Thursday, 22 January 2009

  • Laughter Is The Best Pickup Line

    This is a guest blog submitted by MyxlDove.

    So I was at a birthday party the other day and I was talking to one of my close female friends. Now, she happens to be one of those just pretty-without-trying kind of women, which means that she's approached by interested and hopeful men on a regular basis. On this particular occasion, she was telling me about how frustrating it has been for her to have guys hit on her who come with these offensively outdated pick-up lines and seem to have a utter lack of creativity. Someone else at the party asked her what would she actually respond to, and she thought for a moment.

    I looked at her and told her that I probably have an idea. She smiled and gave me the "go for it" glance. I said that knowing her as long as I have, I would guess that the way to get her attention is to make her laugh. To approach her with simple, humor laced conversation completely void of any expectation of anything more. She looked at me with a sudden realization and nodded in agreement. Then she sighed because it hadn't happened yet, and she was doubtful it would any time soon.

    So...come to find out that she enjoys a man who's funny, but has an intelligent wit about him. I wonder how many other women would go for that.

    Hmm... I guess laughter really does overcome many obstacles, including rejection.

    Are you attracted to people who can make you laugh? What is it about a sense of humor that's so alluring? 

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Comments (44)

  • SerenaDante@xanga

    For sure! But then again, I'm the kind of person that laughs at about anything and I'm usually laughing... So I guess it depends on the guy.
  • jc_freedom@xanga

    unforunately im dont have a very good sense of humor. =S
  • TheKiwiIntoxication@xanga

    yes laughter is key.
  • turtletastic

    heck yes! a sense of humor is practically number one on my list of attractive things in a guy. i mean, if a guy can make me laugh, he's already above a more physically attractive boring guy.

    when you're laughing, you're happy, and you're smiling. facial feedback theory says that if you're smiling, even if you're not that happy, you'll start to feel happier. so... in general if he makes you laugh, it generally means he makes you happy. what else could you want in a guy?
  • wave_of_frequency@xanga

    It's a sense of joy and an added bonus onto other things, I suppose.
  • fatal_mess@xanga

    Laughter is what catches my attention. I can tell when a guy is trying to make me laugh... and it's when he succeeds and is cute about it is when he gets my attention! But when he's trying to hard and I find him not funny and annoying - it's just simpy that: annoying. My current boyfriend caught my attention simply by being himself, though. We'd known OF each other for months and finally during our first conversation (months later of orignally meeting) laughter struck from both sides with no intention of wooing each other. During our first group date, alcohol was involved and he accidently pulled the fire alarm in my apartment complex.... and it made me LAUGH so hard as we ran to take cover in fear of getting in trouble. The first time I went to his house to "hang out" we fell asleep in his bed watching a movie, only to wake up the next morning, realizing we'd fallen asleep, and facing his mother for the first time (GREAT way to meet the parents). and we LAUGHED about it. We still laugh about those times together and we're always LAUGHING with each other and at each other - laughter is food for the soul - it's needed in our daily lives. It releases fear, tension, stress, anger, and all other forms of pain. Laughter is also a great way to bond with any type of relationship. If you can't laugh, you can't live... or love.
  • wave_of_frequency@xanga

    hmfp.
  • christinajeanne@xanga

    I've always been attracted to men that make me laugh. There is something about a sense of humor that really helps uplift you and then I can smile. lol. Laughing makes people feel relaxed and when you are not as nervous you can actually have a good conversation and get to know someone beyond there looks. 
  • MaximMan@xanga

    my accomplishments with women are directly correlated to how much I can make her laugh...


    that's why i'm still single.


    damn it, I suck at this game.

  • Broken_Beautiful@xanga

    Humor--all forms--is one of the key things I look for in a guy.  I want a guy who can make me smile when I'm happy, sad, or in some other mood.  I want a guy that knows how to get a genuine laugh from me.  I want a guy that appreciates my own sarcasm.  :p  Luckily, I have a guy like that...sorta.


