Tuesday, 20 January 2009
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What to Expect When You're Dating
This is a guest blog submitted by Power_Ranger_Freak.I was having a conversation with my Xanga friend icicle84 the other day; he mentioned something along the lines of, "I really want a super hot girlfriend with 'nice features.'" This comment inspired the following blog.
A lot of single people seem to believe that the one thing that will truly make them feel good/happy /better about themselves/not suicidal is having a significant other. I used to feel the same way. I assure you that for years I was the single guy who thought, "If I only had a girlfriend, then everything else would just be perfect." I could see us walking through the park holding hands, writing our names on the sand at the beach, making out reading poetry for hours on end, and just generally feeling the warm fuzzy feelings all the time. Then something happened to change all of that. I got a girlfriend.
Now, the thing about being in a relationship is that it's not all warm fuzzies. It's not all happy feelings and sunshine and sugarplum fairies. There is actually a lot of work that goes into a relationship. You have to remember dates, buy gifts, go hang out with them instead of watching '80s martial arts movies until 3:00 in the morning with your friends, etc. At first, you won't notice it. You'll probably even want to spend all of your time with your SO, but eventually, you'll realize just how much work goes into this thing.
Here are some real life examples of things you will be doing in your relationship:
1) Talking - Yes. You'll be talking. I know you think your lips will be spending the majority of the time kissing, but it's just not true. Your SO will want to talk about their feelings, their family, their future, their friends, their first kiss and a lot of other things you won't really want to hear about. They'll also want to know all of these things about you.
2) Arguing - Unfortunately, when people talk, they usually end up arguing. So be prepared to fight a lot. Be prepared to lose a lot of those fights. In fact, you may end up throwing quite a few fights just to keep the peace. You'll argue about everything. I've had a pretty intense argument about Power Rangers before (no, this was not with TheBigShowAtUD. We never officially dated).
3) Sickness - Inevitably, your hunny bunny will get sick, and you will spend hours taking care of them. I once drove a roommate to the grocery store at 2 a.m. to buy juice for his sick girlfriend. Another time, I spent five days on my mother-in-law's couch while my fiancée was being checked out by specialists for some still undiagnosed condition.
4) Relatives - Now, due to the fact that my blog is viewed by certain people I know IRL who may or may not fall into this category, I'm going to make this one short and sweet. You will meet their family. It will be awkward. You may not get along with their family as well as you would hope. You will then have to do this over and over again for the duration of the relationship.
5) Exes - Before you dated your Honey Bunches of Love, they were someone else's *insert pet name here*. You will hear about this person. You will hear about this person/these people a lot! At one point, my mother called my wife by the name of an ex-girlfriend. It was a major *facepalm* moment. She still married me though! Yay!
You will sometimes feel like you are being compared to an ex. If you feel like that, you probably are being compared to an ex.
I hope that this short list provides you with some insight into what you will have to deal with when you meet your Sweetest of Hearts.
That being said, you will still get to make out with them. Maybe it's worth it after all. You be the judge, but please, take all of this into consideration.
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Comments (66)
don't forget mass confusion.
and the fact that despite being a great communicator;
mixed messages will surface.
haha;
but sometimes;
relationships aren't too bad.
you pretty much nailed it with those points.
i agree with you, those are true but it's so worth it in the end.
For # 1)
What's so bad about "They'll also want to know all of these things about you. " Does it matter? In a relationship, COMMUNICATION IS KEY. So dickhead, if you just want to make out -- get a buddy.
For #2)
Not ALL relationships are like that..meaning, there are ISSUES in yours that you better fix.
For #3)
When you take care of someone who is sick..Omg, it means you care about them.
For #4)
Be yourself - if you're comfortable with her - try to be comfortable with your SO'S family. CAUSE my ex's family sure LOVES me.
Still.
For #5)
Oh god..YOUR WIFE??? and you're talking about her like.. a freshman girlfriend?? -_-
Idk if this is just a sarcastic post..it was pretty dumb dumb.
nice!
Lol, nice. -Jots this down on a piece of paper- xD
lol i like!
true. story.
nothing is perfect & i don't "need" someone to complete i just "want" someone.
are you serious? this is on Revelife?
uh, i don't date power rangers. well, maybe the yellow ranger. she was ok.
@TheBigShowAtUD@xanga - haha. Which yellow ranger?
The way I see it, we feel depressed when single as a form of biology, to keep the species alive. If we felt good not being in a relationship, why would we ever be in one? Besides that longing feeling, we would be fine without one. We wouldn't need to give and receive love in order to live, but that's not how humans were designed.
@immaairheadxl@xanga - It's just a post and he's just stating his opinion in a none rude way. Relax.
Wow, I think if I made one of these types of posts--I'd attack just communication and trust.
Nice thoughts but they don't really apply to everybody or enough.
@immaairheadxl@xanga - Calling him a dickhead was pretty rude.
@TheBigShowAtUD@xanga - I liked the pink one, Kimberly, back in the day. haha
@UnVolume@xanga - It's a dickhead thing to say.
@naguyin@xanga - the asian one. the original yellow ranger, i think. i forget, now, what she looked like, but i remember thinking she was date-worthy a long time ago.
@awokenfatality@xanga - I am chill..but he's married -- and he really shouldn't degrade his rela like that .
I think, it's better if you're single???
@immaairheadxl@xanga - wtf are you getting all mad for? He's just giving advice, relax.
@morbidlywonderful@xanga - Dude. hahahhaa, I'm not even getting all mad. But these are the most retarded advice..ever.
@immaairheadxl@xanga - It's a dickhead thing to say a relationship is more than just the physical things when a lot of times women complain that all men want to do is get in their pants? It doesn't change the fact that you insulted him. If you disagree with him that's fine, but there are other ways of getting that across besides calling names.
@morbidlywonderful@xanga - yeah, but she reminded me of Kelly from Saved By the Bell. and i liked Lisa. haha.
@immaairheadxl@xanga - it's a little lighthearted humor poking fun at relationships; take it with a grain of salt.
@morbidlywonderful@xanga - Ah, this is why datingish has stupid posts.
I don't think I'd be so please if my man ever said something like that about I. Whoooooooo.
@UnVolume@xanga - Haha, I still think it's a dickheaded thing to say.
@TheBigShowAtUD@xanga - Yeah, that was the original one.
@morbidlywonderful@xanga - Whoo! Kimberly. :)
@TheBigShowAtUD@xanga - you know, I never thought of that until I pictured them both in my mind. They do remind me of each other lol
@immaairheadxl@xanga - yeah, it does have stupid posts a lot of the time, that's kinda why I stopped taking them too seriously, not that I really took them seriously in the first place lol