfully intense but it blew up - spectacularly.
I thought he had changed signifcantly during those years, but in the end, he still had the same "fatal flaws" that he had when he was 18, to make me realize I could never be with him (unless he changed...a LOT).
Oh well. At least it went out with a bang and not a whimper. No regrets.
Hmm...not so much 'crush' as 'lovey feelings that shouldn't be existing'.
It was an awkward thing.
Why would you do that to yourself?!
Yes, but it was just a one-sided crush that went on for a good 6 years for me. He always knew that I wanted him but I know that he never had a crush on me. I just saw him a few weeks ago at a bar and talked to him for a bit. Even though I know I have zero chance with him (nor do I think he would even be a good bf), I still have the same crush on him.
whoa, this is a crazy coincidence...the other night i had a dream where i saw my crush from hs, possibly because i happened to think about her that day. (there was a particular reason for doing so btw, it's not like i've thought about her everyday for the last 5 years, lol.) when i was conscious, i figured it would be fun to see her again, and maybe even admit to her that i kind of liked her...not that she'd be surprised.
but when i woke up from my dream, thanks to my wonderful alarm clock...i was actually somewhat bothered. i don't get why.
I crushed on a guy in 5th grade then again in 10th grade but in 11th grade he crushed me. :\
It always happens to me with this one guy I know. He was one of my first major crushes and I suspected he liked me too but he had a 'serious' girlfriend at the time so nothing could happen. After a while, I didn't see him for a while so I forgot about him, but those rare times I actually do bump into him, all the crush-like feelings comes rushing back. Only with him, never really with the other crushes. I don't know what it is about him.
no, if it didn't happen then, most likely it won't happen now. why waste the time?
D:
I think I have had that in high school but never acted upon it. I think it's for the best, cause things are better the way they are now.
OK I'm kinda still young I'm 18 and when i was freshmen i had a crush on this guy who went out with the girl I did not like and I was so upset and we kinda stopped hanging out but over the summer we started hanging out all the time and now I think I'm falling for him again. He's a sweet guy, he brings my homework when I'm home sick, he gives me rides home when I need them. He listens when I need to talk or if I'm upset he comes over and lets me vent. It's hard not to fall for him all over.
Then there's another guy, who I don't know why I crush over him, he's a jerk. I think because before he started acting like a jerk he was the sweetest guy I knew. Then one day he says that he hates me and now I see him every once in awhile and I remember him being sweet. I like to think we have a love-hate relationship because i hate him and at the same time I adore him