    :e)
  • You_See_Flowers_in_These_Weeds@xanga

    Humor can be very subjective; what one person finds funny someone else could find completely offensive or gross or just plain annoying. So, while humor is key, I think what you said after that is also really important, humor that is "completely void of any expectation of anything more." Because without that part, it's just annoying.

    But then again, what do I know?
  • UnVolume@xanga

    Things would be so boring if the person you were with didn't make you laugh, right? Everyone says they want someone with a sense of humor but it also depends on the kind of sense of humor. While making an ass of yourself might get some laughs, I'm not attracted to that. It just reminds me of the class clown in middle school (who happened to make a joke about my name that wasn't even funny)
  • smile@revelife

    =)
    when they make you laugh, everything else goes away, stress, anger, tension...anything =)

    my boyfriend always makes me laugh...even when I'm mad, he'll make me laugh...and then...I'm not mad anymore... =)
    or considerably less mad if I was SUUUUUPER mad =P
  • College_Ruled11X85@xanga

    yea im attracted to people who make me laugh, but they cant be too goofy, and if they;re unattractive physically, then we're just friends. but if he's sexy and funny, then he's attractive.


    also if a man in intellectual. i think that's sexy. especially if he doesnt look like the typical smart guy in nerd clothes. if he's laid back and smart i think that is so attractive.


    another thing is mystery. if he hides all his emotions and expression it makes me want to approach him. it sets a challenge for me to learn about him what he wouldnt normally share with others. the ability to make him smile or reveal himself would make my day
  • awokenfatality@xanga

    They need to make me laugh. A sense of humor shows someone that's not so uptight, can enjoy life and have a good time.
  • MusingsOfAnAlmostSocio@xanga

    Humor is good. I prefer wit over jokes though. I tend to be better in small intimate groups than large ones because of it. Wit means very little in a big group. But then again, I'm coming from the standpoint of being witty. Though, I'd definitely say a girl who can be witty is pretty awesome. So yeah, goes both ways. 
  • jeezshoua@xanga

    Laughing breaks the ice most of the time.  :D
  • Shy___Away@xanga

    I fucking laugh at everything. Ah well.


    Humor is alluring because it gives the impression that both people are at ease in the situation. Even if they aren't the impression is key, and eventually, it will morph into true ease. Hooray for ice breakers!
  • Song__Writer@xanga

    hurray for laughter and wit!
    :D
  • daenglisch

    Your SO has to be able to make you laugh, right?
    Because, otherwise, you'll be spending a lot of your time with one person only to find out that you're really just bored. No good, I'm guessing.

    No expectations. I think this is key, because if they tell you a joke in attempts to make you laugh with the intention on just getting your number/taking you home, they're just stinking annoying.
  • spidergrass@xanga

    I'm probably the only girl I know that doesn't put "a good sense of humor" on her list of things a guy absolutely must have. Of course, I wouldn't want to date a guy that was serious 100% of the time, but I need to date guys that are mostly serious to balance out my fun-loving nature. Otherwise, nothing would get done! Haha.
  • coolmonkey@xanga

    If she digs you, she'd be laughing at your jokes anyway whether she thinks you're funny or not.
  • GiantUnicorn@xanga

    if you can make me laugh without seeming creepy. Who have won me over. Fer sure!
    I need laughter, because I laugh everyday about the stupidest things, but thats when I'm alone, so when I'm with someone you better be able to make me laugh.
    Or I'm gonna lose interest
    haha
    see I laugh
  • pbriggs@xanga

    Yes I love a guy that makes me laugh! To me it opens up a whole different feeling about that person. I guess that's why its sooo alluring.  
  • Spyder_V@xanga

    That's the approach I always take. Pick-up lines are truly terrible and should only be used as jokes, never in a serious attempt to meet someone (IMO).

    I always just casually approach and start a fun-filled and humorous conversation without much hope or care, and if I see interest or potential, I turn it to flirt.

    Humor and casual approaches are best!

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