Wednesday, 21 January 2009
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How Fast Do You Go with Your BF/GF?
This is a guest blog submitted by sWtLiLdEvIl137.How fast do you go with your boyfriends or girlfriends? It's a question that's popped up in my mind several times, especially since the beginning of my own current relationship.
I mean, you know in all those teenage movies or books, all these teens are constantly hooking up and sexing it up and stuff, but it's different in my world. I know some people who just hold hands for the first month of their relationship, yet I actually do know some people who would, um, "do it" the night they were given any attention by whomever they happened to be crushing on.
So, I present this question to all of you: How fast do YOU go with your significant others?
I'll be the first to admit that I move pretty quickly in relationships...although it more or less depends on what my boyfriend at the time is comfortable with.
Eh. Any thoughts, guys?
ed's note to inevitable comments from grammar police: my inner grammar whore cringes at "how fast do you go" but it's the colloquial phrase, you know what I mean?
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Lol I went pretty fast. Yep.
i go faster than i should, resulting in me changing my mind sporadically. in my current relationship, though, things are going great at this pace. or maybe it's because he's deployed in fallon for 3 weeks? *fingers crossed
My girlfriend and I went pretty fast. We already "did it" after one week of being together. She initiated it, however, not me. But, I go with whatever is comfortable with her.
it depends on who im with and how they feel about me, if theyre confident enough, etc. like i wont pressure her or anything into having sex. say we started flirting, touching each other a little bit every now and then, ill just go with the flow. but i guess it really depends on if you truly love the person youre with and how much lust you have for them. but thats just me
I've moved very fast in the past, but I waited longer with my current boyfriend. We've been together pretty happily for two years, so I'd have to say it worked out pretty well.
Damn, havent you heard of "good things come to those who wait"?!?!?! I'd take it slow. That way you guys get the chance to get to know one another on a deeper level before jumping into something serious right off the bat. But again, whatever you two are comfortable with. I'm old, so I can only take it slow lol jk :P
I say go as fast as you are comfortable with. It's different for everyone. And just because you sleep with the person the first night doesn't make you a slut.
Oi, editor - I was so gonna turn on the sirens!
Sometimes, colloquialism = ftmfl.
Whatever is comfortable for the both people.
I was pretty fast with my boyfriend. We started dating when we were 15 (so five years) and so fast for us meant groping, which we did the first week we were together. We waited about 11 months to have sex though, because we were each other's first.
Everyone works differently. It doesn't mean that if things aren't happening fast enough will mean that you're with the wrong person. I think we live in an instant gratification world, where we want everything right now, right here, and stacked. So sometimes it's natrual relationship moves really fast. But being slow doesn't mean it's wrong either way.
Of course, that's not what your blog is about, but I just thought to state my point anyways.
I think being patient has it's advantage, infacuations can be a really evil thing. If it's true love, the feeling should stick around. =)
You know what, I actually went pretty slow with my first few relationships. However, as time went on I noticed I've gone faster w/o realizing it.
When i met my boyfriend i was "resaving" myself lol for someone i really really liked so before him it was about 3 yrs since i had sex...
I met him we were friends for a while and i just knew once we started going out we were gonna stay together for a long time.. i seriously knew it! everyone tells me I'm crazy but i remember telling my friends we would..
so we went fast had sex within a month of dating
and next month itll be 4 years we are still together
About 54 seconds.
Oh, wait...you didn't mean THAT kind of fast...
I guess you could say that me and my current boyfriend moved pretty fast, but we're not in the same situation as a normal couple. With him being in the military and only being able to see him about 3 times a year, we kind of have to shovel like a whole year into a week when we get to finally see each other.
yea, the phrase is funny, haha...but it depends on however long it takes to fall in love and be able to trust the guy.
I went pretty fast with my husband. About a week or two after we met we were hooking up (no intercourse), and then about a week or two after that the "I love you"s flew, then a few weeks after that we were "official" and did the dirty do (he was my first)...and a little over a year and a half later we're married.
depends on the guy but id like to move it quickly
i've only been to first base (on the french-feel-finger-fuck scale) and it's been relatively slow i suppose. i haven't liked anyone else enough to feel comfortable doing anything more with them
Now that we have two little kids, the wife and I don't go anywhere at all!!!
ssssssssslllllllllllllllllooooooooooooowwwwwwwww very very slow
Depends on the guy. If I like him we usually move pretty quickly.
It depends on what I am comfortable with. My last boyfriend I went super slow with him because I didn't trust him much (and much to my surprise I was right.). The boyfriend I have now though, most would say we move fast. I honestly don't think so. We are just going at our own pace.
well. I loved my boyfriend for three months before we actually started dating. but I was in an unhappy relationship, it was complicated etc.
we kissed right after I broke up with my previous boyfriend... I never cheated on him.
took maybe a month or so to get into actual sexual stuff... it was just kind of foreign at first because he was my best friend for a long time and I hadn't seen that side of him.
it took us seven months and a LOT of discussion before we had sex. we were very communicative and cautious about it because we didn't want to screw anything up between us... I love him far too much for that and we decided we would refuse to let sex have a negative affect on our relationship. we waited until it was just the right time and both of us wanted it... no pressure from either party, no expectations of making it happen. just waited until it felt right... and when it did happen, it was fantastic.
I generally try and wait 4 months into the relationship to have sex. I don't know if that is slow or fast, but yeah. Like I mean, it depends on how much I trust the person.